I am beginning to hate him?

Question

I am begining to hate him a lot... I have never hated a child as much as I am begining to hate him. Sounds awful I know, but once you read my story you will understand how I feel. He is realyl skecthy and wierd... and no he doesnt have any health issues trust me... but whenever my mom helps him with his homework and he can't do it right he starts getting angry with her and blames her for his problems. Then he starts telling my mom he hates her and that he is oging to run away. My mom keeps sendin him to bed, but he keeps getting back up and telling her off. Today he went to the bathroom and all I told him was to wash his hands. He screamed at the top of his lungs and told me to go away. He did this repeatedly for a while. Then we got into a fight, because I am 16 I can't hit him to hard. Sometimes I want to, but that would kill him. When we fight he always says he is going to stab me, slit my throat, or call the cops. Then he says he wishes I was buried in a tombstone. Whats up that?

I mean the kid has no problem telling me and my mom off. Yet he is absoluteley afriad of my dad and will not tell him off, and when his friends mess with him he does not tell them off and he acts afraid of them. Which is peculiar because if he tries to fight me a 16 year old he should be afaird of taking on kids his age. Yet he always tells me i my face when he is angry that he wants me dead. Yet he says in whispers in my room that he hates my mom. He is very strange... and when he screams I dunno its like a shriek you hear when someone is about to die... It sends s shiver though you. I am not trying to sounds creepy, but its true sometimes its like he is possesed. Sometimes he is really happy and other times he is realyl angry and curses me and my mom out...

Ya, but my mom will put up with it but i won't. I had to choke the to kid to make him calm down and stop striking me. And I had to ram his head into the toy box to make him stop trying to him me in balls... I don't take any nonsense from him but he keeps pushing his luck wtih me. I do not want to kill the kid...

My mom does not need to step it up. She smacks him with a belt when he needs it still doesn't work and he tried to run away in the dark 9he was only kidding) So my mom kikcked him out on the steps in the dark and locked the dorr for 5 minutes he deserved it he is just persistent.

Thank you everyone. (To the 3rd replier): We share a room, I just don't wantto leave, beause that will jsut show that he has power over me and that would be bad if he thought that at a young age. So instead I fight him. He is probably the worst child my mom and dad has raised by far. My sister used to act like him, but she was 17 when she started her behavior... and now she is 25 and in a shelter... My older brother never did any of that stuff he was well behaved... as for me I am an A/B honoroll student.

Answer 1

Sounds like a real phyco path to me! I know you can't really hit a kid when your 16, and not their parent, but this kid sounds like he needs it. For saying that kind of stuff to you and your mom, he deserves to get a smack on the butt. You've just got to ignore his stupid threats and stuff, because hes a little kid, and sounds like he's just full of himself, and needs to get a reality check. No offence, but if your brother, i'm guessing, is this bad now, its probubly because your mom gave up on disiplining him because she doesn't want to fight with him. But she needs to step it up, and when he screams and has retarded little fits, then she needs to pretty much give him a good smack and send him to his room. No child should ever talk to him family like that. Especially when he's this young. But if there is nothing your mom can do, then it might be a good idea to call the super nanny into your house or something, because if he's this bad now, he's just going to get worse when he goes through puberty and stuff. Also, you might want to keep an eye on what he watches on tv. Because if he's watching bad stuff on tv that is not appropriate for his age, then hes probubly going to say that kind of stuff. So you should block his favorite channels, and pretty much ban him from tv for a while, and see if he acts diffrently after a while. Good luck!

Answer 2

yeah my brother started that when he turned 11 and my mom took away all his electronical stuff even the computer and told him to get his act together. And he said he was going to run away and faked it and my mom did the same thing kicked him out.

The part about how this kid says he wants to kill you, he can take anger management for kids or teens cause he sounds like he is a angry kid

Answer 3

Your mom is the only one who can determine how much abuse she is willing to take from your brother, who seems to have some emotional problems. At some point, she is going to have to instill some fear into him with a belt across his rear.

Your brother probably needs some counseling of some sort. Maybe he is being bullied at school and he is acting out on that. Is he experimenting with drugs? At any rate, he and your parents need to sit down and really have a discussion about what is really going on in his little life, and to spell out the rules of the household. If your parents can't get some basic rules of conduct across to him now, and get him under control now, things will only get worse.

Perhaps your parents should consider getting him into a tutoring program like "Kumon" or something like that. He might respond to study skills taught by an objective professional.

About all you can do is subtract yourself from the situation as much as possible. When he acts up, your tell him that you will have nothing to do with him, then leave the room. Go to your room, or go to a friend's house to study. Spend more time at extracurricular activities or get a job... any legitimate excuse to stay out of the house. Just make sure your keep your grades up and do your chores to stay out of trouble.

If he acts out by getting into your stuff, you need to buy a keyed lock for either your bedroom or closet door (make a safe out of your closet) to keep him out.

Answer 4

Inferiority Complex? Maybe he knows that his friends at school won't put up with that behavior, and neither will his dad, hence the fact that he is afraid around them. Perhaps he sees you and his mother as being people that will put up with him, and people he can vent his fustrations on, which could be why he treats you both the way he does. He knows you won't hurt him.