I just learned that the twin girls I raised were not mine, I am heart broken. How do I cope? Only positive advice please.
2007-10-24 15:26:21 · 5 answers · asked by Jon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The girls are only 3 and they are moving out of the country in a month or so. She originally said that I was the only person that could be the father. but When I questioned her about it after i knew the results, she admitted that she was with someone else. I have been taking care of them since They were about 1 because she travels alot with her job. She says I should move with her and we can start over. Sound good right? Well the last 2 time she went off to "work", she hooked up with other guys. I feel betrayed because in a way i have ben there for them more than she has and I now know that they are not mine biologically. I love them to death and would do anything for them- But where do i go from here?
I have 2 terrific kids biologically and I need to figure out a way to deal with this situation so that I can be a better parent to them, but I am so upset I don't know what to do.
2007-10-24 15:48:21 · update #1
You raised them so be proud that you raised them right. If they don't know your aren't their dad then just let it be and let them think you are.
2007-10-24 15:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by ziggy_brat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sucks... the whole situation. I know a guy who is in the same situation. I told him forever to trust his instincts, but sometimes love is blind. And, he loved those children sometimes more than his two that he was sure about, I think!
I say that you should give yourself space and time. Love the girls from a distance. They know you love them, they love you and I am sure the Mom is very sorry. I would hope so. Ii would giveyou the same advice I would give him and it is to go on with your life. The girls are leavign the country and unless you are going with them, let it go now. They are still really young. I think you need to allow yourself to grieve and not beat yourself up.
Only time will tell, but now the best thing to do is get your heart back together and focus on your two other children.
Good Luck (sounds like you will need it).
Take Care!
2007-10-24 16:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Cejae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax! Although, there are not ur kids but look at them. You treated them as if they were yours! Look,to them you are their dad! You fed them, love them,shelter them and make them smile. You were there when they were cryin not their real dad. You made them smile in their hardest time! Even if you are not their biological dad, you are their dad that raised them up!
So they'll appreciate you when they grow up not their biological dad.
Now, look at them. Are wonderfully brought up?? If they are, you have raised 2 wonderful children on earth. That's great!!
So smile, god will also smile sayin you've been a good parent so relax.
People tend to respect people who brought them up instead of the people who gave birth to them!
2007-10-24 15:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sakura Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real dad is the one who currently loves them, and treats them as daughters. Do you love them?
2007-10-24 15:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah actually they are yours.You were the ONLY father they ever knew and you loved as if they were your own flesh and blood.They ARE your daughters.I bet they love you too.
2007-10-24 15:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋