i can i let them nowthat it was someone in my family without feeling so guilty he has two kids and i dont want to mess up the life. it was like i didnt think he would ever do some thing like that his wife just passed away and i thought he was better then that and now i dont know what to do
2007-10-23 06:45:08 · 14 answers · asked by angelbicth234 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I have grave concerns for the children in the home. Remember rape isn't about sex; it is about violence and if he showed that poor of impulse control and that poor of judgment with you, what may he do to the children?
Instead of worrying about protecting this man, I think you have to take steps to protect his children, make sure he doesn't hurt anyone else and that he gets the help he may need.
He chose to do to you what he did, not you and now he will have to deal with the repercussions of those actions.
Take care of yourself too. See a counselor, one that deals with violence against women. It will help.
Good Luck!
2007-10-23 07:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how old you are. If you're in school, go to the school counselor. If you're out of school, call a rape crisis center. You must tell someone. If you don't, you will forever be haunted by the experience and he will have gotten away with it. Your healing can begin now. If this had happened to your Mother or your sister, I feel certain that you wouldn't let it pass because of his feelings. He needs help and so do you. Go get it NOW.
2007-10-23 06:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Laura G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just come out and say who it was to whomever you told, it isn't like they're going to let the guy do it to you again, so you shouldn't have anything to fear. Take time to let yourself heal from this terrible experience and get back on your feet. Know that you HAVE to tell someone because this is against the law and wrong. The faster that you get yourself to open up to what happened the faster he can be dealt with with the law and not hurt anyone again....
2007-10-23 07:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey this dude obviously has some serious problems. I understand that it's the kids you're worried about but don't be. They can go to a grandma or someone who loves them, they DO NOT need to be raised by this freak. You'd actually be doing them a favour. Can you imagine growing up and finding out you were raised by a rapist?
2007-10-23 07:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell because if he did it to you then he will do it again to another. Do you want to let it go so another person can be hurt. So he is family, does it give the okay to rape you and it be okay with it cause it was family? Bullsh**!! Rape is rape!! No matter who it is or was! Crime is a crime. If you don't tell then you have to carry it for the rest of your life.
2007-10-23 06:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Wrinkle 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's hard when its someone in your family.
but if his wife is gone, he may do it to the kids, especially if he thinks it's ok to do it to someone in the family.
tell someone in your family who you are close to, maybe your mom or an aunt. and ask them for advice.
keep in mind it may split your family up and some may not believe you, if you have evidence, just go to the ER, and they may be able to help assist you with the law enforcement.
2007-10-23 06:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) go to the police and report it
2) go get some counseling
This is NOT your problem. Its his. YOU are not guilty (unless you were dancing nakid in front of him or something.. then the whole rape thing could be called into question...
2007-10-23 06:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to the police. You are not taking care of YOURSELF if you don't.
Feeling sorry for a rapist is not healthy, at all! the man has issues and is probably ill. Rape is a crime and it's NOT about sex... it's about control and anger.
Please protect yourself from another rape, and protect OTHER girls from him by reporting him to the police.
I don't care if his wife just died... that is no excuse to commit the crime of rape against an innocent person.
2007-10-23 06:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i understand where you are coming from. like everyone has told me, you need to let everyone know. he has children? what if it was/did happen to them? you need to not feel guilty about anything, you did nothing wrong. did you say stop or no? if yes, then it was rape TELL SOMEONE ASAP
2007-10-23 08:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by jess s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe you need to report it. You will never have closure if you don't, and the man is a risk to others. It is extremely rare for a rapist to act out only once. I am sorry this happened to you. Accept no responsibility for this.
2007-10-23 06:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by Greg H 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋