Family - October 2007

My mother in law got along great until a last week. I guess It started about a month ago when my mother moved in with my mother in law they live 5 minutes away. Well went to a harvest party at my mother in laws work and one of the guys that she works with grabbed the back of my head with both hands and was trying to kiss me. I said no but I couldnt move my head and so he kissed me and stuck his tongue in my mouth and then left. So I told my mother in law and she said nothing. Well the next day my husband new something was wrong with me. After a lot of arguing I told him. So he got mad and went to my mother in laws work. My mother in law and her boss and my mom were sitting there having supper and I guess he was really angry. I got a phone call from her 5 min later yelling at me for telling him what happened.She called me yelling at me for telling my husband and her boss yelled in the background tell her to shut her mouth. So I swore at her and hung up and have not talked to her since.

2007-10-23 06:29:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, i'm Billie.
I am using this emai because i honestly don't have one.
I have a serious problem
My father has been having some serious issues as of lately.
He won't let me go anywhere or talk to anyone outside of school.
((which is where i am now))
i'm 17 i think i should at least have some freedom!!
He even took my car away.
Could this be because i'm getting closer to the age in which i'll be leaving home?

2007-10-23 06:27:38 · 28 answers · asked by Mercedes M 1

Half of my bonus was spent on paying debts and buying my mom plane tickets so she can go back to our home country to resolve some family problems. Her allowance will also be pulled from a large portion of the bonus that was left. Only a small amount of money will be saved for me once I buy a plane ticket too. I'm going home to see that special person i've not seen for years. Should I just drop the idea of me going back home to enjoy the bonus i received from enlisting in the military or should I just give everything to my mom to ease everyone's mind?

2007-10-23 06:13:27 · 8 answers · asked by Airman Squid 1

are just huge it seems like and everyone loves to know all about them, it drives me crazy that i have to be perfect, exspeacily when you are from a crazy wealthy family that everyone hates! i'm not like them at all and i feel like i'm just a huge ***** but i'm not! what can i do...

2007-10-23 06:12:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was 13 and my sister was 11 my mother walked out the door and never came back. There was no explanation and a lot of hurt was caused. My dad brought me up and when I was 18 I fell pregnant I felt my mum should know so I told her and we started a relationship again. The rest of the family didn't understand why I let her back into my life and I was the only one who spoke to her. I am now 22 and recently had my daughter in hospital and my mum came. When we got out we took my daughter to burger king and my mum went crazy at me because there was ice in her coke. I seriously believe she has mental problems as she does things like this quite a lot and it's hard to tolerate her but I usually try to ignore it. This time I said I was more worried about the health of my daughter than ice in her coke and she hadn't even said she didn't want any. She stormed out again. Then she emailed me a few months later asking to see my kids so I let her come over. I was recently in hospital

2007-10-23 06:03:30 · 11 answers · asked by Jen . 3

I have been with my fiance for 2 in a half years and we got engaged this last march and we are planning to get married april next year... my parents were happy at first.. then all the sudden they changed their mind and wanted us to wait.. and now less then 6 months left to go she is wanting us to wait until 2009... just to make sure this is really what we want... and now she is telling me they wont go unless its in 2009.. and starting a whole bunch of stuff, i kind of feel like its my choice and she should stand behind me in whatever choice i make...am i wrong for feeling this way??

2007-10-23 06:00:49 · 12 answers · asked by Kaley 2

My bf and i have been together for almost 5 yrs his mother sends him nasty emails about my mother and my family..shes american/ white and shes has a very closed mind..im cambodian so with that my mother is very into her dreams meaning things blah blah my bfs mother thinks my mom is wierd because she doesnt do or think the way that my bfs mom does..she says in her emails that my mom is wierd and negleted us as kids!..yeah that really pissed me off because my bf (justin) was basically raised by his father untill he left and now shes in the picture so wtf is she talking about? what should i say to her or do about it? shes always down'ing my family..? it really upsets me

2007-10-23 05:44:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 14yr old step daughter. She lives with her father and me. Just this year she stopped talking to me. She tells her mother everything and she tells us nothing. We ask her questions like do you have a boyfriend? She say's no and walks away to call her mom and tell her all about the boy's she like. She does this so I can hear her. I feel like she does this purposly to hurt me. She has always been a good kid with straight A's and almost alway's very respectful. She is not rude to me but it hurts my feeling that she won't talk to me. She gives one word answers basically saying "I have nothing to say to you" in a very sweet voice. Does that sound strange to anyone? or is it just me overreacting? Her father and I have told her a few times she can always come to us for anything and we will do our best to help. She say's "OK" (very sweetly of course) and never talks about anything with us. What should I do.

2007-10-23 05:39:41 · 6 answers · asked by TKPBG 1

I'm 23 years old and currently living out of the country. I just found out that where I'm living will be charging me a rent (it was contracted to be free). Most of the time, I am at my boyfriend's anyways since my room doesn't have a kitchen, i can't have guests, the bathroom facilities are in the hall etc.
I want to leave where I'm living now and move in with my boyfriend. (The rent I would be paying for my room is about equivalent to half of my boyfriend's rent). I'm afraid afraid afraid to tell my very conservative, Catholic parents. I don't want to lie to them either. I'm very responsible, never gotten into trouble, have a job, and will one day marry my boyfriend (right now it's a question of money).
Therefore, if you were my parent, would you want to know the truth even if it hurt, or would you rather still think I'm "mommy/daddy's little girl"? (If you want the truth, how would you prefer I break it to you?)

2007-10-23 05:39:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son is 15 and cares about absolutely nothing. He has been a manipulative charmer since he was a toddler. He simply refuses to do tasks (eg. homework) and simply takes whatever punishments given to him. We can strip his room of everything but his mattress and clothes, take away access to tv, phone, or any friends, and we can give him chores as punishment until the end of time. We have no other options other than beatings, which we of course are not going to do. I personally think he is a sociopath.

His mother and I sent him to a military boarding school for high school so they could "break" his will and make him conform. However, they find themselves having a kid who just won't do anything - give him pushups, marching in the rain, whatever. He just doesn't care.

He has been examined for depression - no. Psychiatrists have even become frustrated to where they don't even want to deal with him because he is such a headache.

Anyone else seen this? We are at our wits end

2007-10-23 05:34:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm divorced, have this boy and a girl, 12, both great kids. I make good money, but my life is somewhat messy, I'm involved with other women, so I'm frequently in the red. Last week I needed some cash and knew my boy had some money, so In asked him $200, said it was to buy some medicines. Since he's a sweetheart he lent me $300, all the money he had, and was very happy he could help me. Since I didn't sat when I''d pay him, he said no proble, it's with you, it's with God and gave me a big hug. But I had a different perspective and spent the money with a woman. God was mean to me and the boy found out. He got devastated, not mad or angry, but sad, disappointed. He's a very responsible student but the next day her couldn't get uo to go to school. I promised him in about 2 months I'll give him $600, promised a new ipod, a top line cell phone, but didn't work, his spirit is broken. His mom got to know and imagine what she said to me. Isn't he overreacting? what do I do now?

2007-10-23 05:12:48 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have had a TBI and live with an abusive husband that would rather do drugs and not pay anyh bills or buy food. I need alttle bit more of mentoring help to find afordable housing and or such things like that. I have called all the shelters and government agencies and they are of no help because they do not understand brain damaged people. Their services don[t help peoples like me. Earlier I posted a question and all people told me what to do but I am not that understanding of how. I do not want someone to take care of me I just need someone to help me find the right place to look and survive. I have my own money every month and again I am not looking for a hand out. Julia said that to me earlier and that hurt me so please try to be a little more compassionate.

2007-10-23 04:38:13 · 4 answers · asked by mrswatson 1

When I had my daughter 8 years ago, I've talked with my hubby regarding staying home and raising her. When my daughter was 9 month old, I got pregnant with my son. Considering we live in New York City, and both of our families reside in other countries, it was a choice I've made together with my husband, and since it was financially not a problem, I've stucked to that choice. Now, I kinda would like to start working again (part time, while they are in school) but also, am a little bit terrified that that option will make my home and family members "crumble" emotionally. My hubby supports the idea but what about the children? How could it affect them emotionally? I would like to go back to work, because I'm 38 now and feel a little bit "depressed" about doing every day the same thing. Have you had a "phase" like this? Thank you!

2007-10-23 04:33:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a brother who is 17years old and just got a job but my mother don't make him pay the bills like she do me. I know I'm old enought to help out which I don't mind but I feel like he should be helping too!!

2007-10-23 04:23:48 · 6 answers · asked by seniorgamama706 1

Im a softie and have a hard time stickin to my guns!
They know it, and being a single mom, they use their dad against me and they live with me 6 days a week, now i think they feel threatened...they are sassy and wont LISTEN to a word i say! HELP!!!

2007-10-23 04:12:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have this cousin and she's twenty years old. She always thinks she's better than me in everything and actually it's the opposite ,I myself know how to deal with things better than her in thinking wise.First of all she's not good in studying she's left back 3 years in college and she never hangs out with girls.She always hangs out with our boy cousins . She always answers her mother and father back,what's wierd is that she never cries when someone shouts at her.She makes them cry.And for the way she dresses,she always wears pants and walks without a personal bag.Tat's one of the reasons that noone came to ask for her marriage.I just want her to get married fast so I don't see her much.There is this kind of serious hatred between us.Am I gonna last my whole life like this??

2007-10-23 04:06:06 · 13 answers · asked by Lolaaaaa 1

my sister has some issues, always has and it has led her to turn to hard drugs and liquor, which in turn has introduced her to drug dealers and people of lower class than us. she keeps bringing bad people around me and my family who are judgemental, argumentative, and combative. i wish she'd stop but she will lie, steal, and stop at nothing to do and get what she wants. i just don't know what to do anymore. we were like best friends. now she hangs out with people who are just like her and all i have are my boyfriends friends.

how can i help her?

2007-10-23 03:28:39 · 8 answers · asked by pookie 1

My 3 year daughter father basically goes for months and ignores my daughter as if she does not exist. He does this every year and always has an excuse. This time he is using me as an excuse because he does not like me we have also argued and he feels he cant get along with me. It is a load of bull he just wants to get his paycheck and not give my daughter a dime and his hate for me is an excuse. We could try to get along for her sake but he just chooses to not call or contact his own child. His family calls once in a while whenever they feel like it and I allow them to speak with my daughter but her father has not in months. My daughter asks about him all the time. If he does decide to one day call for her or want to see her again, What is the best way to tell him without an argument that he can not just pop up whenever he feel like doing so. Im fed up with his selfishness and the fact he does not love his daughter the way a father should. Just need some advice Thanks!

2007-10-23 03:26:01 · 5 answers · asked by Bleedingheartz 1

I need a bit of advice. My husband was living in NY for two months and is returning this weekend. He left because we were having marital problems. While he was in NY I heard he was bad mouthing my family, especially my parents. I have confronted him about it, and of course he denies it.

My sister has been watching our daughter while I am at work. She and my brother-in-law no longer want him in their house or ever speak to him again because of what he has said. My brother-in-law was his best friend back in NY.

I feel I am being put in the middle of this. Yes I am extremely angry at my husband for saying such horrible things about my family but I don't like third party gossip. I need to make sure that he really did say these things.

We used to spend holidays together and now we no longer can. I feel bad for my daughter because she will be missing her quality time with her cousins and the rest of the family.

Can someone give me advice as to how to resolve this issue?

2007-10-23 03:00:55 · 8 answers · asked by Double DD 1

I have 3 children and when the grandparents or aunt and uncle stop by our house without calling is this inconsiderate?

2007-10-23 02:42:37 · 8 answers · asked by notsure 1

A couple of months ago, my fiance's mom helped him to get a car on the road, after he screwed up his credit years ago. She was angry with me because I refused to cosign a loan for him ( I am putting myself through school and I have financed everything else we needed in my name...I wasn't about to take out a second auto loan) She made some comments about how I am "profiting" from him, and basically made me out to be a golddigger, even though I pay 50% of our household bills, as well as my own car payment and insurance, cell bill, and credit cards without his help. She even demanded to see our budget. I was furious and haven't seen or spoken to her since.

Now, his grandparents are here from Canada and are staying with his mother. He wants to go over for dinner and a visit tonight, but I am really not ready to see his mom. I know that if she brings money up I WILL explode.

Should I try to weasel out of dinner?

2007-10-23 02:39:56 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6

all these years, me & my 3 bro tried to understand it's due to his work commitment that he can't spend time at home. but few years back, he & my mum divorced and after the divorce we came to know that he already had 2 daughters (aged 8 & 3) with his mistress. the divorce did not affect us much as all of us were grown up. i had my own family and kids. i don't hate my step sisters, they are innocent. but i can't forgive my father. recently my uncle (his brother) had been asking us to forgive our father. apparently his life is now in a mess, one of my younger step sis was dignosed with cancer, he's retrenched and can't find a job (due to his age, he's almost 60). me & 3 bro were unmoved. we had been getting on with our lives well, with good jobs & making decent living. my mum is getting on fairly well too. she's not working (we gave her $$) so she travels freqently with frens. we had been getting on without him. are we heartless not to let him back?

2007-10-23 02:38:50 · 7 answers · asked by worried mum 1

Me and my brother don't smoke but we have to breathe in the stench of tobacco all the time. I want them to stop. Give me some tips or remedies please?

2007-10-23 02:23:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

well ive been staying home from school alot and well i got dressedtody thinking i would be going 2 school. i had 2 be there by 8:10 it was arleady 8:00 and i live down the street (which is a long street) from my school. i stayed home again knowing i would be late for school (since im a patrol) i need 2 be there. what shud i tell my parents now ??? so they wont get mad at me?

2007-10-23 02:16:02 · 6 answers · asked by ashley<3 1

Hi friends! Please help me out in my problem. i used to play an online game called warrock a lot which my parents thought was affecting my studies as i am in 10th(maybe it really was). so they wanted me to stop the game but somehow we had a deal that if i don't get above 80 percent in my mid-term exams then i have to stop playing warrock permanently and i only got 66 percent so i am not able to play warrock any more. i am feeling very uncomfortable these days as i am not able to play. so friends can u please help me out of my problem by which i can start playing warrock again by some way or the other.i don't want to hide and play but make my parents give me the permission to play. so what can i do to make them do this.
it would be really great if u people help me out as i am relly feeling very lonely without warrock as i also had many friends in the online game.
please please and please help me out as quickly as possible friends.
all answers are accepted which will help me.

2007-10-23 01:35:18 · 14 answers · asked by arijit 2

I feel that my mom is still not happy the way our life is shes not contented she doesnt care about my happiness as long as i give her money money money that i think is her happiness she doesnt care how hard it took for me to get the money ive worked hard for that still i havent hear any thank you or even a simple hug i dont know what to do to make her life like a queen were not rich just in the middle but i think she wants more more and i know she envy her sister i dont know why or maybe she cannot accept or forget her past i want to live and work on my own but of course its for her that im working for but she wants more money like now someone is courting me who is quite rich for her its like a dream come true but i dont like the guy i will not be happy if i marry him but my mom want me to marry him for money what do you think should i do please help im crazy here! I want my mom to be happy but at the same time i want to be happy too. Ill be waiting for you answers thank you!

2007-10-23 00:43:57 · 6 answers · asked by jhoan_anne 1

my babie is 16 weeks old his dad as neva paid a penny to me or bought him anthink he as neva wanted to see him even though i havegiven him the oppurtunity to on more than 1 occasion the only time he offered me money was en he said i could have money ifi gave him sex, he is no sayin he is goin to take me to court t get acess and th reason for this is he nt to mes my relationship up with my current partner, he tex me or emails me sayin things cu he nos it stresses me which then course me to start on james my partner, i feel likei cannot tak anymore of this and it is really getin me down is there anythink i can do.

2007-10-22 23:53:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 23:22:56 · 16 answers · asked by renesiony 1

I was asked this question awhile back and i really did not have a concrete answer. I just want to know how the majority would respond. You know you have bills to pay, no man to help with the kids, no food in the fridge, no car, the lights are about to be cut off; would you pursue the oldest profession, ONLY IF U HAD TO TO FEED YOUR KIDS AND MAINTAIN SHELTER? I dont want smart alec answers, just sincere and honest answers, please

2007-10-22 23:16:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are like forcing me to go to this stupid private ugly dirt unsafe school that i really hate it;s like waking up every morning to go to hell i hate it! to be honest, i'd rather die than go to that schoool every morning. I HATE IT i cutted my self so much times and i get deprresedd every time i go there!!!!! I always told my parents that i want to move but they dont care!! i need help!! what can i do? i wanna transfer to this public catholic church! but they said it's too expensive and stuff i wanna move!! what can i do? can the government help me or something?

2007-10-22 22:53:39 · 2 answers · asked by Zanjoe 1