are just huge it seems like and everyone loves to know all about them, it drives me crazy that i have to be perfect, exspeacily when you are from a crazy wealthy family that everyone hates! i'm not like them at all and i feel like i'm just a huge ***** but i'm not! what can i do...
2007-10-23 06:12:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to focus on earning things for yourself, and making your own happiness. If you do this, you'll feel like you have your own identity, seperate from your family...which you do. :)
2007-10-23 06:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by peroxidekween 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon.
you can gather your dignity, act like a lady, and be YOURSELF.
you do not have to discuss your mistakes with others, or give excuses or reasons. we all learn from our own mistakes, and EVERYONE makes mistakes -- not just you. Everyone makes huge mistakes during life. It's nothing to be ashamed of... and don't beat yourself up!
Forgive yourself for your own mistakes. If you want to talk about them, then turn to someone you admire and respect... someone who will listen without judging. Most of us know someone like that -- the school counselor if no one else.
take care of YOU.
2007-10-23 13:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and to hell with what everyone thinks. Maybe you should move away from the situation and start a new life somewhere else where the people dont know all about you.
2007-10-23 13:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I have learned is that everybody is quick to jump on other peoples problems as it allows them to forget about their own problems or even validates that everyone has these problems and they're not alone. When you look around at the people surrounding you, you will only see what they choose to present to you. We assume that this guy in the nice expensive suit has it made because, well frankly, he's wearing an expensive suit. We tend to make everything about materialism versus realism. What's real about these people that we can't see is that they are just as insecure as we are. They question themselves and they worry about the same things that we do. Every person in this life truly searches and yearns to be loved and wanted, nothing more. Some where along the lines we've managed to think that materialism will give us the love we need and want. But the truth of the matter is everyone is a front and so is the love they have when it's based on materialism. But my whole point is that we all are the same. Not one person is better or worse. We all need and want for the same things. I understand what you're saying though about feeling like you have to be perfect. It's because we always hear about the bad stuff we do but hardly ever are we praised for what we do right. People are always trying to out do eachother. Keeping up with the Jones'. For some reason we tend to think someone is better than us because they have accumilated more belongings than we have. Yet they cry when their feelings get hurt. They get mad when someone uses them or lies to them. They are hard on themselves when they fail. They are no different. So what we have to do is learn to not care about what people think and to just keep pushing. We have to find the confidence within ourselves. That song from Rascal Flats "Stand" is a beautiful song that you should listen to if you haven't already. When we fall, we stand because we have to, there is nothing more to do other than stand and try again. This is not one person's motto, but a motto for us all to live by. Because everyone is out to make themselves the best. For some reason we just can't exist together, we have to be above others to feel good. Why? Why must we hurt another to better ourselves? Because we know no other way. I stated earlier that we see people as they choose to see us. Which is too true. When you start dating a guy all is well. You think that he's got it together and his world is in harmony. Then after date 10 or so you really start to see this man for who he is rather than who he tries to be. We all become fronts with strangers because we want to be liked and accepted. Once we are liked and accepted our true selves emerge slowly. This is true for everyone, I feel anyways. You need lighten up on yourself. It sounds as if you're allowing everyones expectations of you to tear you apart. You have to recognize your boundaries and allow yourself time and space to accomplish what is important to you. You will never be able to please anyone as their expectations of you will rise because you have always come through for them in the past. Don't allow anyone or yourself to pressure you like this. I suggest really examining yourself. Make sure you know who you are and what you stand for. Only you have the power to change your life. Rather than feeling bad for yourself, get mad. You are no different than anyone else and you deserve to be happy. So implement change within yourself. Realize that we all fail, we all fear and we all cry. Good Luck & God Bless!
2007-10-23 14:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by imcoldandbored 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has to be perfect.
I agree with answer you've already gotten, don't discuss your mistakes with people.
Just because someone wants to know something, doesn't mean it's any of their business; your life is YOURS to discuss with whoever you want.
What can you do?
I suggest counseling; a good professional can help you sort all this out, and help you get to self-acceptance.
2007-10-23 15:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove to yourself who you really are! No one else!
2007-10-23 13:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove yourself better than your family.
2007-10-23 13:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋