When I had my daughter 8 years ago, I've talked with my hubby regarding staying home and raising her. When my daughter was 9 month old, I got pregnant with my son. Considering we live in New York City, and both of our families reside in other countries, it was a choice I've made together with my husband, and since it was financially not a problem, I've stucked to that choice. Now, I kinda would like to start working again (part time, while they are in school) but also, am a little bit terrified that that option will make my home and family members "crumble" emotionally. My hubby supports the idea but what about the children? How could it affect them emotionally? I would like to go back to work, because I'm 38 now and feel a little bit "depressed" about doing every day the same thing. Have you had a "phase" like this? Thank you!
2007-10-23 04:33:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Follow your heart, but never ever give up the idea that your kids come first.
I was very happy to see that you and him are together and committed to continue your struggle to face the marriage "intemperies", after all we all know it's not easy.
But with perseverance and love you and him will achieve your happiness and raise better humans prepared to face the life with better values and moral.
You do need to study or work as everyone does, but do not feel obligated to it.
Find a nice work environment where you have the freedom to go home anytime as needed.
Or even better you can set-up a SOHO and make profits meanwhile you're still taking care after the kids.
Regarding the little ones, speak with them clearly about mom needs to study to be smarter or to help with the budget and with herself.
Peace be with you.
2007-10-23 04:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Pazlevaaoamor 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife is having the same feelings, but feels insecure about getting back out in the workforce. And she is not sure about the kids in the summer.
You need to take care of yourself too, so go for it. You can be home when they get home from school if it is part-time. In the summer, you do have the sitter problem, but if you can hook up with some other families and your kids get along with their kids, I suspect they will love it. With the extra income, see if you can all do more family things together.
2007-10-23 11:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would affect the children at all if you went back to work and they would probably be glad you did if it means that there are more things you can do as a family with the extra money you bring in. Hope you find a good job and enjoy it.
2007-10-23 11:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be an adjustment but isn't life about change and adjustment? Studies have indicated that mother's who work and whose children have to be more independent etc.., tend to do better with stress and change.
As long as you talk with them about, prepare them, act like it is normal and good and don't treat it like "Oh, my God,". It should be fine.
If you are happier and more fulfilled, your kids will notice and you will be a better Mom.
Good Luck.
2007-10-23 11:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered working part times? Say in the morning and early afternoon when the kids are in school?
2007-10-23 11:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by ThatGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got to do what you feel most comfortable with and whats best for you and your family..mine are working teenagers already but i did work when they were younger...i was also divorced at the time and needed to support them so i had no choice...
2007-10-23 13:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by robin r 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋