I have 3 children and when the grandparents or aunt and uncle stop by our house without calling is this inconsiderate?
2007-10-23 02:42:37 · 8 answers · asked by notsure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It could be -- if they tend to linger and stay for hours.
You could ask them if they wouldn't mind giving you a call before they come over.
2007-10-23 02:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband are on the same page about it, your husband needs to have a talk with "Bob" and set new guidelines and expectations. For many years things have been a certain way, but now the situation is different, and it sounds like this person is not emotionally literate enough to realize it and adapt to the changing conditions. You husband needs to tell him straight-up that you guys want to hang out with him, but that he needs to plan to go back to the parents' house each night. Set your boundaries - it is your home, and it is up to the two of you to make the rules. Just don't expect "Bob" to read your minds - be clear about your expectations. You will still need to be prepared to put up with a certain amount of mess - you can't change who he is - but you have to set the ground rules clearly if he can't figure out what is acceptable and what isn't.
2016-05-25 02:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, but some people are just like that, and if you don't let them know that it bothers you then you are just as much at fault. Next time they drop by, step out on the door step with them (instead of inviting them in) and be extremely friendly, and say something like "oh, I wish you would of called, I would of loved to of made time to chat with you" explain that with 3 kids almost everything is planned out down to the last minute. Ask them if they could come back on Saturday afternoon about 2pm? Then on Saturday, just explain that it would really help if they called first because you run around like a chicken with your head cut off on most days.
2007-10-23 02:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they don't consider it rude to stop by if they are in the area, but if it bothers you, you'll have to say something to them. You could suggest they call first because you want to be sure you don't have to rush off somewhere. Be polite and tactful. There's no need to be mean about it.
Me, personally, I wouldn't consider it rude most of the time. The only time I would see it as rude is if they happen to stop by when I have something going on or need to leave to go somewhere I had planned to go. In those cases, I would just politely say..."Thanks for dropping by. Unfortunately, now is not a good time for a visit as I have to be somewhere shortly."
Good luck.
2007-10-23 02:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unexpected visits by anyone is inconsiderate in my book. People shouldn't just "stop by" because they want to visit - they should think of you since it is your house.
2007-10-23 03:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't for my husband and my son I wouldn't have any family members.
But if I did have Aunts and Uncles or anyone on my side of the family or even my husbands I wouldn't really care if they stopped by unannounced for a visit.
And if I were busy when they dropped by I would ask them if they could help me and if they did that would be great.
Your lucky you have family.
2007-10-23 02:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Adelaide B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me. I don't want to feel like I have to keep the house super clean all the time. Why don't you ask them to give you a call first or get your husband to if it is his family.
2007-10-23 03:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they are family I love when family stops by and be glad that they want too some fammilys dont count your blessings
2007-10-23 03:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋