My mother in law got along great until a last week. I guess It started about a month ago when my mother moved in with my mother in law they live 5 minutes away. Well went to a harvest party at my mother in laws work and one of the guys that she works with grabbed the back of my head with both hands and was trying to kiss me. I said no but I couldnt move my head and so he kissed me and stuck his tongue in my mouth and then left. So I told my mother in law and she said nothing. Well the next day my husband new something was wrong with me. After a lot of arguing I told him. So he got mad and went to my mother in laws work. My mother in law and her boss and my mom were sitting there having supper and I guess he was really angry. I got a phone call from her 5 min later yelling at me for telling him what happened.She called me yelling at me for telling my husband and her boss yelled in the background tell her to shut her mouth. So I swore at her and hung up and have not talked to her since.
2007-10-23 06:29:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So why is it that your mother in law yelled at you when her son was the one who could not control him self and went to her job? If her boss wants to be a big man tell him to open his big mouth to your husband not you. ( I am sure he said nothing to him the coward)
This is your fault because you told your husband what hap pend. I would avoid her as well. If this guy raped you would she say that was OK too, or it's your fault cause of the dress you wore. She sounds like a wacko. I guess in her eyes you should be man handled and sit there and take it. As long as it don't effect her.
2007-10-23 08:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tried to avoid the situation and you tried to let it go so your husband didn't get into this situation. Your mother-in-law should have, in my opinion, gone directly to her co-worker and demanded that he apologize to you. Then it should have been left alone. Your mother-in-law was out of line in calling you like that and she owes you an apology. She also owes your husband an apology and so does her co-worker. Your husband really could have waited to talk to his mother; I mean what was he going to do, go in and beat the other guy up at work? You owe your mother-in-law an apology for the way you handled it as well. And your husband owes the boss an apology for his behavior in the business.
Everyone needs to calm down and get over this.
2007-10-23 13:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's better not to say anything to anyone about an
incident if you are not personally hurt by it.
The person who was out of line was the guy who insisted on kissing you. That was the time for you to tell this guy to "knock it off."
He'd get your message real quick.
Mother in-laws and mothers have to remember this is your life
and you will at times make mistakes as they once did, but
now is the time for them to be the peace makers, not the peace breakers. Don't talk to your mother in-law. Let your
husband be the one to patch things up.
I wish you good luck and lots of happiness in your marriage.
2007-10-23 13:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by daisyfay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is easier for her to be mad and blame you than it is to be mad or blame her son. I understand your husband being upset but I also understand that it is your MIL's work and she needs her job.
Your husband should not have rushed down there in a fit of anger. But that is a choice he made and he is responsible for his behavior, not you.
If anything, you should have told your husband sooner and not waited. And also maybe not told him after you were arguing and he was already mad. But frankly, there is no good time to tell someone something like that.
It sounds like a situation that got out of control. I think your husband should apologize to his mother for any problems he caused her at work and she should apologize you for calling and yelling at you about it and you should apologize to your husband for not telling him sooner.
2007-10-23 13:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all need to grow up.
a) what does this have to do with your mom and mom in law living together?
b) she proably did not know what to do at the party as she was a bit taken aback
c) she should not have got mad because you told your husband but she probably did not say anything because sahe did not want to cause trouble between you and your husband
d) I suggest you all learn to discuss things in a quiet, open and civilised manner.
2007-10-23 13:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband does not need to go tell your MIL everything!! If he hadn't told her, she wouldn't have gotten upset. You need to have boundaries on the things that are your in-laws (and your parents) business and what you tell them.
My husband and I never tell our parents about fights that we have. For all they know, we never fight. That way the parents can't get in the middle of our relationship.
2007-10-23 17:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much drama...
your mother in law sticks her nose in where it doesn't belong. it's not up to HER to decide what you talk with your husband about.
she's creating a big deal out of something that's none of her business in the first place.
2007-10-23 13:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋