I feel that my mom is still not happy the way our life is shes not contented she doesnt care about my happiness as long as i give her money money money that i think is her happiness she doesnt care how hard it took for me to get the money ive worked hard for that still i havent hear any thank you or even a simple hug i dont know what to do to make her life like a queen were not rich just in the middle but i think she wants more more and i know she envy her sister i dont know why or maybe she cannot accept or forget her past i want to live and work on my own but of course its for her that im working for but she wants more money like now someone is courting me who is quite rich for her its like a dream come true but i dont like the guy i will not be happy if i marry him but my mom want me to marry him for money what do you think should i do please help im crazy here! I want my mom to be happy but at the same time i want to be happy too. Ill be waiting for you answers thank you!
2007-10-23 00:43:57 · 6 answers · asked by jhoan_anne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would choose a peaceful life with a little money...
i think you need to sit down and talk to your mum about this. she needs to understand how you feel and how it's becoming increasingly difficult for you to fulfil her desires. give her a couple of chances and if she doesn't try to understand, then move out and live your life how you want to. send her reasonable amounts of money, within your budget, but with which she can lead an okay life, because after all she is your mum, you can't let her down, but don't give in to her demands. hopefully she will realise that she was wrong and come back to you eventually. if she doesn't, then you'll just have to accept that she's not gonna be happy, no matter what you do and you'll just have to get on with your life.
as for your boyfriend, if you don't like him then don't court him. don't let your mum force you into an unwanted relationship...
hope i helped and good luck!
2007-10-23 01:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by $he 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to marry for love! You are to honor your mom,be good to her.But,she should be good to you also.
If she is an invalid,and needs care.You should find a way to care for her.but that doesn't mean non-needful things.
If you are "breaking your back",only to supply her with material things,and these things over the years have not made up for issues in her past.Why ,supply her with them.
Your mom is suppose to teach her children independance!
She made her choices,you have a right to your own life!
It's UP TO YOU,to decide if you marry for the wrong reasons.Then have children ,you can choose to enjoy.Or lay guilt on their heads,because you've been stuck in a bad marriage for 20 years.End the cycle now! Cut back on the unnecessary things! If mom's not an invalid,but together a plan to move into your own place.Stop dating,someone you know -right now.You want no future with.And find someone who loves you! You're allowed to have certain parts of your life "as "ACCESS DENIED" as far as mom's concerned.Take care!
2007-10-23 01:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by need2know 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
money is the evil sword we have to live with, but you dont have too, mom is never going to be happy no matter how much she has she will always want more... if you marry so one for the wrong reason how are you going to be happy? if mom wants you be happy she must let you make your own path and marry who ever be you , be stronge and keep doing what you think is the right path for you and no one else....
2007-10-23 00:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by rev frank 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people love to gripe. Your mother is one of them. Marry who you want and live a peaceful life. It's not your responsibility to make anyone else rich and happy in their own lives.
2007-10-23 00:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a major commitment and you should not enter into it with any reservations.
If you are marrying someone just to please your mom, there will most certainly be problems ahead.
I would tell your mom that her happiness is important to her, but she should find her own rich guy to marry. Your life is not for sale.
2007-10-23 01:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH dear!
You really need to start avoiding your controlling mom.
And do not marry for money! Has the guy asked you to marry him? If not, then good!
Why do you think that your mother wants you to suffer so much for her sake?? She is a self centered old biddy who is anxious to make your life misery.
move away from that town-
2007-10-23 01:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rev. Deb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋