My stepsons mother is so verbally abusive he is having nightmares and cant stand to be around her. I want to do something to help but how without causing problems???
2007-10-23 07:13:32 · 27 answers · asked by Beverly C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he lives with her
2007-10-23 07:14:25 · update #1
You need to let your husband handle this, its his son. Anything you say or do will just make her angry.
2007-10-23 07:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to speak with your husband and make him aware and explain how you don't want anybody hurt. If this does not work, then have a talk with your stepson. You do not say how old he is. But if he is old enough tell him that everyone loves him and is concerned about him, but that sometimes adults do not know how to express it and sometimes they forget with all the problems and job stress that what they say and how they say it may hurt people. But
that he has you to speak with if at anytime he feels a need to speak with someone. Explain that you can be their for him like a friend. And not like a mother.
2007-10-23 14:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by MARY P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call social services and explain the situation to them. Maybe they can "drop by" for a friendly little visit and see that she is not a suitable mom. If the child is endangered, the there really no way to NOT get involved. If it is in his best interest, you need to do it. Is your husband aware of this? what is his opinion on the matter? See if you can go in on this together, so you don't look like the evil "stepmom" that causes all the problems, you know? If you both support each other on this issue then maybe "mom" won't see you as the problem.
2007-10-23 14:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is being abusive your steping in would not be causing the problem, there is no excuse for averbal abuse especialy since it can and offten does lead to physical abuse, you may suggest to the childs father that the child gets a psychological evaluation and counciling, If he is old enough and your state allows it , you may try to get full custody of the child by the child's choice, also suggets limited and supervised visitation for the mother. Do what you have to for the Child.
2007-10-23 14:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by brandy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is abuse ! This poor guy needs some help ! He needs to talk to another family member if possible but this is a very tricky situation and he needs to be careful not to make things worse.Saying that i think he needs to take the chance because it sounds as if things could not get any worse than they are at the moment !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck.
2007-10-23 14:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try talking to her in a calm manner to resolve things. Tell her your stepson is not comfortable when she is is being abusive.
2007-10-23 14:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Georgiee boii 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should talk to your husband about your concerns. He may not be aware of this and if he is then he should do something about it. No one deserves to be treated that way especially a child!
2007-10-23 14:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by Aprilbride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...that is a hard one....
it will be kinda hard for you to do something since you are the step mother and the mother might not like you telling her anything about her son....
depending on yall's relationship...
have you talked to your husband.....what does he suggest....maybe he should say something to her...or yall can talk to his son and get him to express his feelings to his mom......
and if it continues then daddy needs to take it into his hands
i am sorry that is aweful!
i wish you luck!
2007-10-23 14:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever thought about going to a payphone and calling child protective services with an anonymous call?
2007-10-23 14:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by kim 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit her down and tell her that she is traumatizing the child and that if she doesnt stop tormenting him that you will report her to child services....but a recorder in his backpack or clothes drawer and check them when you get a chance.....if you hear something alarming..turn it in to child services so you have proof and it wont be her word against yours..tape recorders are so handy
2007-10-23 14:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing you can do. You are not the real mother, theonly one who can step in and say something is the father.
2007-10-23 14:16:49 · answer #11 · answered by Mike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋