I'm a 13-year-old girl and in my school, i'm already graduating. I just can't understand why my parents pressure me to much in my grades. they always like me to have 90-100 grades in every subject and if i got scores like 80 below, they would be disappointed and scold me even though i try to politely reason that 3/4 of my class failed. Aren't they satisfied that i passed in my test. One of my friends almost cried because of the pressure her parents were giving her. I just want some advices to how i can handle pressure and if you want to say your opinion about this, feel free.
2007-10-23 18:44:57 · 9 answers · asked by 2smiley4 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi 2smiley4,
Parents pressuring their kids in school is natural. It's their way of making sure that the kid don't slacken in their studies. I'm a father of 4 & I pressure my kids to excel and they did. Actually I'm more apt to get angry when my children shows the lack of effort than the grade itself. I've already accepted the fact the 80s, 70s or even 60s will happen & I usually just let it go & tell my kids "do better next time". But when the 60s, 70s becomes frequent, then it's time we sit down and talk about it. Yes, I yell at them as well, but only if I see a total lack of effort. But my daughter tells me about a lot of her classmates who are more like your parents, never satisfied. My advise is just "give your best" in your studies. You do that & most of the time you'll do well. But I don't care how good you are, you'll get a low-grade once in a while. Pressure actually comes from your own self. Why are you pressured? Because you're afraid of being scolded, right? And in a way, you feel responsible for the low-grade you got. Condition your mind that "this thing will happen occassionally", that even the best of them will have off-nights. Do that & you'll realize that your parents scolding will not affect you much anymore
2007-10-23 19:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just want you to do well in school and move on and do well in college, get a good job and do well throughout your life. School is pretty much the basis and if you don't know your 1+1s or algebra facts or how to write an essay or anything you learned in school you would pretty much turn out to be a random hobo walking down the street, not sure if your bosses would like to hire an uneducated person. If you get good grades and test scores and know that you understand the subject, then you'll basically do well in life, later on.
It doesn't really matter that 75% of your class failed..sure you could compare that you got a better grade then them but later on when you work with a group of people who probably got As when they were taught that, you would be the 'F' in the group and still be not sure of what to do..
I know my parents can be really pressuring at times but most of the times their cool about things, and yeah, don't worry just be calm and your parents are only doing that because they don't want you to fail either and want to make sure your doing well :)
2007-10-23 18:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mimí..ツ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a style of babies whose mothers and fathers in no way censored her song, video clips, or television (or video clips video games, or something like that quite) i can inform you that a loss of censorship would not equivalent undesirable habit. i'm consistently complimented for being nicely behaved, respectful, and in basic terms an all around attractive person. i don't tension different teenagers into doing something, and that i don't do something that parents could be worried approximately their teenagers being forced into. i've got in no way had plenty as a detention in my finished life. as long as mothers and fathers communicate over with their teenagers, and have a stable courting with them, the peer tension isn't various an argument.
2016-10-07 12:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents pressure their kids, because they want them to get as much from school as they can. They want their kid to learn to be a hard worker as well as come away from school with skills and knowledge. Once a person is out of school, learning to be a hard worker or trying to catch up on knowledge is much harder. Plus it will cost you money.
Parents know that with an education the opportunities for their kid when he/she grows up will be greater.
2007-10-23 18:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by suigeneris-impetus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of cause they pressure you, but only because they want you to achieve the best results possible.
My foster parents wanted me to achieve so badly (I had a rough start) and pushed me so hard to achieve. I am 23 now and have a brilliant job that I had to work for. I wouldn't have done so well if I hadn't have had them behind me pushing me all the way.
They do it because they love you
2007-10-23 18:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are reinfocing their belief in you.
Look around you and see all the poor people out there.
These people never took advantage of of what you have in front of you. If you don't want to end up poor like them do well at school and get a really good ocupation.
2007-10-23 18:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't handle that little bit of pressure, you'll never make it in the real world. Jobs don't want to hire people who make B's they want the best, which means A's.
2007-10-23 18:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they want you to have a better life than they had and they want the best for you, I know how it feels. I am smart and 23 and my parents still pressure me to better in university
2007-10-23 18:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by AMP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They want you to have a good future and not to live on the streets. They want you to be smart. :)
2007-10-23 18:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋