More specifically, I have a problem with my brother having a girlfriend. I haven't liked any of the girlfriends he's had so far, but this one bothers me the most. I think that this may be because they are talking seriously about getting married.
I don't want to lose my brother (I feel like that is happening) to a woman that, in my head, I call a whore -- because she's his girlfriend, not because she is one.
I am very close to my brother and it may even be accurate to say that I love and trust him more than anyone, even my parents. He has been there for me and I've been there for him, and bringing another person into the picture seems awful.
It is so serious that I have had thoughts of killing her, but I don't think I'd actually do it. Not really.
I'm not sure what to do. Everything that I have read says that I need to just "let it be" and "it's his life." But I just don't care; that doesn't quite cut it for me. Something needs to be said, but I haven't the courage to speak up about it.
2007-10-23 18:46:58 · 12 answers · asked by Insert_Name_Here 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would like to thank the people who have actually given me positive answers. I would like to let everyone know that this is a very serious question. I know that I am, indeed, a very troubled person (more specifically, a troubled teen). No, I do not love my brother *like that*. No, I don't want to have sex with him. And no, for the love of God, do I think that it's none of my business. He's my ******* brother and he'd do the same thing for me. I can't "let it be", I told you that. I need help, mostly, working up the courage to talk to him. I don't need people on here hurting my feelings when this is happening enough in my real life. Stop telling me to get help, I ALREADY ******* DO!!! Why don't you people take this question seriously? PLEASE??
2007-10-23 20:10:07 · update #1
You are a very selfish scary person. If anything happens to her there is now evidence in writing with your IP address connected to it.
I feel sorry for your brother that you dont allow him to live his own life.
2007-10-23 19:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So you want your brother to settle for a close relationship with his sister, instead of an intimate relationship with a woman he loves, for the rest of your lives??
Does it not occur to you that you will push him away if you continue on this path of jealous selfishness? Do you want to lose him & the closeness between you FOREVER?
This is not a matter of him having a girlfriend until you scare her away, he WILL find someone to share his life with and you'd better start being nice to her or you will lose him altogether.
Besides, sooner or later, you will meet someone special to you. He will become your confidante, the one you go to when you would have gone to your brother in the past.
You are not losing your brother, he is simply growing up. And it's probably time you did before something goes really wrong between you.
2007-10-23 19:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your brother, then let him be happy. You can't pick his girlfriends for him and if she loves him that should be a great thing for you. Sooner or later he will separate from you. He is not yours to keep. I say that if she is good to him and he loves her, good for him. You just need to learn how to accept it and just be happy for him. One day you too will fall in love and leave your brother aside. You will not like it if your so in love with ur boyfriend and fell so happy and ur brother hates your boyfriend even if he is a good guy. No one can take him away from you, believe me, you guys will always have that love for one another strong for life. It's ok just be happy that she is making him feel great...
2007-10-23 18:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Esther 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anything to back up what your feelings are about her? If you don't, this will drive a wedge between you and your brother! I understand that you are close, but interfering with his life and everyone he loves will make him want you out of his life! If you love him and trust him, let him love whom he loves!
I hate to ask this, but given what you have you said, are you in love with your brother? Is this why nobody is good enough for him or for you??? Because that is how yu make it sound...
2007-10-23 19:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are really that close to your brother why don´t you talk to him about your concerns.Tell him how afraid you are and that you think you are going to lose him as a brother and best friend.Unfortunately it is your brothers decision alone with whom he wants to spend his life.And as long that girlfriend isn´t a criminal or a junkie you can´t do anything about it.
Try to spend some time with your brother AND his girlfriend.Who knows?Perhaps she turns out only half as bad as you imagine.
2007-10-23 19:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by tampagirl 2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there isnt really a problem with his girlfriend besides the fact that he has a girlfriend, id say to just accept her. Even if it is killing you and you tell him how you feel, he probably wont blow it off just because you dont like him having a relationship with someone.
2007-10-23 18:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jake F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Over protactive. that happens to very one to the ones you are close to. I felt the same way about my 3 sisters because they were ther for me too. i didnt want them to pay addittion to anyone else except me. so years later i realised that we all need to except it no matter what. but the thing is the right thing to do is talk to your brother. tell them you are afraid of losing him that he wont be around to help you off your feet. your bro needs to know how you feel about his girlfriends. and he might tell you that "i will never leave you behide" and thats true. he loves you very much but he wants someone to love that will become his lover. i hope i help
2007-10-23 18:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by whothiknow 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey gal, i think u are being over possesive over ur bro and u are over sensitve... i think thr nothing wrong with ur bro's gf ...
i think the only prob here is u... u cant let go... u are afraid of losing ur bro to another gal.... i think u need to see a shrink...
even if ur bro gets married to tis gf u can still call him talk to him and even meet up with him!! and of course its his life wh he want to marry!!
u dun expect ur bro to be with u forever do u?? mayb u jus haven met the right guy!! dun be over protective u ll raise unwanted quarrels between u and ur bro and also unwanted misunderstandings...
2007-10-23 19:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are being incredibly jealous and over protective. You do know that if you badmouth her to him for no reason he isn't going to take your side. He is going to defend the woman he loves that makes him happy.
If your brother is happy, you should be happy for him, not being an overbearing, neurotic person.
Jebus lady cut the extra umbilical cord....
2007-10-23 18:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
There's probably a psychiatrist you should see that deals with incestuous and homosexual tendencies
2007-10-23 18:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Nick James 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋