One of my mom's friends told me they seen my step dad snorting something one night and now i am scared. i know my dad is smoking marijuana. its just that my real dad left me when i was younger for drugs and now i am worried. my stepdad and i's relationship has went to garbage and his attitude is getting violent. and i am the one who is the source of all his rage. he has even hit me a few times and its been happening more frequently
so please help me. what are the signs of him doing crack/cocaine.
my own mom doesnt want to believe me
2007-10-24 02:14:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have called the cops on him before but he came out with BS story saying that i was a getting a cocky attitude and that i needed a good smacking. They believe him
My counseler says i have serious signs of severe depression and that he may be the source of it. Do i need help too?
2007-10-24 02:39:32 · update #1
I am 17 years old and will be 18 in february.
The worse thing is is that him and my mom have a daughter( my half-sister who is 13) and he never treats her the way he treats. i have not once seen him hit her.
2007-10-24 02:41:23 · update #2
another thing is is that my mom and step dad have been together for almost 16 years. he never started treating me weird until i turned 10
2007-10-24 05:17:36 · update #3
WOW. First off, you are a person of worth and noone can take that from you. Even if you are misbehaving, you are a young adult (i'm guessing), and he should not be laying hands on you. It is unfortunate that you are learning this lesson so early in your life, but there are times where you have to show strength and stand alone. This may be one of those times.
I would first ask your mom to enter the ENTIRE family in counseling. You will need to do this calmly and in a respectful way. If she won't do it, I would start with your school guidance counselor and seek help. You need to get to the bottom of why your mom is picking men with these issues, why he's using drugs, and why he's hitting you. You also need to learn if there are things that you can do to help the situation. This should all be addressed with a certified family counselor.
2007-10-24 02:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do for now is just stay out of his way and don't do or say anything that might aggravate him in any way. Do you have a job yet? I suggest you start saving money and the minute you turn 18 start looking for somewhere else to live and get out of that house. Its not uncommon for mothers to not believe there own flesh and blood, its very sad and she is in denial. And don't say anything about the cocaine use until you see it for yourself. Good luck to you.
2007-10-24 03:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is this guy hitting you? And why is your mother allowing such behavior from him? How old are you? Can you go live with your grandparents? This guy is trouble and you don't need to be around him. Since your mother doesn't have any brains, you'll have to learn how to protect yourself from this man. Don't play around with this. It's very serious. See if you can go live with your grandparents, or a trusted friend. If this guy keeps hitting you, report him to your school counselor, or go down to the police station and report him. Also let them know he's doing drugs. Don't be afraid. This is serious!
2007-10-24 02:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you have any close relatives that you can talk to? You are in an unsafe environment....I would talk to a trusted adult or go to school counselor...Bottom line is he is hitting you ..and you are unsafe..... I dont know if he is on drugs but it sounds like it. If your mom cannot see the changes in her husband and that he is being abusive than she isnt doing her job as a parent..Please go and talk to a trusted adult and you may want to get out of your house if things dont change. Good luck
2007-10-24 02:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what you are going to solve if you find out he's an addict. I would suggest you clean up your own act first. However you never have to be hit in anger and tell him or tell your mom that it needs to stop and next time you are calling the cops. Assault is assault.
2007-10-24 02:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion if you are under the age of 18 you should contact your local department of children and families. They can issue him a drug test. You should not be living with someone with a drug habbit, it can be very dangerous and is not a very good role model for you.
2007-10-24 02:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sedo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is starting to get violent with you and hitting you then you need to do something about that. contact the authorities or CPS and inform them, if you suspect drug use then tell them that too. Protect yourself if your mom isnt going too.
Do you have another relative you can call??
2007-10-24 02:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by louie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think being violent to others without any valid reason was one of the sign of being an addict to that kind of drugs...try to get help in your own friends and in your neighbors and just take good care of yourself...don't let him do anything to you...
2007-10-24 02:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by ningning 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
denial is the first step in acceptance. tell your mom what you think. if she wont do anything about it then just call the cops and tell them that hes hitting you.
2007-10-24 02:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Signs of cocaine,,,,stuffy nose, blowing his nose alot, hyped up..in other words, like hes speeding..tell your therapist this...if they dont want to believe you then confide in one of your close friends parents...one that you trust...they can probably help...good luck
2007-10-24 03:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by just ask 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋