My Partners Mother is very stubborn and only ever has it her way. She currently takes my partners daughter for regular sleep overs but my partner wont say anything to her or ask to have his daughter on those days, even though he really wants to spend time with her.
How can i say to his mother in a polite way to back off and stop being so selfish by taking my partners time away from his daughter?
My partner wont stand up for himself, then when i nag for him to say something he gets shitty with me for continually reminding him to speak with his Mum.
I want him to say something as i know if it comes from me all hell will break loose as well as i know deep down that it hurts him to have very little time with his daughter.
Some advise would be greatly appreciated!!
2007-10-23 21:15:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your partner doesn't have the cajones to speak up for himself then there isn't much you can do that won't cause hard feelings either between you and his mother or between you and him. Either way you will be the loser.
2007-10-23 21:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by don_sv_az 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to like the answer to your question.
The best thing you can do is stay out of it and say nothing. This is not your mother and you say nothing as if you do all hell will break loose and you will only have a fight with your partners mother but with your partner as well. IF and when your partner wants to tell his mother to back off that is his choice and he doesn't need you to remind and nag him.
Don't add to the stress. You being a nag and looking to change the situation is as bad as his mother taking over and
being controlling.
2007-10-24 05:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your partner to grow a pair!
he is the little girls father, nothing stopping him from spending time when she isnt with her grandmother
if he really wanted to, he could, or he would stand up to his mother, either way he takes his failings out on you, quite a guy
2007-10-23 21:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the best advice I have. I would stay out of it if I were you. 1, it's not your child, and 2nd you are not part of the family officially. You know, its kina like he can talk about her all he wants but nobody else can.
2007-10-23 21:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by sden2616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He's not a man, he's a wimp.
2007-10-24 00:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋