Family - September 2007

Please use your brain and tell the truth. Don't give me philosophical talks. Instead give me practical answers about what you really live for.
Who knows, this question could invent actually what you are up to instead of what you should be.
Most of us are behind money & power
Some live with pride
We always search for love which we don't get
But in all of the above we forget happiness.............. This is my say

2007-09-07 05:13:11 · 35 answers · asked by ? 4

2007-09-07 02:39:19 · 23 answers · asked by marnss 2

Recently, My fiance's daughter in her 30s moved in with her two children. The daughter uses profanity constantly and yells at her boys constantly. The older child hits the smaller child on a constant basis and is disruptive and is not disciplined. The father of one of the children is in prison for drug use and sales. The other father is not responsive to wanting the older child to move in with him. They are not my relatives yet, and it is getting on my nerves. I am not responsible for them, but my fiance felt it was necessary to "rescue" them. Now she regrets their presence because it has disrupted our quiet existance. They are annoying, we don't really have the room for them, and they are eating us out of house and home. I don't see where it is my place to discipline the boys and the daughter seems to not have control and gets upset and violent over the slightest thing. She played a video called Borat, and the content was very inappropriate for the boys to watch. Any suggestions?

2007-09-07 02:37:47 · 6 answers · asked by lrpharm54 2

My wife and I have been together almost 7 yrs, married almost 6...She was an internet bride...I never met her two kids (a son and daughter both adults) til after we were married...I don't think they knew about me til after we were living together - before we wed.

My problem is I want to be more involved with her side of the family, but I can't get close...I mentioned this desire to my wife, but she kind of shrugged it off, saying that they still had issues with their dad, who has since died.

It is frustrating to be almost a non-entity with her family...I feel almost like a stranger - with her son and daughter anyway - on the few occasions when we've gotten together...We're in CA, they're on the E. coast...Anyone have any ideas or suggestions on how to let these kids know that I would like to be a part of their lives - even a little bit more than it is now.
Thank you.

2007-09-07 02:33:42 · 9 answers · asked by thud.fan 6

This is my problem...me and my fiance got an apartment together and the rent is 400 a month and have already put 200 down for part of the rent cause the guy that we are renting it from didn't want a down payment...when i told my mom that i was moving out she totally freaked and started yelling at me and what not...i am 19 and my fiance is turning 18 on this coming tuesday (9/11). I have a job that is paying 8.50/ hr and is a full time job. my fiance right now works at Dairy Queen and is making below minimum wage. I am trying to get him working where i am working so that we both will be making decent money. We only have one vehicle at the moment and its a 1989 Ford Ranger. The only things that we have to pay for a month is rent (400), insurance(100 i think), and food. The 400 for rent covers everything....What i am really asking is do you think that we could make it on our own...my mom thinks we can't but thats just one person...My fiance's parents and sisters totally support it and are

2007-09-07 02:16:43 · 8 answers · asked by megan_trigg2000 2

She is probably worth a million so she can afford it. My SIL came to my hubby's 40th birthday dinner and picked him a flower off a bush in front of the restaraunt and she is the Director of Risk Management for a Hospital and makes about $75K. What do I say or do to his family? PS ~ I am a strong Christian so nothing ugly, please. Blessings!

2007-09-07 01:53:02 · 8 answers · asked by goodflgirl2k 2

And they are serious. I am a 30yo 'good girl' (drug-free, mentally stable, in good shape, have a great job). And my parents are just middle class 'normal' people.

I find it too hard to live on when my parents don't want me to exist in this world. Help.

2007-09-07 01:42:11 · 24 answers · asked by emilybunnyq 1

2007-09-07 01:03:49 · 2 answers · asked by shweta 1

jobs here in phil its so hard to find, im only college level (undergraduate) but im computer literate, please help me find a job, i want to support my family, im serious...please do help me, hope some god hearted people read my message..please..thank you. god bless all

2007-09-07 01:00:59 · 4 answers · asked by jonathan p 1

my stepdaughter(16) went to FINISH OUT HER 10TH GRADE YEAR in arizona.
AFTER MONTHS OF BEGGING US WE LET HER GO after 6 months of being there. my husband is slapped with costudy papers claiming that my husband and i plus my daughter abuse her
why would they make up lies about us.
we are so hurt over this.
we heard that grandpa gaves her a new 300 dollar phone and promises her she will get a new truck next year.

2007-09-07 00:50:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've just discovered my dad's guilty secret and I don't know what to do. He and my mother have been married for almost thirty years and until recently seemed quite happy.
Then my mother began to feel she'd let herself go, she decided to make some changes, enrolled at college, had a funky hair cut and registered with Weight Watchers.
Somehow or other, she persuaded dad to accompany her, he could do with losing a few pounds, and it was a nice night out for them.
Well I just had a terrible shock. I spotted him in the greenhouse with Mrs Myers from two doors down, it was dreadful, great big slice of devils food cake in one hand and a donut in the other.
He says it was Mrs Myers and he couldn't say no, but my mother is going to be devastated by his cheating.
What can I do?

2007-09-07 00:45:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

the family is very dysfunctional. My mom only died a motnh ago and we are still grieiving yet everything must be done right now..this stuff has sat there for 50 years with no problem..there are 6 of us and brother just found a number of sentimental items like my mmom's Italian brith certificate, passport from when she was a war ride, marriage lincense,, and other such things..plus letter and card and who klnows what.

I as the oldest child have no say..my brother was named executer and has kept her room locked going through it at his liesure and probably taking stuff. He and another breother seem to want all the sentimental items. All of the pictures from 1928-1973 are missing..I have nearly no pictures of me before age 23 except a few I got before. there wre tons of them. One brother grabbed 3 albums saying they were his even though they have black and white pictures of other siblings..we did not even get to see them as he said they were from his house and grabbed them. I been

2007-09-07 00:18:02 · 7 answers · asked by janie 7

2007-09-06 23:46:48 · 16 answers · asked by V. Manohar 1

My friend gets child abused, she has showed me her cuts on her back, arms, and legs. She tells me not to tell anyone because she still loves her parents no matter what they do to her. :(( what do I do??

2007-09-06 23:15:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-06 22:43:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother passed away in Dec 05. I was 16 & my sis was 13. Well I now live with my bf & she lives with my dad. My dad did drugs my whole life. He is now clean again He has a decent job, goes to NA, owns a house & has a great gf. The problem is that my sister & I get SSI because of my moms death. Well my dad asks for $200 a month for bills around the house. I have no problem giving it to him. My sister gets upset & claims my father uses it on other things than the bills. I thought she was just being greedy with her money but I gave him $200(put in his bank account) because he called saying the water was was turned off, I believed him. But my sister & my brother's gf say the water never got turned off. I went & checked & it was on! I found a bill for the water & it wasn't even due yet! I have no idea what to do. I'm only 17! I mean if I don't give him the money he will be mad at me if I do give it to him my sis will be mad. What should I do? I don't know if I can confront him Please help

2007-09-06 22:35:32 · 12 answers · asked by S S 4

I need to phone a relative who has recently lost a son under very sad circumstances, what do I say to them? How do I start the conversation.

2007-09-06 22:29:24 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

This isn't an easy ? but my mom is angry that she didn't raise me better then she lashes out at me knowing certian things are her fault. I.E. : my not having a father or any positive role model to help guide me OR not being around growing up. Your basic abandonment/mother daughter love hate relationship song & dance. I have been in therapy for years & she has just as bad a temper as me if not worse. Why is she forcing ME into therapy but NOT admitting she has a problem too? I'm NOT a little girl FYI I am 25 years old & waiting to move out in Apri to my own house in Colorado & if she's not careful she may never see me again. I don't want it to come to that however in spite of it all I DO love her.

2007-09-06 22:09:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-06 22:00:43 · 10 answers · asked by june mark c 2

ok im a solder suffering from ptsd i have not ben to a shrink to get a diagnoses but they tell me i have it lol but it takes so long to get any thing done to get help i have panic attacks and i feel like killing myself and others often how do i get help all i need is some one to talk to every day but my doctor apptments are like one time a month thats so fin bull help me please

2007-09-06 21:44:28 · 6 answers · asked by chris_clark18 1

You know the fella that get tomato sauce up the kitchen wall,, rice bubbles or sugar on the floor *but it wasnt me??* what you want too do to this person??

2007-09-06 21:38:18 · 6 answers · asked by jo 5

I have been living in my partners home town for 3 years since 2004 , and it was a trek for me since im a city chick with a open mind,.I thought this would be interesting.Now I hate it here since I realised it wasnt working in so many ways .One of them was my butting in , overly needly over talker , passive aggressive selfish only caring for her son's welfare mother in law.Now I have mentioned to her im going back to the city and she thinks by me going her son will follow which he will eventually in a years time or so.Mother keeps mentioning to me to stay in this town by meeting other country people, but I already know the novelty has worn off and I need to stretch my wings and grow instead of hiding in the country.I need more mental stimulation and culture.Since I arrived the mother in law saw me as a threat and competition , and now that she knows Im leaving she's sweet as pie.I knew she was going to behave like this, but it only makes my departure hard.
How do I handle this one ?

2007-09-06 21:09:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

We will be heading to my husband's grandmother hometown.As usual that would mean, me putting up with the dogs. Not that I hate dogs but I dislike how their house smell of dog's saliva. They have 3 by the way and in addition , I have a baby that started to crawl. Will they be upset if I explain that I almost throw up because of the smell or do I just use my baby as an excuse?

2007-09-06 20:12:14 · 12 answers · asked by Any 1

she lives with her mother (in a million dollar house), is married with a kid -- just had a 30 thousand dollar wedding, doesn't work, is almost thirty, and collects foodstamps & medicaid! she annoys the he** outta me! what should i do. she is at every family get together & i want to be peaceful. we had a falling out right before her wedding when she turned into a monster telling me how ungrateful my husband is and how much she's done for "us people". (my hubby makes $50 grand/ year-- not a lot, but we sure don't rely on any handouts from this whiner!)
how should i behave around her? i've been avoiding her for months, and i don't see an apology from her every coming my way. my husband says i need to forget it and just treat her with love. uuugh! what should i do?

2007-09-06 20:07:47 · 9 answers · asked by not an angrygrrrl 1

Writing about 6 yr old son whose father I never told about the pregancy and birth because of his alcohol abuse and I am experiencing from my son a lot of interest and sadness because of the absence of that relationship. I cannot change my decision but I do not know how it is something I can make him understand and not suffer from. I am a successful partner in a law firm and I am able to provide for him without any assistance and he leads a full life.

2007-09-06 19:34:37 · 21 answers · asked by tcw 1

When we were young, I got all the attentions because I worked hard in school and always got first and second grades.
I was told by people and parent that I am beautiful and got all the attentions as well.Then our mother suffered chronic depression and our father was working away from home. As a result, I had to look after my 3 brother and sisters. I was just 9 years old when I start cooking, washing them and taking them to schools etc.
During teenage years, again I got all the attentions and receive good things first as I was first girl in the family.
When I was young I used to call her names, when she made me angry but I never planned for that.
Now, I am in my early forty's, my sister is holding grudge against me, and she deliberately puts me down in front of my man and she tries to win him by putting me down. She even date my date that was arranged by our mutual friend.
She is completely different when we are alone, but when we are in public, she acts like a stranger. I need closer

2007-09-06 18:22:34 · 7 answers · asked by sk t 1

I met this good guy, he's not that handsome or attractive, but a very interesting, smart, hard working, and sweet person, who can be any girl's dream husband. I am kind of picky about looks and don't know how am i going to get over with this but there is bigger problem. He wants serious things and all ready to get married and the things is that he just built his house and he lives with parents so there is no chance for us to live seperate. The thing with me i am kind of independent person and want to be free in my house and away from everybody. And also my work is dealing with clients, so my whole day is coming and going. I am thinking once we live with his parents it's goanna be so akward to deal with responsibilities and follow the traditions that his family has. So i don't know what to do. Should i give up the relationship since i don't want to face the situation. I spoke to him a few time about that and he's confused as much as i am because we both got connected somehow.

2007-09-06 18:22:32 · 5 answers · asked by blue5349 1

She thinks that turning 18 automatically made her an adult. I know legally this is true but she is not equipped with even her H.S.diploma. She is a senior and now is not even going to school. She also has no income.

2007-09-06 18:15:13 · 18 answers · asked by wanozi 1

My best friend's parents won't listen when she tells them that she thinks she is depressed.

They say she is just being overdramatic, but she really thinks she is going through some kind of depression. When she described how she felt, I agreed with her.

Her parents still won't listen and she can't seek medical advice because of that.

It's really affecting her and our friendship.

Can anyone help?

2007-09-06 17:45:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

What should I do?
It's because that when I tell them how I feel or criticize them... guess what? I get screamed at and brushed off by them. They would say things such as, "You ungrateful little brat, we raised you and this is how you repay us!"/"Why don't you find another family to go to if you say that!?". I think you get the idea now.
I know what you're thinking, I understand that they buy me things, raised me, give me advice, and teach me about life, but, however, they don't care about how I feel. The truth is that I don't really care much at all that they buy me so much things or give me money. All I just wanted them to do was listen and hear me out. That's why I'm not that close with my family. Trust me, I have tried to get them to understand, but I gave up a long time ago. I really do want to open up to them, but they don't want to hear me out or cooperate with me. I'm not done yet.

2007-09-06 17:42:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous