Family - September 2007

18 year olds that think they want to get married, no money, no job live with his Mom....?
She lived a sheltered life, no girlfriends, JW religion, strict parents, left home at 17 cuz she met someone "online" who happened to live in the same town, first bf, known each other for 2 months, and "He" is very smothering, has to know her every move, she can't go anywhere, he's suspicious of everything. I think she's way off target about getting married! But she see's it all as LOVE! And I (the Aunt) know the whole thing is doomed, foolish and don't want her to do it...but shes treating it like planning a birthday party, and not thinking about reality. And now her Mom (my sister) informs me she can't "host" the bridal shower, because she has a "class", and wants me to do it. I think thats horrible!, and it just tells me she's not taking it too seriously either. Bottom line...I don't want to be a part any of it. So I told them, and now my whole family hates me saying "I broke her heart"

2007-09-08 03:53:00 · 4 answers · asked by Peaceful 3

I know that this is not true because it come directly out of his check b4 he even see's that money. (so on top of the fact that we're trying to find a way to get his visitation order enforced) Its reporting that he's not paying. Who do we go to, to correct this mistake. We have the proof, whose going to look at it.

2007-09-08 03:43:34 · 5 answers · asked by prissymnm 2

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sandy
S Money question?
has anyone ever had to take a bunch of change into a store to buy something , because you were broke and if you did how did you feel when people were looking ? weve all been there i just want to know how otheres have felt .

2007-09-08 03:42:34 · 2 answers · asked by Sandy 3

I recently arrived at a boarding school and am extremely homesick. I miss my friends my family even just the thought of my house and I breakdown into tears. I can't even go out to the dances because I'm worried about people seeing me crying. I've even thought about doing something bad just so I could get suspended and sent home. Please somebody help me getover this homesickness.

2007-09-08 03:02:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was sexually abused years ago by my mums brother(he was aged about 17-18 at the time, and I was 5 or 6), I did not tell anyone about it till I was 16, I told my mum. I also found out he abused my sister aswell. My mum told me at first not to tell anyone cos they would never believe me, and she also said he was too young to know what he was doing. After that she turned to complete denial and said she did not believe me. To this day she has never even asked her brother if he did it, or said she believes me but I think she does believe me now, deep down.

She still visits him, and tells me about it, and when I tell her I am not interested in anything to do with him she gets offended.
This has affected me alot and I just cannot forget about it, I have no respect for my mum-but we have an okay relationship on the surface. Do I need to just forgive and move on? How can I though if noone ever admits anything bad happened?
this WAS serious sexual abuse by the way.

2007-09-08 02:40:11 · 9 answers · asked by ditto 2

My child's father continues to believe that we are still together, after a split two months ago. We gave it two tries and it's not going to work. I want to stay away from a custody battle and resolve things ourselves. However, he keeps using our child as a reason to "drop by." This is a serious invasion of my privacy! How am I ever going to move on with this constant aggravation? He's had three years worth of chances, and I can't seem to convince him that there is someone else better suited for him!

2007-09-08 02:24:21 · 9 answers · asked by Jenny 1

i am a girl soon will be 20, but life's all dead... i was average kid have brains but never scored extremely good, dumb in sports or any extra curricular, never saw mom and dad getting along... elder bro is thr but he got his life and not living with us meanwhile.
i dont see any enthusiasm for life in my parents... they keep blaming things.., each other and me..., i appreciate they did lot for me and brother... but thats all materialistic... they love me but dont understand a bit... they dont understnd my life's different. if they had painful past so did we kids with them...
i want them to start living in present but i being shut up by them.

i am not a very social person... i dont make lot frnz... my college mates are hypocrites corrupted...
i want to live life... whenever i stay at home for few days when college is off... my whole eneegy is drained... and am left with question "what should be done?"

can any1 suggest?

and am getting addicted to chatting

2007-09-08 02:07:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i hate my cousin khoa, she is ******* rude to me and she say stuff about me.And what can i do?I dont want to fight with her because i fight with her like a million times.She ask for my stuff and i say yah but when i ask her back she say no.She always tell me to do this and that.All the time what can i do???

2007-09-08 00:55:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mum and 3 kids. My son is driving me mad. The question is what can we do today. Anyone got any ideas? Thank you!!

2007-09-08 00:42:20 · 9 answers · asked by eka 2

2007-09-07 23:39:12 · 4 answers · asked by Intellithug 3

I really need the money to pay bills, but I am afraid to ask. I haven't seen him in three years. The last time I saw him was at my wedding, he and my step mom (who hates me) didn't give even us a wedding gift. I'll be asking him over the phone tonight. Does anyone have any idea how I should approach this? What should I say? I'm really nervous about asking him-I used to "borrow" money from him all the time in college and never paid him back. The last time I asked him for money was in 1997 ($3500) to go to a vocational school that I ended up quitting and I never paid him back-and my step mom thinks I'm a loser. I have a good job now, but I got behind on bills and am desperate for the money.

2007-09-07 22:57:37 · 15 answers · asked by surf b 1

How can we minimize hate, bitterness, hurt feelings, and anger this weekend when we meet to split up some of the stuff. It is only a month since mom died and I cannot understand the big rush to do it all now and in one day..they are all stressing me out. Is this normal..the family is real dysfunctional and my brother nearly attacked me twice..once from stress of the day and saying the flower spray was too much (at the most $50 over the cheapest one)..he screamed, said I weas lying to hiom and truying to chat him, vowed revenge and broke glass in the house and overturned books...another time went craxy because I wanted to ask the lawyer what a legal paper was before signing it..he screamed, im,plied he would cheat my on the will which he can do as to how it was written and demanded my mom's house key back..we did make up but this is crazy..I am dreading Sunday and feel I will get cheated, hurt feelings, and not the things I would like...I feel like not gouing but he said I need to go

2007-09-07 21:39:46 · 9 answers · asked by janie 7

I DON'T want to AT ALL, but as his girlfriends mom said to me
"they are just going to get sneaky, so it might as well be under a safe roof".
OMG where is this world coming to? Am I alone thinking H@#% NOOOOOO?

2007-09-07 20:46:11 · 23 answers · asked by Aloha Dre 3

My mom died a month ago. We are splitting up the personal effects like pictures (Some of them), the prized personal documents like old love letters, birth certificates, passports. parents grade cards and much more, and also handing out the things left us in the will. The family is very dysfunctional. Also the pattern is they are rude or mean or something to me, I react and get hurt or angry or upset and then I am the bad guy,.

We predict big fights and conflicts..how can I have peace and not let them get to me. I want to make color copies at kinko's of all the things like birth and marriage certificates and such and take pictures of all prized or sentimental items that are not papers so we each get a copy at least (there are 6 of us all different in personality and most strong willed and bossy) before any of these items are split up and fought over or maybe lotteries off. I offered to copy to help prevent fights and bad feeling but noone trusts me and a brother who we don't

2007-09-07 20:20:27 · 3 answers · asked by janie 7

well recently we had this sorta fashion show thing & i had a black fitted tank top and i let my hair loose--my hair is like really wavy and a little curly and quite long(till 3/4 of my back)..my friends were like u look really hot & yea..my friends always tell me to leave my hair loose, but since we have a uniform im supposed to tie it but sometimes i can leave it open..but i thought i should experiment with my hair to see how it would look like if i'd leave it open..so 2-3 days i left it open--then my mom told me u look really bad when u leave your hair open & when u left it open when going in the bus --u were looking ugly. i was shocked & the most strangest thing is that i know if i was looking bad someone would comment or say eww--all my friends--even people who i dont know say i have nice hair and i should leave it open instead of making a ponytail.my mom said she was embarrased of even coming out because i looked so bad when my hair was open--how could that be true?i mean teachers

2007-09-07 20:10:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

with sexual temptaions toward her young cousin. she is like our daughter, she spends lots of time @ our house and we go swimming together, and she is 13-14 years old, very lovely blonde, slender, and very curvy. however she has not wuite learned how to act with certain clothes on...she wears low cut shirts and i can totally see down her chest. she goes swimming in very skimpy bikinis and acts as if she is wearing jeans! how do i train my thoughts away from the sexual temptations, and just love her like i did before she reached maturity!?

2007-09-07 19:55:45 · 14 answers · asked by j-man 1

who the most important person you have lost, i'm remebering my father who passed away 10 years ago and it's the anniversary, he was a great father and the only person who understood me, i love him and miss him dearly, i have people who support me lke my great fiance and family, but i also had that special someone, also 9/11 anniversary is coming up and i know many people are sad this weekend like me about my dad, so if you feel like sharing any story feel free to do so thanks and please be sincere

2007-09-07 19:50:30 · 9 answers · asked by ) 2

that their children are like "locked Up" in their house..and have them homestudy..and not allowed to go out for all their lives until the time comes when they're older and marry? what do u think?

2007-09-07 18:05:23 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister is 14... and naive as far as I am concerned. I have caught her doing a lot of things lately, like sneaking out, and talking to guys who are my age about drinking. I'm 17. I've laughed everything off up until this point, but I'm starting to worry that she will make the same mistakes -- that being getting into trouble with older guys -- that I did at her age. I can't decide whether to have a serious talk with her or just let her make her own mistakes... help me decide. Thanks.

2007-09-07 17:51:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i hate them! my mom acts so annoying and acts very ridiculous towards me and is just so angry at times. then my sister on the other hand looks like a tramp with her clothing and sleezy personality. then my dad is a huge jerk! you need to see it to believe it. how do i get over this?

2007-09-07 17:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

A lot of teen activities are from 7-12 or 8-12. Including church activities.

2007-09-07 17:40:42 · 9 answers · asked by rundelltoni 1

First thing first, my sister got her laptop computer taken away today as a consequence for lying to my parents (she's 15... I'm 13).
Today, while I was at a rehearsal, I accidentally forgot to log off of my computer. I have a Mac, so every time Safari (which like Internet Explorer) opens, it records your history.
When I got back from rehearsal, I saw that she'd gone on a few website on my computer while I was gone (I saw this on my history in Safari).
I normally log off ALL the time, and a password is needed to get back in that only I know.
Considering that I'll try my best to prevent this from happening again, should I confront my sister about it? - OR should I confront my parents about it?
Should I confront both my parents and my sister? - OR Should I just keep quiet?
Which, do you think, would be the right think to do? =\

Thank you so much for your help!

2007-09-07 17:13:06 · 43 answers · asked by Life On Wheels 2

I have a stept sister. I like her. not as a friend...like like her. I have a crush on her but im not realy sure if tis ok to feel this way. I noly ask this cus were not related what-so ever...but i like her... IS this right or wrong?

2007-09-07 16:43:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 5yr old told me today that he doesn't like his heart and that he doesn't feel special. He does have a new baby sister ( 18mths ) and we try to spend as much quality time together as a family, but this nearly killed me to hear this, has anyone else experienced this ? I need help with the type of questions I can ask, to have him explain what's going on in his head ( or heart ). He doesn't like to play much on his own and it's difficult for me to keep him occupied sometimes. Any thoughts?

2007-09-07 16:38:36 · 6 answers · asked by dishjunkey 1

ok, so heres the deal, he bought my brother online stuff for his ps2 which probably cost around 150 dollars or more and guess what: he wont buy me the barbie girls mp3 player and he says well where am i gonna get one, and i said amazon sells them. and i've tried telling him its not fair that my brother got all that online stuff for christmas that one year. oh and did i mention it only cost around 70 dollars where my brothers stuff was probably a lot more. so is this fair?

2007-09-07 16:31:46 · 10 answers · asked by ♥sbg14♥ 1

I have been against their relationship, from the beginning, social services and police told me there was no evidence they were intimate, I knew they were from the beginning when she was 16, and he was 32. He has 4 kids and Peggy chose her bf over her own family, She moved out and i was at physical therapy. She very rudely told her step-dad that he was not her father and that she could move out if she wanted to. Her stepdad had bought her a lap top that we could ill- afford ( we are at the poverty level right now) and the neighbors heard the death threats. Peggy is smart, but not life-smart. We gave her all she wanted, my younger two kids, as well, and still she left to be with Jimmy. She wouild not tell me where he lived and it was a year before i got his phone #. She would go with him, after school on Friday and spend the weekend with him, and I couldn't call the police since I didn't know where she was at. I am happy she is gone. Should i be? My kids miss her.my hubby and i do not

2007-09-07 16:19:46 · 5 answers · asked by Dragonflygirl 7

hello all i am a 17 years old guy

im kinda having trouble here ever since i remember fell shy bringing a girl/gf over to just chill watch a movie or whatever because of my parents. i just dont like it when we are close to each other and my parents pass by...i just feel uncomfterble when my parents see me with a girl...
can anyone help me out what should i do?

2007-09-07 16:17:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

She always gets her way and my parents always believe her.

2007-09-07 16:14:14 · 4 answers · asked by sharmaine 1

Hi, I have a four year old little boy, and I know alot of people are going to think I'm crazy or I shouldn't do it...if you're one of those people...please don't reply...Ok I'm trying to teach my son how to be appreciative of everything he has...I was very poor growing up, and I've made sure he's not had to live like that...he pretty much gets what he wants, and I would like to take him somewhere like a soup kitchen or something like that to show him how things could be/how they are for some people...I want him to be appreciative of what he has...WHERE DO I TAKE HIM?!?!?!?! I would like it to be somewhere that involves children, so he could slightly relate/understand them better...HELP!!!

2007-09-07 16:12:36 · 21 answers · asked by *mad_eh_sun* 2

what he or she likes to do
what kind of person he/she is
and explain how you feel about this child.

2007-09-07 16:05:04 · 7 answers · asked by Dream 1