I DON'T want to AT ALL, but as his girlfriends mom said to me
"they are just going to get sneaky, so it might as well be under a safe roof".
OMG where is this world coming to? Am I alone thinking H@#% NOOOOOO?
2007-09-07 20:46:11 · 23 answers · asked by Aloha Dre 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Um that girls mother sounds a bit off, not be mean but I would say HELL NO too. Sure kids are going to do what they want, but what kind of message are you sending when you basically
tell them its ok. Yeah I had sex with my bf when I was 17 but my mother didn't approve and she sure as hell wouldn't have let him sleep at our house. Its really just not right, they will be 18 soon enough and can do as they please when they are out on their own, no need to rush things like that. Hopefully you stick to your guns and don't give in to it. Good luck, and remember all the begging and crying your son might do now he will thank you later for being a good role model.
2007-09-07 23:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jenniferann88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world does "safe roof" mean? Does her mom expect to watch and make sure proper sex etiquette is used?
Providing an easier path to sex is not the answer, nor should it be perceived as being "safer". In fact, her position is probably making your nephew think she's going to turn a blind eye - like he's got the green light. That's just not right.
If they really want to have sex, they're going to find a way. She's right about that. But for them to know the parents don't care and are even aiding them is far more dangerous. They are "children". They need to realize that they are going to be held accountable for the decisions they make in life. This is one of life's biggest. The last thing they need is for the parents to encourage it.
2007-09-07 20:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi well youre more than likely going to hate this response from me but his mum is right as long as it is legal in the uk they can get married at 16,and start a family ,look if they are going to have sex that will happen any where and it could be more dangerous youre nephew is being growen up about things and asking his mum for permission for his g/f to stay over ,look he could wait til the house is empty and still be doing it behind his parents back which i think is a worse situation as when he would be found out ,there would be some all mighty row and everyone would be saying ....why did you not ask her to stay over ,he has thought about it and how is to say that they are going to be sleeping in the same bed ,he could be on the sofa when she stays the night and think about it do you really think that they are going to have sex with his parents in the next room or where ever it is .....i think youre over reacting a bit ,do you remember being a teenager and being in love ?may you remember to well and are scared of what could happen ??calm down and chill out ,his mother is ok with it .............take care xx
2007-09-07 22:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This mother is setting her daughter up for heart ache down the road. She is teaching her it's ok to have causual sex and not have any consequences from it. This mother is every boys dream, unlimited sex one night a week, pretty soon it will be two, three and a condom will be forgotten, birth control missed, and whala the first kid is on the way. All under a safe roof.
2007-09-07 23:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone might sneak, doesn't mean that you don't stand up for what you believe in. When he is 18 he can do what he wants, but right now, put your foot down. I think spending the night is totally inappropriate and I would never allow it. What an idiot his girlfriends mother is. She's one of those parents that wants her daughter to think she's "cool" instead of doing what is right. If her daughter wanted to smoke crack, or have orgies in her room, would she allow that? Where would this moron draw the line?
2007-09-07 23:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 17 and have been living with my boyfriend for almost 6 months. Although you don't want them to spend the night together it will happen eventually. Whether you know or not. Even though you don't like it talk to him and voice your opinion. If he still wants to do it then just make sure if they are havoing sex while together get him informed. I hope my advice helps a little.
2007-09-07 21:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by S S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of friends of mine have similar conundrums with their teenagers.
They've all come to the same conclusion as you ..
Better under a safe roof cos it's gonna happen anyway .
14 or 15yeos I'd think again but age 17, they're probably at it anyway. They know the dangers .. Ask them if they've considered the ramifications.. I'm sure they have. let it go
2007-09-07 20:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by willywallwalker 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no, you're not alone. my nephew is also turning 17, and he is staying at the girl's house for almost 2 months now. it is also ok with my nephew's mom, but not with me. however,i can't do anything about it but accept it and hope that nothing untoward will happen and that my nephew will be able to finish his studies. also, it is okey with her mom.makes you frustrated? so it does also with me.
2007-09-07 20:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the age of the young lady he is dating, your nephew could be looking at some serious jail time if her parents press charges for statutory rape.
2007-09-07 20:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Juan Z 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts, its better that they come and talk to you about it then sneaking behind your back and doing other stuff. If you cant trust him now you never will hes 17 hes almost an adult.
2007-09-08 00:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by nichole l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋