oldest daughter bf made death threats to me and I was not home, she moved out to be with him. he is 34, she,18

Question

I have been against their relationship, from the beginning, social services and police told me there was no evidence they were intimate, I knew they were from the beginning when she was 16, and he was 32. He has 4 kids and Peggy chose her bf over her own family, She moved out and i was at physical therapy. She very rudely told her step-dad that he was not her father and that she could move out if she wanted to. Her stepdad had bought her a lap top that we could ill- afford ( we are at the poverty level right now) and the neighbors heard the death threats. Peggy is smart, but not life-smart. We gave her all she wanted, my younger two kids, as well, and still she left to be with Jimmy. She wouild not tell me where he lived and it was a year before i got his phone #. She would go with him, after school on Friday and spend the weekend with him, and I couldn't call the police since I didn't know where she was at. I am happy she is gone. Should i be? My kids miss her.my hubby and i do not

Answer 1

The problem is that "you gave her everything she wanted" until what she wanted was a 32 year old man! She will have to learn the hard way, that this guy is no good. Which will probably happen in about 2 years, when she no longer looks like a 16 year old. This part has to be just the tip of the iceberg though, for you to be happy that she is gone. I lived through a similar experience, and it is hard when your feelings do not match what everyone else thinks they should be.

Answer 2

First I just want to know why you didn't stop her from seeing him? If you had his phone number and or his name you could have given it to the police and they could have tracked him down. I don't know how you could be happy that your child is gone knowing that the guy she is with may be dangerous. I don't think that you are happy about it or you wouldn't be on here. I think its just a way of covering up your hurt. Anyway, I hope that everything works out for you and your daughter. I"m not trying to judge you, I just don't believe you when you say your happy and don't miss her. Good luck

Answer 3

With your next kids, if this happens, tell the guy to not come around, and you'll get him for trespassing if he does come around. If she went with him for a weekend, you could have called the police and filed a missing person report or something like that.

Anyway, eventually she'll get tired of his crap, and hopefully she'll not get pregnant. She'll probably come back to you repentant.

As an add on...if he made death threats, file charges on his butt and get a restraining order...

Also, now would be a good time to start spanking your other kids if they disobey...I'm thinking she probably only got time outs.

Also, teenagers don't need laptops, cell phones, phones in their rooms, or any privacy, except to get bathed and dressed.

Answer 4

hmmm well that is scary. wel u can always hate her but u will always love her as ur daughter an all. maybe u r wrong it just dont seem right. try to prove to ur daughter that there is something bad about that guy

Answer 5

maybe the reason why she acts like this is because maybe she felt rejection when she was young , maybe somethin happned to her in the past go and have a nice chat to her and ask her if she felt rejection when she was young.