do you agree with "super-strict" parents?

Question

that their children are like "locked Up" in their house..and have them homestudy..and not allowed to go out for all their lives until the time comes when they're older and marry? what do u think?

Answer 1

no i don't agree with super strict parents

i would say that parents should be strict in a sense that they allow the maximum possible advantages for their children that are within the constraints of safety and biblical standards

homestudy is not really the best choice because students at school have alot more advantages than homeschoolers (like they have a teacher to teach them)

they shouldn't be locked up in their house...they should be allowed to go places and stuff as long as it doesn't lead to dangerou stuff u no what i mean

no they should be allowed to date and go out and stuff when they're teenagers, but i would think that they should have instructions of the "what not to do's"...

so in my opinion superstrict parents aren't necessarily going to help the child, because it will develop resentment that will come out later and they may leave home or something and the situation would turn out worse than in the first place

so the best kind of parents would be parents that allow the maximum possible advantages for their children provided that those advantages are not bad or go against the bible

also the bible says that children are to be trained in the right way, but not necessarily super strictly?!

what do u think?

Answer 2

It can be disastrous. My brother and sil were like that with their oldest daughter. When she turned 18 she ran away from home and ended up pregnant. She is 19 and married the baby's dad, but she is having a hard time adjusting to being a wife. She is immature on so many levels. She spends every day over at her parent's house and will not stay home with her husband. She acts like a 13 yr. old most of the time, just giggly and silly acting for her age. Poor social skills and very naive. She was home schooled and they chose her friends for her. I think parents should be strict, but should also balance that with alowing them some freedom to make their own decisions and learn some life skills.

Answer 3

I think what you are describing borders on abuse. The whole idea of having kids is so that they can grow up and live decent, productive lives. If they are so sheltered from the actual world while growing up, then they will not be able to deal with it when they are adults. I know a local family who is like this because of extreme religious views-- the father did not want his children "contaminated'' by others. Those kids are messed up and unemployable, because their "homeschooling" consisted of reading the bible, and memorizing the verses. No math, or science. When one of the youngest came to me wanting a job at 18, against his parents wishes, he could not even fill out the simple application for employment that we use.

Answer 4

I think some kids might come out alright from that, but at worst the kids could end up at a couple extremes:

-So insulated and cut off that they have a hard time interacting with people in the larger world and remain forever locked inside themselves and very shy

-After so long locked up, they could go wild and get into all sorts of trouble as a reaction against the strictness (I've seen that before).

Obviously you want to watch out for your kids and make sure they're behaving, but keeping them cloistered for so long can suffocate them. I've had friends who were homechooled, but their parents weren't strict and made an effort to socialize them at every opportunity.

Answer 5

Its both Good and Bad
This sounds like Rapunzel It's good to keep an eye on your kids especially protecting them for harms way, the world is dangerous, but keeping them locked up until the children are old enough for marriage is something i don't agree with. I understand they are protecting them but at the same time it gives them less opportunity's to explore the world,travel,learn about different lifestyles, learn how to deal with certain situations, and not only it can have an negative effect on the minds being locked up for most of their life would have a probabilty of having a breakdown since they are not exposed to the society the proper way.

Answer 6

I don't think homeschooling is strict, what with the state of schools these days it's a good choice.

But overly strict parents I don't agree with. I know someone who is almost 20 and is practically a prisoner in her parents home. She's barely allowed to go out except to school.

When I lived with my mom I wasn't allowed out after dark whatsoever, even as an 18 year old.

I think parents have the right to make the rules of their house, but they also need to raise people who can function in society, not locked up forever

Answer 7

No. Parents should be caring, and loving but strict.
Super strict is going over board. If the kids never socialize, they'll never marry or move out. Plus if you prohibit them from going out with someone of the opposite sex, until they're older, that choice will back fire and never stop even when they are older and/or married. And that is immoral family bondage!

Answer 8

At some time later, these children will have to go out into the world and confront all the dangers and pleasures of a society.
Where will they learn these skills. How will they know how to protect themselves from danger. Sounds like the parents are guilty of the most serious child abuse.

Answer 9

no,I don't. being "super-strict" gives nothing good to the children. it makes the children lacking of confidence and unsocial. there are much more better ways to guide the children. in most cases, the children doesn't like to be "strictly locked up" and there grows distance between parents and the children. my own experience says that, many of these children goes sopiled when they are at last "free".

Answer 10

I don't agree with it - they are totally guided by their parents, and are not allowed to see and live through the world on their own. They won't be able to know the mistakes they can make, or know as much as they can know, or pursue what they are best at. They can't see the world for what it is, and more than likely, they will not have their own opinion.