What do I do now?????? foolish family?

Question

18 year olds that think they want to get married, no money, no job live with his Mom....?
She lived a sheltered life, no girlfriends, JW religion, strict parents, left home at 17 cuz she met someone "online" who happened to live in the same town, first bf, known each other for 2 months, and "He" is very smothering, has to know her every move, she can't go anywhere, he's suspicious of everything. I think she's way off target about getting married! But she see's it all as LOVE! And I (the Aunt) know the whole thing is doomed, foolish and don't want her to do it...but shes treating it like planning a birthday party, and not thinking about reality. And now her Mom (my sister) informs me she can't "host" the bridal shower, because she has a "class", and wants me to do it. I think thats horrible!, and it just tells me she's not taking it too seriously either. Bottom line...I don't want to be a part any of it. So I told them, and now my whole family hates me saying "I broke her heart"

Answer 1

Don't worry. You can laugh and say I told you so in 2 years or less when she's getting a divorce.

Answer 2

i don't see how you broke her heart. the mother was the one giving the bridal shower and decided a "class" is more important. why should you have to take over a function that wasn't your plan to begin with? i think her mother should be the person that everyone is angry at. also, i wouldn't voice my opinion about the wedding, she's not your daughter and not your place to decide what happens. if the marriage is meant to be it will work out; and, if it's not, you can tell yourself you were right. be a guest, enjoy yourself and let them make their own choices in life.

Answer 3

Her mom should have more sense, like you. I can hardly believe this is happening. What is that mother thinking?

Answer 4

You did the right thing.....dont worry about it.....it will all work out!