My child's father continues to believe that we are still together, after a split two months ago. We gave it two tries and it's not going to work. I want to stay away from a custody battle and resolve things ourselves. However, he keeps using our child as a reason to "drop by." This is a serious invasion of my privacy! How am I ever going to move on with this constant aggravation? He's had three years worth of chances, and I can't seem to convince him that there is someone else better suited for him!
2007-09-08 02:24:21 · 9 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think the best thing to do is to fight for full custody! You might want to wait until you get your taxes back though due to the little thing he hold over your head. Hopefully, he will screw up and go to prison or something. I would get it to where if he shows up just automatically call the law on him, but no wait a month or so to make sure he doesn't have that one thing to hold over you, which want be that long. I hate the wait he treats people especially you and YOUR precious child! You and your son are the best thing that has happened to you, me, and Brandon. It made us all get back into school and all kinds of things I want go on about it right now, on here. You are an amazing woman and deserve much better. We love you and in time things will work out.
2007-09-08 10:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really believe your child's father is a rational person, set up a meeting to discuss the issue. Explain to him that you want him to assist in raising your child but his unexpected drop-bys are a problem. Try to come up with an agreement on when you will watch the child and when he will watch the child. For example, you care for the child 7 am Monday-7pm Thursday; Dad takes the child 7pm Thursday-7am Monday.
If you can't come to an agreement, you should seriously consider consulting with an attorney that specializes in this area. If your child is your ex's main concern, he should be more than willing to come to an agreement.
Good luck
2007-09-08 03:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Micah H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenny .....
Some guys don't take no for a answer .... get the custody dealing done with by a legal advisor or lawyer and flied in court .... that should also address child support ..... or he could just sign away his parental rights and walk away .... that may be the best in the long run.
Nothing worse than sticky gum on you shoe that won't come off !
Good Luck.
2007-09-08 02:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never married, then you need to go and get guardianship established. If his name is on the birth certificate, he can take the child at any time, but not if you have guardianship. You then can arrange visitation and move on with this. You will need to talk to someone in the legal profession to see how this is done in your state. A paralegal should be able to give you some direction. I would do this without telling anyone so he does not go down and do it before you.
2007-09-08 02:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet, sweetheart, is to get a custody and visitation order from the court that outlines, specifically, what days and times he can come and pick up/drop off your son for visits. Seems to me this would be the clearest way to explain to your ex that it's over and will also save you all the trouble. Good luck!!
2007-09-08 02:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by tuggybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a restraining order, through the courts, child visitation hearing go through the courts, file the papers and quit being a victim, grow up.
2007-09-08 02:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting him in when he "drops by." By letting him in you are appearing wishy-washy about the breakup to him. Don't appease him to avoid the confrontation of custody.
2007-09-08 02:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gary A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a stop to his "dropping by." You're in charge of your house and need to set the rules.
2007-09-08 02:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a male friend be at the house with you on a regular basis and if he doesn't get the hint that way get a restrainning order I had to on my ex husband
2007-09-08 02:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋