I met this good guy, he's not that handsome or attractive, but a very interesting, smart, hard working, and sweet person, who can be any girl's dream husband. I am kind of picky about looks and don't know how am i going to get over with this but there is bigger problem. He wants serious things and all ready to get married and the things is that he just built his house and he lives with parents so there is no chance for us to live seperate. The thing with me i am kind of independent person and want to be free in my house and away from everybody. And also my work is dealing with clients, so my whole day is coming and going. I am thinking once we live with his parents it's goanna be so akward to deal with responsibilities and follow the traditions that his family has. So i don't know what to do. Should i give up the relationship since i don't want to face the situation. I spoke to him a few time about that and he's confused as much as i am because we both got connected somehow.
2007-09-06 18:22:32 · 5 answers · asked by blue5349 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have learn a very important aspect of life. We should judge a person not according to the appearance, but how the person treats you. If you where my daughter I would advise you not to move in. You can still establish a relationship with him, but even you know there can be future problems.
Try to explain to him of your independence, and share with him the importance of the relationship, even if his parents welcome you into the house. Open your concern to them as well, just in case you do move in, at least you already made your point.
I am not trying to earn the 10 points from you. I just like to help-think twice about your decision. He is bless to have a love-soul like you...God bless
2007-09-06 19:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you like this guy and kudos for you for not falling for just looks. You said yourself he could be a girls dream husband. People get more attractive as you become intellectually stimulated by them. I can tell you a number of girls I would consider relationships with cause they were down to earth, normal and fun to hang out with, not cause they are hot. The living situation may change, will you be kicking yourself in the future for letting this good guy go cause of his looks and living arrangements?
2007-09-07 01:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by DMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r facing the dilemm a every modern girl at the brink of balancing career n family does. I feel that the best bet would be to continue the job n clear it before ur fiancee. Relationships take a u turn proverbially after a few years of marriage, so ur job will cushion much of ur heartburn.
2007-09-07 01:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very difficult to begin a new life with someone with the parents right there. It wouldn't work for me. He'll have a hard time finding a woman to share his life under these circumstances. Don't do it if you have doubts. Follow your gut instincts.
2007-09-07 01:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loe each other, there is a solution. Leave his parents in that house, and get yourselves anothe place to live. If you can not compromise, best to leave the relationship because you will never truly be happy.
2007-09-07 01:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋