I'm really bitter towards my family, especially my parents...?

Question

What should I do?
It's because that when I tell them how I feel or criticize them... guess what? I get screamed at and brushed off by them. They would say things such as, "You ungrateful little brat, we raised you and this is how you repay us!"/"Why don't you find another family to go to if you say that!?". I think you get the idea now.
I know what you're thinking, I understand that they buy me things, raised me, give me advice, and teach me about life, but, however, they don't care about how I feel. The truth is that I don't really care much at all that they buy me so much things or give me money. All I just wanted them to do was listen and hear me out. That's why I'm not that close with my family. Trust me, I have tried to get them to understand, but I gave up a long time ago. I really do want to open up to them, but they don't want to hear me out or cooperate with me. I'm not done yet.

They try to get me to open up to them, but at the same time they EXPECT me to come to to them. When they try to do that, they always ask me impatiently such as "Well"/"Are you going to say something?". That just proves that they want to rush everything. I thought that getting someone to open up to you takes your time and patience.
When I have my own interests that are different from theirs, I get mocked and ridiculed. For example, I was watching the anime called "Fruits Basket" and one day my brother only saw a few clips and shortly he told me, "Quit watching that gay show!". He didn't even give it a chance.
They're always wondering why I'm the quiet one and I turned out different from them. My brother informed me that the family always talks about how did I become just about completely different from them. Why would I want to become like them? They're self-righteous, hypocritical, impatient, and pushy. I know I have a lot to say and I'm not done yet.

They think that just because I'm the youngest, they label me as immature and don't know much.
At school, even my teachers and closest friends know me better than my family. The teachers even often mistake me for being a junior(11th grade) or senior(12th grade). I'm just still barely a sophmore in high school. Even though, they don't say it, they reactions proved how surprised they were when each time they asked me what grade level I was in. They tell me I'm really mature for my age, despite that I still kept my innocence from childhood.
I just wanted someone to hear me out, even just once is enough. They don't have to agree with me if they don't want to. All I just wanted was to be heard out, even just a little bit is great. That's basically all I wanted to say.

I forgot to add that they are extremely overbearing and overprotective. I was going to a friend's house and stayed there from 1:00 PM-7:00PM. They kept checking in every few hours and they demanded me to come home and they screamed, "If you want to stay there, then don't come home!". Then I had to leave and go home. They can't even trust me to go over to a friend's house. I'm a moral child that would never do something so bad at a friend's house.
All my life, I've felt like I was never really welcomed into my family. It felt like living in a cage. I know that I under their house and have to follow their rules. But it feels so restricting.
They expect me to do things right on the first try. For example, just because I accidentally put too much water in the rice, it turned out all soggy, my brother didn't even give me a second chance. They scream as if it was me getting into trouble with the law, if I made any mistakes.

If they made any mistakes I take it patiently and hear them out and give them another chance.

To Sandy B, you've got a really great idea, but even then if I told them, I'd still get screamed at.

Answer 1

All this takes practice. Your parents need more practice and you need more practice. Parents are not always ready to hear what a child says. Grown children aren't always tactful in getting feelings across. In fact, nobody likes to hear criticism. It takes skill to deliver criticism so that it will be accepted.

I've heard kids tell their parents that they are "so gross'. Who wants to hear that? Then the parents yell back: "Shut up".

Let your parents get used to the idea of you having an opinion and being grown up. Wait until you are both in the car alone. Some of my best parent conversations have been in the car. Start a conversation with: "I'd like to tell you my opinion about ____.......or, "want to hear my opinion about?"

Start with something small. Get them used to talking to you in a more grown up way. You will see, you will get the attention that you want and deserve.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

It's just your age, you are going through a lot of changes mentally, and they are learning how to deal, some parents dont know what to do. Trust me when I say that they are just as frustrated, try writing a letter and leaving it on the table before you leave, sometimes it's easier for people to get messages through letters, and people describe there feelings better on paper also. Don't have the attitude that you gave up a long time ago, you wouldn't want them to give up on you. you know you can't choose your family they will always be in your life and when you are grown up and moved out, they wil be your best friends. just give it time hun.

Answer 3

Just remember that parents are human too. They make mistakes. Sometimes they just don't know how to handle a situation, so they will say things that sound foolish to you. Just understand that you are not the only one that feels that way. One day you will be able to make your own decisions and live your life the way tht you want to. In the meantime, don't get your expectations of your parents too high. They will never live up to them. Just accept them for what they are. If you have problems that you can not discuss with them, try talking to your school counselor. They are trained in helping students with their problems.

Answer 4

Hi Riko,
well at some age parents call them "ho you too
young or ho you too big"
just forget all that you only think about our future
like do more study hard,
do you best, then they'll reallies their mistakes.
show them your grades then they'll be attrack
to you,
parents are human they make mistakes.
why don't you show this ( your question print out)
its good that you have open up, with this question.
some boys start doing wrong things with peer group.

Answer 5

I wonder what it would be like if you showed them this. But anyway, you can't change people. Just find people you can relate to and can talk to. You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. And don't hold resentment and bitterness, because it's not good for you.

Answer 6

Hey bey active with your parents do a show think parents visit than often when you have time and have fun pleas.