she lives with her mother (in a million dollar house), is married with a kid -- just had a 30 thousand dollar wedding, doesn't work, is almost thirty, and collects foodstamps & medicaid! she annoys the he** outta me! what should i do. she is at every family get together & i want to be peaceful. we had a falling out right before her wedding when she turned into a monster telling me how ungrateful my husband is and how much she's done for "us people". (my hubby makes $50 grand/ year-- not a lot, but we sure don't rely on any handouts from this whiner!)
how should i behave around her? i've been avoiding her for months, and i don't see an apology from her every coming my way. my husband says i need to forget it and just treat her with love. uuugh! what should i do?
2007-09-06 20:07:47 · 9 answers · asked by not an angrygrrrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Shes sounds annoying.. Just remember you cant pick your family... Your best to just let it go... Nothing good will come out of being angry and upset about it... Try not to spend more time then you have to around her.. You don't have to love her.. she will always be annoying as hell to you but try to overlook it. You should be the better person here don't let her get to you !
2007-09-06 20:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she has a superiority complex. Typical of people who have tonns of money and have not accomplished anything in their lives except for "being rich".
I have tried a bit of hypocrisy with these type of people but they always want more compliments.
Try not to talk to her, talk to others instead.
If you have to talk to her, stear the conversation away from the sticky issues.
Talk about the weather, politics or about her kids.
Recognize that you must not even go near her "danger zones" and don't get personal or the complex will start firing.
When she tells you " how ungrateful my husband is" tell her to talk to your husband instead, he's her brother after all.
I'm surprized that your husband doesn't give you better advice about how to deal with her, assuming that he wants you to get along well, being her brother, he should have the best advice becase he knows what is OK with her and what annoys her.
2007-09-06 20:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by Internet addict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who said that you needed to do anything! The best way I would keep my peace is to stay far away from her as possible. Tell her your emotions, that you don't like her and don't want her around your family. You can still hang out with your brother (her husband) on your time. Like going to the movies together or out to eat without her, just your time together. If she has your nieces or nephews you can always spend time with them by picking them up taking them to places. The only conversation you and her will ever have is small talk. No violence, no words said, just hello and goodbye.
2007-09-06 20:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing I can suggest is that you avoid her as much as possible and follow your husband's advice when you can't avoid her.
She probably won't apologize. People like her usually don't.
You need to be a better person than she is. Treat her considerately and with love, and--in the words of Jesus--"you will heap burning coals on her head."
And some day she could change her ways. You have to do it for your husband and his family, which--for better or worse--is now your family too.
2007-09-06 20:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simply say "STFU & get a job u lazy bum"! Tell your husband you have the right to your opinion & agree to disagree.
2007-09-06 20:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change people. There's not much you can do. Just learn to not let her bother you.
2007-09-06 20:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by topakat11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would avoid her at all costs and if you should meet up say hello and move on away from her............life is to short to worry about disrespectful people like her.............
2007-09-06 20:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU DON'T OWE HER ANYTHING....
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE FRIENDS WITH HER, OR APPROVE OF HER LIFE-STYLE...
YOU 'DO' HAVE TO BE POLITE BECAUSE SHE IS YOUR HUSBAND'S SISTER...
DO HIM A FAVOR AND DON'T MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF WHAT SHE DOES...
PRAY FOR HER, AND DON'T GOSSIP~!~
2007-09-06 20:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by Call me-C-4-Curious- 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
2007-09-06 20:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋