My friend gets child abused, she has showed me her cuts on her back, arms, and legs. She tells me not to tell anyone because she still loves her parents no matter what they do to her. :(( what do I do??
2007-09-06 23:15:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You must tell someone, that is not fair to your friend no matter how much she loves her parents, and you are being an even better friend by telling.
2007-09-06 23:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Firstly tell your parents then tell a teacher at school or the police, and they will do the rest.
You can only be doing your friend a good deed by doing this,I know she told you not to tell anyone and that she still loves her parents,but if you don't tell someone about this,it might just be too late for your friend one day in the future,these sort of things only get worse as time goes on.
Your friend may not thankyou for this right away,but I'm sure she will be very glad you did this in the near future.
Your friend can't keep this hush hush just because she still loves her parents,what ever happened to them loving and caring about her?
She loves them and always will,but she does NOT deserve to suffer this so VERY WRONG behaviour that she is going through right now.
Speak up for her,especially to one of your teachers or the police,it's the best thing you could ever do to help her.
Finally,always remember that you have NOT done anything wrong by doing this,all you are doing is being a good friend.
2007-09-07 06:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi you don't say how old you both are. What are her living circumstances? The first thing that struck me is that she shows you these cuts, I am not saying that she is lying rather that she is in some difficulty and could be self - harming, many abuse victims NEVER tell a living soul of what they are going through, much less tell someone. If she is self-harming than she could be mentally abused at home, please try to get her to see a teacher or ask a teacher yourself and ask the teacher to discreetly talk to your friend. Either way all is not well and she is very lucky to have you as a friend but you cannot shoulder this burden alone and you are not expected, please talk to your mum....
2007-09-07 06:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by patlynn2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she,is she still a child then you might wanna talk to some of her teachers or familydoctor but if she is an adult then she has come to terms with it and is she doesnt wanna get even but somehow I sense you wanna help her so why dont you talk to the parents.....and tell them if your friend continues showing you new harm done you feel you have to contact childprotection-care or the police...scare them and also make it clear to your friend this is a very unusual situation and she shouldnt have to take their crap...
2007-09-07 06:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're truly her friend, I think it'd be best to tell the proper people to take action and prevent the abuse! I know it's hard going against your friend's wishes.. But it's something that shouldn't just be kept a secret.. I mean.. If she let's her parents continue abusing her.. It could get worst! I truly cannot stand child abuse after reading the book "Child Called It".. So please think about what's best for your friend.. Even if it means losing their friendship.. It'll be hard losing her parents I know.. But parents aren't meant to be like that.. If they can't be good parents to her, then they don't deserve her..
2007-09-07 06:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by secret admire_4u:) 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
U must first educate your friend what is child abuse and why it is bad. Only if she accepts this fact, she will be of some use to the investigators.
2007-09-07 07:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor child, to have to deal with this, Your friend is in a dangerous situation both physically and emotionally. I think you should tell someone caring who can deal with the situation. You should not have to have this on your young shoulders. Pass it on to someone who can shoulder the responsibility. School councilor maybe. Helena
2007-09-07 07:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Helena N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your friend, but this is one secret you shouldn't keep.
Tell someone who can help her - teachers, police, councilors, someone who is an adult who can help. No one deserves to be treated like that, and she needs to be helped to get out of that situation, even if she doesn't want to. Her parents might need help too, but the first consideration MUST be HER SAFETY.
2007-09-07 06:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give me his name and address and I will personally call the child and youth department in your state,town,whatever and you will never be mentioned,so you can keep your friends trust. This is not even right what they are doing to her and too many children died at the hands of a "loved one".Understand. If you won't give it to me PLEASE give it to someone who will help. I couldn't lay my head down at night knowing this was happening to my friend,do something and do it now.
2007-09-07 10:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sidetracked0260 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone...She shouldn't have to suffer through that.
Anyone from th epolice to s counsloer at school you trust to your parents to a preacher just someone.
2007-09-07 08:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋