When we were young, I got all the attentions because I worked hard in school and always got first and second grades.
I was told by people and parent that I am beautiful and got all the attentions as well.Then our mother suffered chronic depression and our father was working away from home. As a result, I had to look after my 3 brother and sisters. I was just 9 years old when I start cooking, washing them and taking them to schools etc.
During teenage years, again I got all the attentions and receive good things first as I was first girl in the family.
When I was young I used to call her names, when she made me angry but I never planned for that.
Now, I am in my early forty's, my sister is holding grudge against me, and she deliberately puts me down in front of my man and she tries to win him by putting me down. She even date my date that was arranged by our mutual friend.
She is completely different when we are alone, but when we are in public, she acts like a stranger. I need closer
2007-09-06 18:22:34 · 7 answers · asked by sk t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
do what i did I told my sister i loved her because she is my sister but friends we can't be.... after a month my sister came to me and we talked .. today we are closer than ever before ..........
2007-09-06 18:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I used to be realy close then problems arose,and I haven't seen her in almost two years and It hurts really bad.When my family is having a gathering either her or me don't show up and I have tried to talk to her but it didn't help.So if I were you I would sit my sister down and discuss the problems that yall are having.Or at least give it a try.I hate being away from my sister but sometimes it's for the best if you can't get along.
2007-09-07 01:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been a hard time for both you and your sister. But put yourself in her shoes for a moment and imagine having an older sister getting all the attention. Child hood hurts really can take their toll and mess up our lives.
Your sister needs to talk this through with a counsellor.
If I were you, I would acknowledge to her that you know how hurt she must be - (having someone believe you is a huge step in the healing process) - then tell her that you don't feel able to help her but you would really love it if she spoke to a counsellor and tell her that you will be with her every step of the way.
Good luck.
2007-09-07 01:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a bad relationship with my sister too but I find that I back down a lot of the time as it is what I feel God wants me to do..
I honestly have to say that our relationship is still very strained and I do not do much with her to save both our feelings.
You might just try that, maybe she will come around, then you can talk more openly..
good luck
2007-09-07 01:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try confronting her and calling her out on her actions. She'll probably deny it. Let's say she does, you have two choices, really. Suggest counseling to go over a lot of things she probably remembers incorrectly - and if she doesn't, be prepared to not have her in your life. Rough and drastic I know. Second, accept her for who she is and hope she comes around. Frankly, for me, I prefer taking action and trying to bring the situation under control.
Good luck!
2007-09-07 01:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do as I did with my sister for years, avoid her. Mine finally came around just recently, but it took years of avoiding situations with her.
2007-09-07 01:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is still kinda jealous with you or envies your life and man so if she cant be the loving,caring sister then why bother
2007-09-07 02:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋