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I have a daughter who just turned 7 last week. I do EVERYTHING for her financially w/ sporadic (like $10-$20 every few months) support from her father. I dont get child support (I have filed but he RARELY has a job). Whenever my money gets tight I tend to hate her father cause I know that if he would make even a small contribution to her financial upbringing then I would have more to work w/. I dont ask him for a lot, for example, when I got child support for 2 months in a row back in 2005 (the one and only time I ever got anything) I was getting $40/wk and I never asked him for anything. He does spend time w/ her (not enough to me but I know its more than some kids get w/ their dads). I am grateful for that but I dont want to resent something that I cant change and I just dont know what I can tell myself to cope cause its not affecting him, just making me crazy! I am not the trype of person who would stop him from seeing her if he did not pay cause that would hurt her in the long run.

2007-09-11 09:46:57 · 18 answers · asked by Summer Days 5

What smells trigger memories from your childhood?

Mine: Damp corn husks (sitting in Grandma's garden), campfires (family bonfires on the farm), musty smells (snooping around the attic), talcum powder (sitting in Great Granny's lap), frying chicken (coming home from school at dinner time)......

2007-09-11 09:40:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom loves to talk about sickness - whether its a friend who has cancer or a new illness on TV. She has come down with a stomach virus and she can do nothing but talk about it obsessively. Whenever she is sick everythign else goes by the wayside and she obsesses on this over and over. Is this normal? I don't do it. It is really stressful and annoying. I think people who are sick can and should talk about it here and there, but not endlessly. Its not good for them or their illness!

2007-09-11 09:29:02 · 11 answers · asked by malibubeach 2

Almost a year ago my husband and I loaned my sister our brand new car with intentions of her buying it asap. She was/is going thru a divorce and driving around a very unsafe car with our neice and nephew so we decided to help her out. She has a repo mustang that i dont know if she is paying on and still hasnt filed for divorce. Shes blowing money on other things when she needs to be working on her credit to buy this car. shes never missed a payment and has been really good in that fact. My husband and i are plannin on gettin either a new car or him a crotch rocket bc im going back to work. My mom swears that my hubby and i agreed to her havin 2 years to get the car. itll be a year in feb my mom said that in another year she still wont have enough credit back up to buy the car, i dont know what to do i dont want to screw her over and my mom to be pissed *4 going back on our "word". we did this out of love for my sister and in the end we are gettin screwd. i need all advice i can get.

2007-09-11 09:26:44 · 3 answers · asked by angelkisses7951 1

That 9 yrs is too much of an age differance? He is 9 yrs older then me.

2007-09-11 09:01:04 · 7 answers · asked by Nichole L 2

I havent been getting along with my family -- i NEED to move out00 I have been thinking of moving into my uncles house-- but how do i tell her that i want to leave? This isnt just somne teenage thing-- its been like this FOREVER -- and when i really think of it-- my family and I arent ever going to work out-- i desperatly need help with this-- please help me

2007-09-11 08:49:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is alway's around me trying to look cool in front of his friends. He is soooo horrible I hate him! I kinda came home som upset, and just cracked, I exploded with tears and anger and I hated myself, If possible even ,more. I haven't exploded like that in front of people for so long considering I'm 16. My brother is 14. HELP!!

2007-09-11 08:47:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

well im 13 and well i have a younger brother that is 4..5 this month, and well im not being selfish or anything because i know he needs attention but sometimes it feels like im not even part of the family...and when he does something like hits me he starts crying so that my mum thinks i've did something to him and my mum doesnt let me explain..and before i know it im being sent to my room for nothing!...sometimes i cant wait to go to school because i know i can leave all the stress behind..i have a dad but he doesnt live with me and i got to see him on weekends but when i do see him i hardly speak about my mum because he hates her and my stepdad who lives with my mum and brother would probubly tell me to stop being spoiled..no one cares about me and im really sick of it
i dont see the point in saying anything really

so please help me!

its really getting me down..

thankyou x x x

2007-09-11 08:30:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 2 months ago my wife and I got upset with my mother over some favortism my mom showed my neices and nephew over my kids. I have since gotten over it basically but my wife just won't let it go. We use to go to my parent's house every Sunday but now it seems I can't do that. My girls love my parents very much, as do I. I want to continue to go over there on Sunday to see my family, but my wife won't go and I'm afraid to go because it may cause friction. I love my wife, but I want to see my family too. Am I being a momma's boy? Should I go to my parent's house Sunday anyway? I'm torn in half between the people I love the most. I don't think it's fair of my wife to pull me away from the family I grew up with, and yet continue to force her parents on me, whom I can't stand but have endured for my wife's sake since we married 7 years ago. I'm just so emotionally torn!!!!

2007-09-11 07:53:36 · 19 answers · asked by keith_stn 2

I really can't stand law school. I think I made the worst mistake of my entire life. My parents are not happy and won't let me drop out. Please help!!!!!!!

2007-09-11 07:29:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

and give advice to your non-custodial parent, what would you say?

2007-09-11 07:23:55 · 6 answers · asked by metanoia 3

What would you do if your mother sat in each class with you, held your hand just to make sure you did what you are supposed to be doing? Would this motivate you to make the grades that you are capable to make?

2007-09-11 07:10:46 · 8 answers · asked by southernvixin00 4

I'm 24 now, but last yr., I was living back with my former foster family after Hurricane Katrina so I can finish up my college degree, since my home was destroyed. My former foster sister & her husband DEMANDED that I let her use my car, & 1 day, they didn't come & tell me, but snuck behind my back & told my former foster mom that I don't change my oil in my car, & my former foster mom went off on me & told me I shouldn't ever have kids since I didn't know how to take care of my car. My car was sort of new, but no one told me that I had to change the oil every 3,000 miles. What did changing the oil in my car have to do with raising kids? & from that day forward, they kept harrassing & threatening me about changing my oil, when they KNEW I received a fixed income. Did they have a right to do this? & why did they need MY car when their truck was running fine? & when I asked to use their truck, they said, "Why?"

2007-09-11 07:03:35 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My family has never found out about the abuse i suffered at the hands of my father and my cousin. It began when i was 2 and lasted till 3rd grade when my mom divorced my dad and my cousin committed suicide. Growing up my family always just considered me the "bad seed," and never really tried to figure out why a 2 yr old would begin acting the way that i did. I didn't straighten myself out until around 18 years of age, I worked through the feelings about my abuse and have moved on.

I want to share with my family what I went through so that maybe they can begin to understand who I am a little better, but honestly do not feel it is my responsibility to help them through the feelings they will inevitably have about the abuse and myself. I don't feel it is my job to help them, they never helped me. Is this selfish of me, should I share with them and make myself available to talk about their feelings or keep it to myself and let them continue to think negatively about me?

2007-09-11 05:50:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-11 05:26:16 · 7 answers · asked by prem v 1

ive been suicidal, but im not going to do it. the only reason is my parents. every so often two people my mom knows dies, i dont want to be one of them, and i dont think i could do that to my dad. so im wondering if its loyalty, love, obligation, or a little bit of all? what's your opinion?

2007-09-11 05:21:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-11 05:16:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the last month he has moved back after leaving by his choice 9 months ago, his 17 yo 9th grade drop out gf is 4 months preg, he works about 15 hrs week with his mother as direct boss. When he left the first time I was relieved because he was smoking pot in the house and drinking in his room that he shares with my son (three years younger). His mom blamed me for him leaving and kept trying to convince him to come back because he really couldn't afford to live on his own or with roommates for that matter. Well, now he is back because he has dug himself into a financial mess with a baby on the way. I have asked his mother, my gf, what has he changed that he should be back in our house .. she says nothing, but, that he is still trying to figure things out. He has flunked out of comm. college, has no car so even his mom says how can he work more hours with no ride? I'm just disgusted with the whole mess but my gf seems to think I am making a mountain out of a molehill. Is the prob me?

2007-09-11 05:02:45 · 5 answers · asked by Subi 2

I am under heavy stress and my mother has added to it. My 15 year old daughter and I are living with her currently. She was living with her Dad from age 10 until now. My parents pick her up from school.

Now, my mother has asked me to move out. She is basically kicking me out of the house.

My ex-husband does not want my daughter and I living on our own in an apartment. I do agree that my child should be under adult supervision.

I was thinking of reuniting with my ex-husband in the state where he is living. However, he keeps saying that I must return some jewelry that he thinks I took from his house. I do not have it and did not take it. He also keeps saying that I must change and be a different person. Everything that went wrong in our marriage was basically my fault.

I am so confused and do not know what to do.

I do not want to be responsible for anything bad happening to my daughter. Yet, living with my parents is hard also.

2007-09-11 04:34:05 · 18 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My husband is my soulmate. We connect spiritually and mentally. married for two years, have a one year old daughter, (and 8 year old son from my 1st marriage). He is a wonderful dad, provider, and my best friend. Well, About 3 months ago we had neighbors move in next door, and we got on with them amazingly well.. Well, the neighbor wife is gorgeous, and smart! I first noticed something when she once told me outside that my hubsband had a dream about a game we all play online..but he didnt mention it to me 1st.. and then she asked if he could go to walmart with her and hubby...even tho he was asleep(wanted me 2 wake him up) He told me later that he thought she had a mini crush on him, but not for her.. then I let it go until the other night.. he sat on the couch the whole night telling her about his favorite book character, and (sort of)ignoring me and her hubby. He does have tendency to rant..but he never told me he lent her books.. but maybe he lent them to both.. but I'm very jealous

2007-09-11 04:28:49 · 10 answers · asked by S&NFervor4Ever 4

He is the boss and the intention is for me to take over in a few years so he can become semi-retire and work for the company on a part time basis. Problem is I am not a Yes man and I speak my mind when he asks my opinion and he doesn't like being told he is wrong ever. We have been working together now for a few years and we are starting to argue alot more than usual. Any advice would be greatly appreciated??

2007-09-11 03:50:54 · 14 answers · asked by HHHarry 2

2007-09-11 03:49:10 · 20 answers · asked by Bradley 1

How might (or how has) your birth order affect your decisions on family dynamics when forming a family of your own. (ie: when to marry, how many children, when to have children, etc)?

Thank you!

2007-09-11 03:30:26 · 9 answers · asked by heidi v 1

My Mom stooped cookin dinner for me. This is stupid! She thinks I should have a job. Just cuz I dropped out of school doesnt mean i am ready to move out, but I am hungry and she wont make me anything!!!!!

2007-09-11 03:04:29 · 25 answers · asked by Ghimraab 2

I worked at Measured Progress through a temp agency. They said I was not motivated because I was not available for overtime, and terminated me for being "not motivated". With kids and family who has the time? I did work a Saturday.

I worked for Liberty Mutual Insurance through another temp. They terminated me saying I was "not productive". They track your productivity using Productivity Tracker, but no one assisted me in setting up so I could track my progress, then blame me for being "not productive".

These companies are ungrateful. After the time you've put in to find them and the background check and your sensitive information you've given out, they turn around and tell you to leave.

I called human rights and they tell me sorry, can't help you. Because your state is an employment at will state, and the companies do not accomadate you for having kids...you're out of luck, so go find a baby sitter even you don't have money. Sell your house even if its not saleable.

2007-09-11 03:02:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had recently moved back in with my mom and sister. I have my son half the week per a custody agreement with his mom. Lately, I have been taking a lot of negative actions from my family. They constantly tell me that my stuff is in their way and I'm lucky I live there. They try to take over my life with my son at times and tell me that they will take him and raise him because they don't think I am a good enough father. My girlfriend sees this and she gets upset because she knows that is not the case. I need to move out of this situation but I don't have money saved to leave right now. I don't know if a shelter is a good place to go to save money while I am working to afford a new place to live. I have tried talking to my family about this on numerous occassions and it changes for a few days and then it's back to the same stuff. Any advice would help.

2007-09-11 02:58:39 · 3 answers · asked by kws504 2

i usully go with my cousin who is 3 yrs older than me and is a boy.....i find most embarresing to sit besides him although we are very close to each other cause all my friends stare at him and i pretend not to notice and afterwards hey make some teasing comments like he is cute or something like that .........should i be embarissed???

ps....i am not usully alone there is his brother as well and his mom and my sister and mom but he or his brother(who is 2 yrs older than him) always sit beside me..i dont know why....just a condicdence i suppose.!!

2007-09-11 02:50:34 · 7 answers · asked by J. S. 4

Ok, so heres the story. . I am 20 years old my husband is 22. He is maintance at our apartment complex for 4 years now and i babysit. Our combined income is 700/ week. Now to me that sounds like alot but its not. Our rent is only 320 b/c he works there. We want to start a family in the next year or two and have a very nice cozy aparment w/ 2 bedrooms and just about everything you could dream of having, computer, big tvs, huge king beds and all new kitchen appliances. My thing is, everyone keeps telling us we are married and we need to have a house before having children. I personally dont want a house, i mean of course i do but i dont want to work 50 hours a week to barelly make my mortage, and not be able to enjoy family time and shopping and having money to spare. Does this sound dumb? I wish my family would get off my back of my husband geting a house for us, i just dont see us getting one if we ever do for atleast another 10-20 years. any1 w/ expierence on apartment living?

2007-09-11 02:41:43 · 8 answers · asked by whatup 2

okay here it is:
My birth dad does not know how to be a father, he is very nice to me but i only see him twice every year and when he is absent from important events he sends me a card and fifty bucks telling me he is sorry, another thing he just doesn't get it once i was over in houston (i live in austin) and the one and only night I got to be with him only (hadn't seen him in 6 months) he blew me off told Vikki(literally evil step mother) to go and take me to the movies while he went to a bar!! Now turn to Vikki once when i was ten it was Bryans (my birthdad) b-day and i had spent like two hours on making him a b-day card and she asks me what i got him i showed her the card and then she goes "well let's go buy him something" and I said no i like the card than she takes it rips it and says "lets go buy him something" !!!! and the other part of that family always gos everywhere and than when i am there is like oh yay you weren't with us but you had better hings to do, whos wrong here?

2007-09-11 02:10:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

left me alone in a new state at 16, chasing a man, never attended my 3 graduations, never came to my babyshower, let other family members kick me out her house because my boyfriend yelled at them for yelling at me, i told her i want to go finish school and want to save, she let me use her car to go to school, then took it when she found i gave my cousin a ride too, to the same school, who lived on my block and never asked for gas, when she got mad that i wouldnt charge family for a ride, she began to charge me for me, my daughter, my fiance and my dog to sleep in the empty room where her cat slept, when we couldnt afford it, she kicked us all out, she lied and destroyed my name with my fam to make it seem like she only asked for a little bit and we refused. she always favors my sister and all her kids but will charge me for my daughter to come over her house. she failed a drug test and lost her job and told me i can just pay her to keep my daughter for the hour she comes after school.

2007-09-11 01:57:04 · 9 answers · asked by badbitty101 2

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