2007-09-11 03:49:10 · 20 answers · asked by Bradley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him that its your life and that he has to deal with it he does not have to like it but he has to deal with it! Good Luck!
2007-09-11 03:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by My life is now complete PWK&RJC! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dads naturally want their son to become happliy married at some point and maybe have grandchildren.. Some dads question themselves if they were possibly to blame after finding out the son has come out as gay. As long as the question is around whether guys become gay or are born that way, dads will always wonder what went wrong. They don't like the lifestyle of a man wanting another man as a partner. They don't want their friends to reject them for having a "sissy-boy" as a son. Not much to do unless he can love you as his son no matter what you turn out to be.
2007-09-11 04:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure a lot of gay men and women have this problem. You be proud of who you are. Don't hide! I'm not gay but I support love and happiness. You don't hate your dad. You are just hate that he can't except who you are. That's ok. Your dad doesn't hate you he just hates what you are. I pray that he will love and respect you for who you are. You just have to remind him that you are the same person he held in his arms when you were little. Let him know that you'll give him time to get use to this. Most of all let him know you do love him even if he doesn't except you as you are. He'll see your heart and know you are the same person. Best of luck to you, and be proud. Stand tall.
2007-09-11 04:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by ilovelucy1207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change people. You can´t change him, and he can´t change you. So if he chooses to hate over your sexual preference, then you have to choose as well: do you hate back? Is it worth it? Live your life, its yours to do as you please with so long as you harm none, and your dad can live with it or not, but hating him back isn´t going to get you anywhere. He´s probably disappointed and somehow thinks that your being gay somehow reflects back on him, many people believe it has to do with how you raised your child and he probably (yes, even in this day and age) receives a lot of critizism from the more close minded people that surround him. Live your life, find a partner, be happy, responsible and productive. Its the best thing you can do for yourself, and probably to help him accept you.
2007-09-11 03:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by counsel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your dad, and I bet he doesn't hate you, maybe he just hates the part of being gay. Be nice, but don't take put downs, walk away if need be, always respond in a way so that YOU will have no regrets. Best to you.
2007-09-11 03:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Frenchafied 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HATE is a strong word! never hate you're family regardless of how they feel.Remember blood is thicker than water.He does not understand and maybe alittle scared. so take what he says and weigh each one carefully before you say you hate him. give him some time. if he still feels like he doesn't want anything to do with you then leave him be he will realize sooner or later that the son he loved growing up is still the same just not with the same preferences as him. How does you're mother feel about it and the rest of the family.
2007-09-11 04:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to put up with put downs by anyone including dad. You need support, and I'd hope you have that. If he isn't supportive, he may or may not come around and you have to realize that fact. Depending on your age, I'm hoping you don't have to stick in there too long with your dad b/c you don't need hating by your dad.
Get support that's my advice, you are certainly not the first gay guy out there. Good luck!
2007-09-11 04:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local PFLAG organization. This is a support group of parents and friends of lesbians and gays that can be of help to you.
I doubt if your father hates you. He may hate that you are gay, but you are more than just your sexuality. I know you don't hate him either, but are angry and hurt that he is not taking this well.
Depending on who he is as a person and the culture he comes from, he may always not be able to accept you. You will have to learn to accept this. But many parents start out this way and then get over it and welcome their kids back into their lives. Remember that you are who you are, and need to learn to be the best person you can be, regardless of your sexuality or your parents opinion. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-11 03:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't hate your dad. If you hated him...you wouldn't care about having his support. He doesn't hate you...he's probably just in shock. What matters here is that you're being honest with yourself and not trying to change who you are to make anyone else happy. Kudos to you for having the strength and the courage to be open about who you are. Your dad will come around. Give him time. Good luck.
2007-09-11 03:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not really hate you the fat that u are gay makes him act like he hates you. give it time he will learn to accept it in time. Get someone to talk to him he must understand that u are happy that way.
2007-09-11 03:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Maphondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you this...I dont condone w/gays or gay marriages, but...If that's what you want to do w/your life than by all means, do what YOU want to do.
Your father doesn't hate you...he's just made that his son is gay...can't seem to cope w/that right now, but later on he will.
His your father & you're his son...just be the bigger person & be there for him like a son would do for his dad!!!
2007-09-11 04:00:33 · answer #11 · answered by **annie anytime** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋