Family - September 2007

My ex-husband keeps telling me that I have ruined my daughter's life. She is 15 and lived with her Dad from age 10 until now.

She is living with me now and I am trying my best to keep her busy productively.

I have enrolled her in a SAT Review class and am looking into other sports and craft type classes.

She is not comfortable living with my parents where I am living currently so I am trying to move out against my ex-husband's wishes.

I am trying my best to make things up to her. I live in another state and did not get to see her too much during the past few years.

My ex-husband's e-mails keep accusing me of ruining our daughter's life and saying that I have spoiled everyone's life because I was undependable and unstable. I made plans to go back to him and never did.

2007-09-12 12:37:17 · 13 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

my daughter is looking for her dad that is living in denver co. i would like to locate him but the only info i have is his texas dl# i payed aout 50.00 for on line searches that hasnt got me no where can anyone help

2007-09-12 12:15:44 · 3 answers · asked by hope 1

will we ever be satisfied by the love thta peple give us or we are always going to ask more and more

2007-09-12 12:11:44 · 5 answers · asked by howsitgoingeh2003 2

I have always wanted another little brother or sister. I only have one little sister who is 13 months younger than me. I have an older sister who is 21. (I am 13.) I don't know why...but ever since I was little I wanted a lot of brothers and sisters. We have the room and all...my mom said her body can't handle another, but would love to adopt another. My dad doesn't want to. He said, "My diaper changing days are over!" Lol. (My mom is 46 and my dad is 47.) Do you think that's too old to adopt another? Just curious. I just think it would be neat to have another brother or sister.

2007-09-12 11:50:41 · 7 answers · asked by ErikaEmpirical. 3

My mother-in-law has two lumps in her breast. It could be cancer or it could just be cysts. She refuses to go to the doctor to have it checked out. Her mom died of cancer two years ago after a long battle and she said she refuses to go through the same thing. I don't know if I should tell my husband or wait to see if it is really cancer. I don't want to stress him out if it is nothing. If he finds out, he will try to pressure her into going and it will cause a big battle in the family because we can't force her to go. I don't want to lie to him but I don't want him to be hurt by his moms decision. What do you think?

2007-09-12 11:39:55 · 9 answers · asked by invictus 4

Ok to make a long story short.. I gave a friend who just had a baby a couple of months ago some baby outfits out of generosity and just because I wanted to. We only talk through email and I got them to her on last friday and it has been almost 6 days later and she still hasn't said a word to me about them or even thanked me. I just feel that is very rude and being very ungrateful. I know if that was me, I would be so happy that they did that for my baby and thank them at least twice to show them I appreciate it. Don't you agree?

2007-09-12 10:53:31 · 9 answers · asked by blue_star12111 1

My parents who I see about once a week , do not let a week go by without commenting on my weight, smoking, my house, etc etc.I tell them to stop it, and there reply is always"well its only because we worry about you".
I am a 39 year old mother of two children, own my own home and am happily married.They seem to still feel the need to control me.I dont want a big row with them but I feel this is inevitable, as I feel so angry when they have visited.They are both getting on in years, but seem to still feel the need to tell me and my sister(aged 40) what to do!!They are ridiculous and need to get a life.I have tried the nice route, and at times have got angry with them, what else can I do?Yes I am overweight, I do smoke too much but its my life.How can I get through to them?This is making me unhappy.They have plans now to move to the town I live in, I think all hell will break loose.
help!

2007-09-12 10:44:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 5 brothers and 5 sis-in-laws. The one is just nerve racking to be around. She has an eating disorder, but REFUSSES to believe the doctors or my brother.She gets every illness in the book, she is so heavilly medicated most of the time she speaks in slow motion. If another member of the family is in poor health, she turns the subject to her and her sorrows. She is so fony it's upsetting.
I feel as long as my brother's happy I shouldn't make anything out of it.
I bite my touge as best I can, but she upsets me so much that I want to scream.
We have the holidays up and coming and she'll make her ussual excusses and we'll see my brother for an hour if were lucky.

Help and advice are welcome.

2007-09-12 10:42:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well for starters its my dad. I was raised by my mom with my dad every so often or visiting or me visiting him. I never minded that I didn't live with my dad or see him that often. Don't ask me why, I just didn't. Anyway now he calls me like every week( maybe b/c I'm older I don't know) which is cool, but when we're about to hang up he aways has to say I love you and expects for me to say it back. Even just now he was like I love you and I said yea. He was like I said I Love You and so I just said it back. I don't even say I love you to my mom that often. I like him but that those words just aren't in my everday vocabulary. What should I do?

2007-09-12 10:28:38 · 23 answers · asked by MovieMadness 1

I gues my mom never got over the fact I grew up because she is now staying with me for a few months and is treating me like a baby. Let's see,she calls me the babyish nicknames she called me before I left for college, she pinches my cheeks, smoothers me with kisses and hugs me tight. She insists on doing everything for me and says that I need help raising my 2 kids and my niece that lives with me. She says I'm just a little girl and I don't know how I can stop this. What can I do?

2007-09-12 10:09:14 · 8 answers · asked by Jasmine 4

I recently ran into an old friend on myspace, we started talking alot, phone calls, text messaging,emailing. He lives in NC and me in SC 4hrs away. we have since started a relationship since Apr-present. but he is a marine and has been deployed since july, we both were in fostercare as children and know each others struggles, we also both want to start a foundation for our families, something that most other families already have like family traditions, he has a daughter by a previous girl and i have a daughter too, his is 6 mine is 5. we both are tired of playing the field and are ready for marriage& another baby, he was not there for a lot of his daughters young life due to him just joining the marines. i was not there for about 1 1/2 yrs with my daughter due to me being in school and trying to get us an apartment and such, now we are ready to do it again and we both will be there 100% but he wont get home until Feb. and we just started talking in apr. is that to soon?

2007-09-12 09:44:25 · 13 answers · asked by becky1 1

I'm going crazy!! My mother recently got laid off from work, and is in between jobs right now and doesnt have a whole lot of money. Her fiance makes twice as much as I do and my mom calls me to borrow money!! She just called and told me that her electric was turned off and she needs to borrown $600. I don't just have that kinda money laying around to spend. If it were just my mom, I wouldnt be upset, but she has a fiance that makes good money and has a whole bunch of toys. (Truck, Motorcycle, Playstation, Fourwheeler, etc) and won't help her out. He goes out a spends lots of money on silly things and she can't even pay the electric bill. I know their relationship is none of my business so I don't know what to do! Please Help!

2007-09-12 09:11:26 · 6 answers · asked by Ray Ray 4

She's eighteen now and in sixth form college.
I've told her what I think but she ignores me. I wish my dearly departed wife could speak to her but she isn't due for release until September 2008.
I've tried to tell her that she should go and work with her two older sisters. On a good night they can bring in a couple of hundred in cash.
She doesn't consider the fact that this was what her mother wanted and I feel she is letting the family down.

2007-09-12 08:25:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think I have Social Anxiety I've read about it and I think I have it but I don't know how to tell my mom and I don't know how she will act. Will she understand?

2007-09-12 08:18:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have a place to stay it is with a family friend.
she has a daughter that goes to the school down the street can she sign me in? and i have been living with her for about over a month and on the weekends my mother dumped me off here.
so what rights does she have leagilly to me?

2007-09-12 07:53:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean, I love em, but what do you do when people just expect to stay at your house when they visit? there's another side of the family to stay with, but they say out place is more "comfortable". That's great and all, I don't mind occasionally, but it's not exactly fun all the time : )

2007-09-12 07:47:37 · 28 answers · asked by Roscoe 1

Im so embarassed because Im visiting my sister in Phoenix Arizona she lives with her mother and father in law...And me and her went out to eat and her mother in law watched the kids...I drank some bacardi and got sloppy drunk...Now im so embarassed because I started crying and acting stupid..now my eyes are swollen almost shut...I look like hell..I passed out in my panties on the couch..Give me some encouragment please.....I never want to show my face again...

2007-09-12 07:33:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm turning 17 in a couple weeks and im a boy who comes from an indian family. i haven't seen my dad in about 10 years since he abandoned us, but my mom remarried so I have a stepdad. my mom is always like "you have to get a phd or at least a masters degree if you want to get anywhere in life!". and my stepdad isnt any better. since its an indian family, I just HAVE to be a doctor or an engineer or sum fat basterd who stands behind a counter and says thank you come again.

My stepdad doesnt even care for me. he refuses to call me his son because I'm not "his blood". yet when I told him that I wanna study criminal justice and become a state trooper and that I wanna join the marine corps reserves, he went crazy and he's like "OH NO NO NO YOU WONT MAKE ANY MONEY THAT WAY! Y DONT U JUST BECOME AN ENGINEER LIKE ME!?" then he sed "and why on earth do you want to join the marines? if you're going to defend a country, go defend india!"
First, I'm american. second, i dont care about india

2007-09-12 06:42:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

my sister has had 4 kids in 5 yrs. the last was just born in aug. so theres the 1 mon old, the 1 yr old (shell b 2 in oct) the 3 yr old and the 4 yr old (5 in oct). she was married for about 2 yrs now getting a divorce. she has no job. lives off of her child support of about $450/ mo and $600 food stamps/ mo. she lives in a low income housing development and pays rent of $95/ mo. (w/ EVERYTHING included) her kids have little to no structure at all. she cant cook doesnt clean. my mother has to take care of everything for her. she cant even manage to pay her rent and has to barrow money. it has gotten so bad that i have had to move in w/ my mother to hlep her w/ bills and money bc she went so far into debt helping my sister. i work full time and go to school for my RN i am also engaged. my fiance lives in germany so he stays w/ us when he visits (he visits ever 3-12 wks and stays about 3 months) my sister is here constantly. she comes in the morning and stays till 10 or 11 if she goes

2007-09-12 06:34:21 · 12 answers · asked by Jen 2

I'm an only child and my parents are so strict. My father's Japanese and my mom's a Filipino. I'm 21 years old, and they don't allow me to go out late at night, drink (not that I want to anyway), or even date and have a boyfriend. I want to be able to travel around without having to ask permission from them, but the thing is, they just don't understand. Our age gaps are also huge. My dad's 73 and my mom's 60. My mother keeps telling me that I'll gain full independence when I'm 28, and that's also the age where I can pick whomever I choose to marry. Sometimes it's getting out of hand, and right now I have a boyfriend who I keep from my parents, because they would never understand.

2007-09-12 06:01:06 · 26 answers · asked by Yuki 2

2007-09-12 05:38:22 · 15 answers · asked by Idowu O 1

I have been wth my boyfriend for 5 years now, and we are very happy and scared at the same time. The problem is I live with my parents. We have been planning to get our own place for about a year now and a few months ago bought a peice of land, we have been looking around for a mobile home to put on this land, but really don't have the money for one at this time. Well I am going to college full time, and working 30 hours a week. My parents have made it very clear how mad they would be if I were to get pregnant and I am very scared to tell them. Any advice....

Please note my mother is kinda crazy. awhile back my 24 year old brother got his gf preg and he told my mom, she FREAKED out I mean freaked. He was soon to graduate college at the time, and I just didn't understand why she got so angry. That's why I am even more scared!

Do you think 20 is too young to have a baby? I will be 21 when the baby come in may, 2008

2007-09-12 04:58:06 · 18 answers · asked by bluemoon 3

being a firefighter, policeman, or being in the military does not make you a hero!!! because what you are doing is your job!!! now if a barber saved someones life that would make him a hero!!!

do you agree? if not tell me why!!!

2007-09-12 04:42:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I were married last year, (had our own rental house) and decided a few months later to buy her parents house. We moved in with her parents, and after 5 months of saving money living there, we purchased the house April first. Her parents were building a house about 1/2 mile away. Their house is now completed all but the heating and septic. My wife and I have been paying the mortgage now for 6 months, and they still are living with us. We have lived out of one room in the upstairs, while their (her parents) belonings and things remained in OUR house. It's hard to explain without all of you actually knowing my mother and father in-law. Now we feel like they are dragging there feet, (bigtime) and they haven't even hired anyone to do the remaining work on there house. (getting estimates?) Money isn't an issue for them, at least from what we can tell. Anyone got any advise? They claim it will be the first or second week of October before they can move out. HELP!!!

2007-09-12 04:40:04 · 15 answers · asked by Free Range Chicken 3

I am 19 and my boyfriend is 21. He moved with me when I moved to go back to school. So we live together along with my best friend. Him and his ex have a son together. He is about 8 months old and now my bf's ex won't even let him see his son and she doesn't answer the phone when he calls to check on him. He buys everything for his son and tries to be in his life but she just wants him to pay for everything and give her money and never see the baby or have anything to do with him. Now they are going to court and he is going to try to get full custody of him. She is on food stamps, gets WIC, lives with a friend's mom, doesn't work, and has had one child taken away from her by DHR before. Where she is staying there is drug use, drinking, fighting, and it just is not a good environment for their son. My bf has been in trouble with the law before but he hasn't in two years. And he lives with me and my best friend. He does work though. How good of a chance does he have of getting custody?

2007-09-12 04:37:00 · 13 answers · asked by HelpMe 1

i m 28yrs old and my beloved is 22 yrs old we are in love from last 4yrs with lots of ups and down in our relation but still im in love with her.Her family reputation is not good so that my mother is not agree with my love she was dead against of it but my beloved also love me too much what i feel she never disagree with me she is very compromising with me she said that after marraige she never have any relation with her family if i or my family do not want.so what can i do whether i go with her or not pls pls pls help i m in great problem one thing more im also too much prestige or reputation cautious what can i do ??????????

2007-09-12 04:29:37 · 8 answers · asked by djgoutam78 1

My stepmothers dad died yesterday and although me and my stepmum dont see eye to eye, her family have always made me feel welcome ever since I met them 20 years ago. i am going round to see my dad and stepmum later and I'm not sure if I should take flowers or what....and what do I say to her?? After all, she has lost her father. And although we are not friends, I feel I have to be there for her as she is still family, as I am also there for my dad.

2007-09-12 04:13:19 · 9 answers · asked by bearsbums 1

Today my friend gave me some money for something to do for her and I kept it in my purse. When I came home from school, it was still in my purse. I meant to do that thing after some time. I was just resting, and my brother came into the room. He thought I wasn't looking so he quickly nipped the money out of my purse. I confronted him, but he denied it. Now what should I do? How can I save face from my friend and get the money back from my brother?

2007-09-12 04:10:36 · 21 answers · asked by random girl 2

I finally went to meet my boyfriends parents and family for the first time. I am a single mother of two. I am hispanic and my two children are bi-racial (hisp. and black), the man I love, my boyfriend is white. At the dinner table there were comments about Mexicans/Hispanics and Blacks. I could not take it anymore I just had to excuse myself and leave the table---I was so upset I wanted to cry. When people talk about black people, I get offended of course; my kids are half black. My boyfriend was so pist at them and yes he did stand up for me. But how do I make him understand and his family that that is so offensive. One relative came and apologized to me and said I should of known she wasn't referring to me because I wasn't like that and that I had class.Andshe's not prejudice, shedoesn't own anyslaves and neither did her parents. And why is it so sensative, that black people say white this and white that all the time.Thenshe said I don't understand how blacks can havthereowntvchannel

2007-09-12 03:54:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, well look at my past question "my sister is getting married to a guy my family hates, what should i do?" that will give you a little info from before. well, he found out that no one in our family likes him. it made my sister sad, and it made him mad. he called me the other night, woke me up, and started screaming at me. I was so confused at what he was saying, and he wouldn't let me get a word in to explain. i was so frustrated that i started crying, and my mom heard me from the other room, so she came in and asked what was wrong. he was still yelling, so i put him on speaker phone, and she heard what he was saying. so she took the phone from me and told him that he needs to calm down, and let her talk to my sister. he wouldnt give the phone to my sister, and he started yelling at my mom. he was cursing, and calling her a liar (totally disrespecting her). and finally he said that my sister said she dosent want us at her wedding. i know my sister wouldnt say that. should i go or no

2007-09-12 03:41:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous