My parents who I see about once a week , do not let a week go by without commenting on my weight, smoking, my house, etc etc.I tell them to stop it, and there reply is always"well its only because we worry about you".
I am a 39 year old mother of two children, own my own home and am happily married.They seem to still feel the need to control me.I dont want a big row with them but I feel this is inevitable, as I feel so angry when they have visited.They are both getting on in years, but seem to still feel the need to tell me and my sister(aged 40) what to do!!They are ridiculous and need to get a life.I have tried the nice route, and at times have got angry with them, what else can I do?Yes I am overweight, I do smoke too much but its my life.How can I get through to them?This is making me unhappy.They have plans now to move to the town I live in, I think all hell will break loose.
help!
2007-09-12 10:44:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, you can either live at peace with them and turn the other cheek, or you can bicker with them until they're dead. Live your life how you want and whenever they choose to comment simply say, "Thank you for concerns but that is not a topic I am going to discuss anymore." Then change the subject. There are 1,001 ways to do this, but they'll always have their concerns. Instead of finding happiness in what your parents say, why not try to find happiness within yourself? It can't hurt!
2007-09-12 11:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Y!A P0int5 Wh0r3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a purpose the ingesting age is there. At 15, your frame (liver) are not able to approach alcohol like a authorized ingesting elderly character's liver can. So you for this reason get extra under the influence of alcohol. The extra under the influence of alcohol you get, the more severe your judgement will get. You might've gotten raped. Especially at a pageant with 1000's of humans you do not know. That boy can get in giant problem, and will have to. You're an fool for pondering your father and mother are blowing this out of the water. If you are any such giant lady that you'll be able to make giant lady selections, you'll be able to manage giant lady penalties.
2016-09-05 11:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so you are frustrated at these two old biddies who love you too much. They want you to be healthy, they re concerned you have let yourself go by putting on weight, they want for you to keep a clean home. Yes, they want the best for you unless they are just trouble makers. They do go on some times but do you think they are justified? If it upset you so just tell them you don't want it to be a topic of discussion every time they come to visit because it upsets you. What is really happening in your relationship. Find yourself before you can't be bothered! Best wishes.
2007-09-12 11:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just ignore if its your life but let me tell you something hun no matter what your age is you will be a baby to your parents because they raised you and fed you when they didnt have to I know it seems annoying but they just want to see that you are having a good life before they pass on just appreciate you will do the same thing to your kids good luck
2007-09-12 11:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by miimmii_llynnn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeesh! tough situation. none of us wants to argue with our parents or hurt their feelings but it may be time. i think next time they're due for a visit, you might want to lay down the law. plain and simple. sure, they'll be a bit hurt but, odds are, they'll realize how it upsets you and change their ways.
good luck.
2007-09-12 10:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're just being parents! And parents just want what's best for you.
But, if it really bothers you to the point where it makes you unhappy... tell them that. Tell them you respect their opinions, but that you have to be allowed to make your own mistakes in order to learn from them.
2007-09-12 10:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by L_PJS 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋