My wife and I were married last year, (had our own rental house) and decided a few months later to buy her parents house. We moved in with her parents, and after 5 months of saving money living there, we purchased the house April first. Her parents were building a house about 1/2 mile away. Their house is now completed all but the heating and septic. My wife and I have been paying the mortgage now for 6 months, and they still are living with us. We have lived out of one room in the upstairs, while their (her parents) belonings and things remained in OUR house. It's hard to explain without all of you actually knowing my mother and father in-law. Now we feel like they are dragging there feet, (bigtime) and they haven't even hired anyone to do the remaining work on there house. (getting estimates?) Money isn't an issue for them, at least from what we can tell. Anyone got any advise? They claim it will be the first or second week of October before they can move out. HELP!!!
2007-09-12 04:40:04 · 15 answers · asked by Free Range Chicken 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents are dragging this it looks like they dont want to move. Tell your parents straight out start packing and you need to be out Oct ___ give them a date and stick to it. You cant start by getting boxes and assisting them with the packing. This will show them you mean business. It seems your parents have taken you and your wife hospitaly for granted. You tell them if they are not out by the date you give them then they would have to move all there belonging to the house and move themselves to a hotel or apt of there own. If you dont put you foot down now you will never get rid of them.
2007-09-12 08:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you and your wife together tell them that you have some important things to attend to and so you will ALLOW them to keep their things at your home until the first week in October but they will need to move to a motel until then as you need privacy for now. There are suites by the week that are cheaper like marriott residence inn or something like that. The more that you explain WHY, the worse it will be so remain mysterious and do not explain why. Just firmly and briefly say thats what is going to happen. Do this all at a previously arranged meeting. In other words make a big deal out of it saying ' We need to speak with you' so they will get the idea its big. In other words dont just start saying it but rather the day before tell them about the fact you need to meet. Do NOT feel guilty as they are imposing and thoughtless to your needs. Your marriage should be first and foremost
2007-09-12 04:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't any reason they can't start moving their things into the new house so you and your wife have some room. If nothing else they can fill the garage! I would just sit down and have a family discussion and tell them you need the room and need for them to get their house completed as soon as they can so you can have your house! They may not be aware that you have a problem with them still there! Set a date for them to be out by the second week of Oct. and then make them stick to it!
2007-09-12 04:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE EM DA BOOT! ... but be honest
October is just a couple week away. You've been putting up with them this long so whats a few more days.
I would wait until the expected move out date and if they are still there sit down and have a true heart to heart.
I believe in honesty and family. You have done a good thing for your in-laws now it is time for them to move on. Just be honest and upfront try not to break any family ties because you never know when you may need them for something.
2007-09-12 04:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by staymay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is even since you and your wife lived there rent free for 5 months without her parents complaining. Just be ever so helpful when it does come time for them to move. Offer to call the movers and be of any assistance you can to hurry the process along. You will need the help of your wife to help begin to pack up the things in the house so when the 2nd week of October rolls around, things will be ready and begin to load things up and take them to the new house. Some people as they begin to get older, really have a hard time getting motivated to doing things as they do not have the energy to deal with things the way they once did. Try to stay upbeat and go rent a trailer and begin to take things over to the new house. I promise you, your in-laws will think you wonderful for being so helpful.
2007-09-12 04:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If their house is completely finished - that means paint, carpet, etc. then you should bring up the topic of the move out in a way that makes it sound exciting and positive. If their house is not completed than you are stuck...They offered October so keep an eye on it, mention it, but don't cause a family rift - if you can avoid it. Again, in a positive way - like, hey have you guys decided on the flooring yet? I hear hardwood bamboo is the hot thing right now...what are your ideas? Any idea on how long that takes to install? etc., etc. hang in there - it's not much longer and time flies...
2007-09-12 04:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by l8tr g8tr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them until Oct 15 to be out. If their house still isn't ready by that time, they should have no problem staying in a motel/hotel until it is ready (since money isn't an issue). Tell them they should find a storage building to put their things in so you and your wife can start furnishing YOUR home the way you want. I would have already been moving their things out of my house and putting my furnishings in. If they won't go for staying in a motel, start charging them rent and move them into a smaller bedroom in the house and move you and your wife into the master suite. They need to know that they are living in your house now. Your house, your rules.
Good luck.
2007-09-12 04:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just learned a valuable life lesson. The lesson being never do business or have anything to do with money, when family is involved. It never, ever works out!
I think you just need to remember you are adults. Sit down at the table together and tell them this is about business and nothing to do with family. You and your wife bought the home for more room, privacy etc.., and you are ready to start enjoying it.
Get them to set a definite move out day and then insist they stick to it.
They may be mad but they know what they're doing.
I can't resist but to ask, if you knew how they were how did you allow yourself to get caught up in this? Next time, listen to your common sense.
2007-09-12 05:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lived with them for free for five months but are upset now because they live with you free for six months? What exactly did you all agree to when the deal to buy the house was made? Did buying from them save you money as opposed to conventional home buying? I would suggest that you tell them you would like them to move most of their belongings into storage to give you and your wife more room and wait until October. It isn't that far away.
2007-09-12 04:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Robert P 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-04 10:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋