My mother-in-law has two lumps in her breast. It could be cancer or it could just be cysts. She refuses to go to the doctor to have it checked out. Her mom died of cancer two years ago after a long battle and she said she refuses to go through the same thing. I don't know if I should tell my husband or wait to see if it is really cancer. I don't want to stress him out if it is nothing. If he finds out, he will try to pressure her into going and it will cause a big battle in the family because we can't force her to go. I don't want to lie to him but I don't want him to be hurt by his moms decision. What do you think?
2007-09-12 11:39:55 · 9 answers · asked by invictus 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if i were u i would tell him right away but be gentle about it..and she should go to the doctor ASAP if it is cancer her condition could worsen especially if it runs in the family! and wouldnt u rather just be a little family battle about her going to the doctor then losing her to cancer
2007-09-12 11:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~*Terry~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this one's tough. You should just tell her that you feel really sorry, and that you know her mom can make it through. And yes, it is possible to pass away in that amount of time, the cancer could have spread a lot before she actually noticed it, or went to a doctor. If your friend is lying, then you'll eventually find out by either your friend feeling so guilty she tells you, or you see her mom and she is perfectly healthy. But other than that, you should be there for your friend. If she did lie about this, the friendship isn't worth it. She's not a true friend if she lied about something that big.
2016-05-18 00:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be too specific, but rather encourage him to encourage his mother to go get screened. He should absolutely insist on it and it is good business even if she doesn't have any lumps.
2007-09-12 11:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's tough. if you think your husband can't handle the stress of wondering what will happen to his mom then just wait. his mom should be the one to tell him.
2007-09-12 11:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him so he will pressure her to go, because him and the family needs to know now before it is too late....
2007-09-12 11:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him.. if you were in his place you would want him to tell you maybe just maybe he can talk her into changing her mind and go see a Dr. good luck
2007-09-12 11:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by ninnaluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definately tell your husband. Put yourself in his shoes... .wouldn't you want him to tell you?
2007-09-12 11:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by Y!A P0int5 Wh0r3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he would be hurt that you didn't tell him.
2007-09-12 11:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its his mom... she should tell him!!!!!! and she should hurry up
2007-09-12 11:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋