I gues my mom never got over the fact I grew up because she is now staying with me for a few months and is treating me like a baby. Let's see,she calls me the babyish nicknames she called me before I left for college, she pinches my cheeks, smoothers me with kisses and hugs me tight. She insists on doing everything for me and says that I need help raising my 2 kids and my niece that lives with me. She says I'm just a little girl and I don't know how I can stop this. What can I do?
2007-09-12 10:09:14 · 8 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She also squeezes my cheeks together and sometimes tries to feed me and put me on a harness. I'm 28 for god's sakes!
2007-09-12 10:19:36 · update #1
She doesn't live alone. She lives with my dad and my 18 year old sis.
2007-09-12 11:25:57 · update #2
i don't believe the harness thing but, it sounds like maybe your mom has missed you and taking care of you. does she live alone? it makes me think that she's trying to feel useful again. this happens to alot of parents(mom's especially) when their kids are grown and have lives of their own. i think, sitting down over coffee with her and talking would do the trick. the hugs and kisses, well, i'd kill for that from my mom right now. she's been gone 12 yrs. in your mom's eye's, you'll always be a little girl in a way. she just has to learn when to say when. talk to her, i'm sure she'll understand.
2007-09-12 11:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you are no longer her baby, and that you want this behavior to STOP. tell her very sternly, then she might get the message. if not, then show her that you are a grown woman, with your own life.if she tries to help you when you are helping your kids, tell her that you don't want, or need her help, and then she might back off a bit.
if none of this works, why not sit her down one evening, when the kids are in bed, and tell her that she has to stop treating you like a baby, simply because you are no longer a baby. you are a grown woman, who has her own kids, and shouldn't be treated this way at this age. if she gets all upset, and goes into one of those moods where they sulk, and pretend to hate you for the next few days, let her. this way, she can see that you can look after your own kids, without her help, and maybe she might realize that she was being a bit too over-the-top.
hopefully, she will stop, but if she doesn't, tell her to go home, and grow up...
2007-09-12 17:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is very trying for you. Your mother is probably going through a rough time in her life adjusting to the fact that her children are grown and have their own lives and families. She may feel lost and lonely because her child no longer needs her the way you once did. Remember, she was a mom for a long time and probably never realized that one day her little girl would growup.
Be patient with her and make her feel welcome and needed.
2007-09-12 17:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if i were you i would be happy. It's great that shes doing that. Thats just a weird way of showing how much she loves you. I Dunno about you but i think, Growing up sucks. No more calling them Mommy or Daddy, No more kissing your boo boo's when you get hurt, no more blues clues, no more getting scared and crying on kiddy rides, no more storytime before your nappy. I Think you should feel glad that youre still treated like one. She's just being a loving mother. God Bless.
2007-09-12 17:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just sounds like she needs to needed & to feel useful ,talk to her about your issues & give her certain things she can do while shes with you ,let her feel needed but don't let her take over be firm but kind,stop her the moment she does something you don't like & be consistent .. hope this helps ..good luck
2007-09-12 17:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by chrissi l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that while you appreciate her help and you like having her around (you do like that, right :) that you can handle things just fine and you did handle them just fine when she wasn't there. She probably won't stop completely, but just realize that to her, you will always be her child, no matter how old you are. I bet she just wants to feel useful.
2007-09-12 17:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tlk to her. Say that you are tired of her treating her like a baby and if you ever need anything you will tell her and know that she will be there for you!!
Hope i helped
2007-09-12 17:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask her what she was doing when she was 28? was her mum treating her like this?!
2007-09-12 18:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋