My ex-husband keeps telling me that I have ruined my daughter's life. She is 15 and lived with her Dad from age 10 until now.
She is living with me now and I am trying my best to keep her busy productively.
I have enrolled her in a SAT Review class and am looking into other sports and craft type classes.
She is not comfortable living with my parents where I am living currently so I am trying to move out against my ex-husband's wishes.
I am trying my best to make things up to her. I live in another state and did not get to see her too much during the past few years.
My ex-husband's e-mails keep accusing me of ruining our daughter's life and saying that I have spoiled everyone's life because I was undependable and unstable. I made plans to go back to him and never did.
2007-09-12 12:37:17 · 13 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like he is a dominating overbearing Jerk!
Block his e-mails and get on with your life with your daughter!
You 2 have a lot time time to make up hun!
Also find that new place ASAP!
Will bring u 2 closer than u will ever believe!
Been there! ;)
2007-09-12 12:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by msbikergranny 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the ex husband I agree with everyone else he is just trying to push your buttons. Concentrate on getting your life together with your daughter in your own place. I am a firm believer in one day at a time , one step at a time.
You have taken the first step by having your daughter to come live with your. Move onto the next one. you are not ruining her life and let the past in the past what matters most is the here and now. Don't beat yourself up for whatever kept you two apart reward yourself that you are together.
My mom gave me a prayer to say when I was getting divorced and it is called "Don't Quit". I still have it hanging at my desk at work to remind every day when I am frustrated that I need to keep going forward.
Best of Luck to both of you. Pray alot and it will all work out for you two.
2007-09-12 12:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex husband is an idiot.
I wouldn't have gone back to a guy that acted like that towards me. Do you have to take his emails? Is your daughter asking you to move? Ask her how she feels she
is old enough to tell you.
Don't feel guilty life hands you lemons sometimes.. don't overdo making it up to her. Just try to be a good Mom and stop with the guilt allready!!
2007-09-12 12:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's in pain. i'm not saying he's good or right, i'm just thinking that if my child left me, even for the other parent, i would be broken over it.
it doesn't sound like ur ruining her life. u sound like a great mom.
sounds like you had to leave because u couldn't bear to be with him anymore and u were trying to survive. that's not being unstable. hopefully u can get out of ur parents house soon. that's tough under the very best of circumstances.
i wish u both the best !!!! so happy for you !!!
2007-09-12 13:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you, and are you undependable and unstable? ive seen this happen alot. usually the husband does not get custody unless the wife is out of control. ive seen women who have changed and go too far to make up for it. what does your daughter want? 15 is not a good age to change her life around. the next worse thing for someone that age, outside of a divorce, is a move. they have to make new friends, go to a new school, and its not easy for them. they usually start hanging with people in the same situation, and alot of times its not really healthy for them. i have been in that situation myself, so i know what im talking about. i wish you the best of luck. take care
2007-09-12 13:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by chris l 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ex-husband's can often be crazy. My dad is, and my mom let him under her skin for a long time but got over it. Your ex-husband's under your skin. Get him out. You two are ex's for a reason, remember that. You're doing your best and no one can ask for more.
Good Luck.
2007-09-12 12:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the only reason why your ex is angry,because you left him and did not return.So he is trying to lash out the best way he knows how to hurt you.Your trying to get your life back on track and that is killing him,so keep doing well for yourself and your daughter.And ignore his comments,he can't hurt you if you don't listen.
2007-09-12 12:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him one email saying if this is not in regards to our daughter in some healthy way that you are needing information or for visitation do not call or write me again.
The end. You didn't ruin your duaghters life and it is not for your ex to say where you live.
2007-09-12 12:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT IS ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER not him or anyone else.
you don't need the guilt trip and feel more bad than you do already. just be a mother and tell him if he's not going to be encouraging then don't e-mail you he upset about something but it not for you to figure or worry about.
just be the good mother that you are.
2007-09-12 12:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Delete your email account and open up another one. Do not give it out to the ex. That'll let him know what you think of his accusations.
2007-09-12 12:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋