I recently ran into an old friend on myspace, we started talking alot, phone calls, text messaging,emailing. He lives in NC and me in SC 4hrs away. we have since started a relationship since Apr-present. but he is a marine and has been deployed since july, we both were in fostercare as children and know each others struggles, we also both want to start a foundation for our families, something that most other families already have like family traditions, he has a daughter by a previous girl and i have a daughter too, his is 6 mine is 5. we both are tired of playing the field and are ready for marriage& another baby, he was not there for a lot of his daughters young life due to him just joining the marines. i was not there for about 1 1/2 yrs with my daughter due to me being in school and trying to get us an apartment and such, now we are ready to do it again and we both will be there 100% but he wont get home until Feb. and we just started talking in apr. is that to soon?
2007-09-12 09:44:25 · 13 answers · asked by becky1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it would be a good idea to keep seperate "houses" for a while after he returns. You both, and your children, need time to adjust to each other.
It is great that you want the same things from a relationship and have the same desires for a future. Take that and build on it, don't set it up for failure by progressing through the stages of a "relationship" too quickly.
Good luck! (I was married to a military member and it is a hard task to be a spouse!--and I live in SC too!)
2007-09-12 09:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both come from the same kind of background and it sounds as if you both have the same dreams; that's a great foundation to start with. Personally I think the best way to start this is to see in February how your whole extended family gets along with each other. The two girls will need to adjust to sharing their parents not only with another adult but with another sibling. Once things settle down into your own little family would be the time to start thinking of a new baby. Take your time, it sounds like the beginning of something good for all of you. Good luck.
2007-09-12 16:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by littleone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if you guys know you care about eachother. I'd date seriously for 6 months or a year, or longer to get the ground rules and expectations down. Since you are both busy, it would be nice for your children to have a backup role model to spend time with once in a while. Don't commit before you test the waters, just to be sure.
2007-09-12 16:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by neuroticangel6669 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound compatible, but you should
really spend some "up close & personal"
time together before thinking about a
marriage. Do some dating in Feb.
Good Luck.
2007-09-12 16:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Irv S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until he comes home and you can spend more time together to see how you get along with being together full time and not long distance and go from there. Will he move where you are or will you move where he lives? All things that need to be figured out.
2007-09-12 16:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by stanleycup 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Naw,its not too soon.My husband and I went out for the first time on July 14th and got married on Aug.14th exactly 1 month later.We have been married now for 32 years.
Sometimes you just know when you meet the right person.
2007-09-12 17:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take this from a person who knows, "GO GET HAPPINESS"
you and he sound like you know what your doing and you have had a chance to see what life is alone and you two sound perfect for each other. Believe me it does not come along easily..... Good Luck to you Both.
2007-09-12 16:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start off by dating when he's back in the US. Don't rush into living together and being a family just yet. It could work out, best wishes.
2007-09-12 16:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, maybe not. But you can't do anything about working on a family or a new baby until he gets home and by then you guys will have more time under your belts. Good luck!
2007-09-12 16:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Carollee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not if you two know each other and want the same things in life
2007-09-12 16:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Jeffrey N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋