My stepmothers dad died yesterday and although me and my stepmum dont see eye to eye, her family have always made me feel welcome ever since I met them 20 years ago. i am going round to see my dad and stepmum later and I'm not sure if I should take flowers or what....and what do I say to her?? After all, she has lost her father. And although we are not friends, I feel I have to be there for her as she is still family, as I am also there for my dad.
2007-09-12 04:13:19 · 9 answers · asked by bearsbums 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you can take some flowers, or food if you like.
yes, let her know you are sorry for her loss, and also that you Will do anything you can to help her in this time... maybe that will help?
i know it's difficult, but when we lose our parents, it's nice to have support.
you seem like a nice person. take care of you too.
2007-09-12 04:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Times of great loss can often help people to put the little issues in life in a better perspective. Be with her, suport her as best as you can and feel comfortable doing. This situation should serve as a reminder to you both that we're all only here for a limited time. You can choose to enhance each other's lives or at least live in some relative form of peace. I wish you both the best of luck!
2007-09-12 12:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by n3utr0n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's not what you say, it's what you do. Give her a hug or a pat on the back to let her know you care even though you may have always seen eye-to-eye. Flowers are always a nice gesture.
2007-09-12 11:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your instincts are admirable. Take it from somebody who has lost mother-in-law, mom, dad, stepson and just this week brother-in-law (all of that in 3 short years).
Your expression of sympathy, whether it is flowers, a card or just being there, will be appreciated.
2007-09-12 11:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Judith L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that you are there for her for whatever she may need .....and actually u need to mean what u say ....i hated when my dad died and everybody was like is there anything u need??? And then when my family needed something they weren't there
2007-09-12 11:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when death comes in all old feelings of ill will should go out(at least temporarily) and just your presence should be enough to show you care...be a good ear to listen...if she wants to talk..a shoulder to lean on...and who knows you two might just become friends after this...death does bring people together.
2007-09-12 11:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's not going to be looking for anything from you other than your company. You could send a card if you want.
2007-09-12 11:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to put your fillings aside and let her know you are there for her ,that will be all she needs just be there for her
2007-09-12 11:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should pay your respects for all the reasons you just mentioned. It would be appreciated more than you know.
2007-09-12 11:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋