I'm going crazy!! My mother recently got laid off from work, and is in between jobs right now and doesnt have a whole lot of money. Her fiance makes twice as much as I do and my mom calls me to borrow money!! She just called and told me that her electric was turned off and she needs to borrown $600. I don't just have that kinda money laying around to spend. If it were just my mom, I wouldnt be upset, but she has a fiance that makes good money and has a whole bunch of toys. (Truck, Motorcycle, Playstation, Fourwheeler, etc) and won't help her out. He goes out a spends lots of money on silly things and she can't even pay the electric bill. I know their relationship is none of my business so I don't know what to do! Please Help!
2007-09-12 09:11:26 · 6 answers · asked by Ray Ray 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her that as much as you love her just can't afford to keep giving her money. You have the right to say something to her about the fiance sharing the burden. If he truly loved her he would be helping her. Maybe you should let her know that this is a glimpse into her future with this man. And tell her that you can barely afford to support yourself in these times.
2007-09-12 09:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is tell her you can't support her. Just stop giving her money! It's not your responsibility. Maybe she'll be more motivated to get back into the work force that way. But you can't force her fiance to start taking care of her. Although teh fact that he isn't, certainly says something about him.
2007-09-12 16:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom the Truth. You don't have the money right now to get her lights turned back on. Ask her if maybe she could ask her boyfriend. Unfortunately in this type of situation, you can't tell your mom what to do, or she'll become defensive. She's going to have to learn this the hard way.
2007-09-12 16:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't worry about what he has or doesn't bring to the relationship. If you can help your mom you do. There is no getting through to someone about their partner unless they want to hear it. Maybe just suggest an organization that helps people with their bills in these situations.
2007-09-12 16:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by billie b 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't mention her fiance. Just tell her you don't have the money and she'll have to ask someone else.
2007-09-12 16:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to mom ...... does she want you to move in ...... you don't have the cash to float two homes ..... then ask mom about the "rich guy" and see what she thinks ... perhaps it isn't working and she does not want to feel indebted to him ... for anything.
You never know till you talk.
2007-09-12 16:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋