Family - September 2007

Our neighbor's son is 13 and is from the Domincan Republic and has been here for approx. 10yrs.
Another neighbor overheard an argument with his mom who is also Domincan, and the American husband, something to the fact that he was not going to jail because of them. It is obvious to all that he married her to get her here in the US. Apparently the son, does not have a "green" card, but yet has been living here and attending school. The young boy tells us that he can't go back to his country because they won't let him back. He usually goes every yr. to visit his sister's, aunts, family.
Could that be true? How illegal is this?
OH, get this, his mom ask me if my brother, who is single, would be interested in marrying her sister so that she can come to America!!! Of course they would pay lots of $ to do this.
I laughed so hard that I almost peed myself.

2007-09-11 01:54:40 · 3 answers · asked by Mom of 2 great boys 7

We live in a quiet suburban area and some of her friends have knocked recently and asked if she can go out with them. I have let her twice. Each time she has taken her a mobile phone and stayed with friends. What are your opinions on this? She is very mature and I think she is ready.

2007-09-11 01:51:12 · 22 answers · asked by dogs3kids2hubby1 4

He plays xbox and talks with his buds. I miss my son. His dad and I try to get him to "come on down", but he seems happy to scowl around and stay away from us. Uh, recently I found some porn under his mattress when I was changing linens. I threw em away and did not say anything to him.

2007-09-11 01:41:22 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 27 years old and because I spent all the money on my credit card for what she says was not needed. I reduced my bill by $100 this month. I say I am progressing but she is so mad she will not talk to me ever again. She will not let me borrow 1 cent to if I am short 1 cent. Do I call debt fixers to help or I am just run away to get attention?

2007-09-11 01:24:02 · 13 answers · asked by initmador 3

if your child went missing would you wash the last thing that they had held ie a teddy. even if it was covered in dribble and sun tan lotion.
kate mccann states that the teddy was was in bed with maddy when they left her, but on finding her missing the teddy was on a shelf that the toddler could not of reached so whoever took her placed it there! (that alone is hard to believe). if what she says is true why wash it as it may have held DNA clues of the abductor.
i am a father and just cannot understand why she would want to erase the scent of maddy.

2007-09-11 01:21:14 · 46 answers · asked by dave c 3

she done us a favour when we were on holiday,she worked in the caravan park in the shop,she picked up a few things from town for us and we paid her well.she had his mobile number to let us know when shed got our stuff.weve been home a month now and she rang him last week asking some question about a toy we had given to her little girl(well thats what he says she rang for)and he asked what work she was doing now the season is over,she said shed have to claim dole as there is no work and he said hed send her 20 pounds,he then asked me if i thought that was ok and i said well no not really,he said well she did do us a favour and i said we paid her for that,but said for him to do what he thinks is right.Hes said nothing and when i ask if hes sent it he said no not yet,but i think he probably has.Usually i do all the posting of letters i joke im like his p.a. so i find this suspicious.shes only in her twenties,im older.

2007-09-11 01:15:37 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother told me that she is still married to my father for the financial security for my brother and I. She has been miserable with him for all of my 22 years and says she has to stay married to him because my brother and I "wouldn't know how to live."

Despite the fact that she made her own bed, is depressed and not taking her meds, and has been unfaithful to my father (I caught her cheating when I was 18, my brother recently discovered she is talking to her ex-husband again), I still feel enormous guilt, regardless of the fact that it is illogical.

How can I overcome my guilt? How can I ease my brother's guilt? He is only 14 and has enough problems. It just kills me to think that he feels as I do. I have an enormous weight on my shoulders.

Is her behavior normal or abusive?

2007-09-11 00:51:22 · 11 answers · asked by Surf Forever 5

my son and his girlfreind had a baby 9 weeks ago and right out of the blue i get a call saying i no longer can see any of them ive been very good with them i provided everything they needed for the baby and more i cant understand why this is going on tryed to speak with my son who just seems to be so nasty with a really bad attiued i only have i son it feels like my life is falling apart i had a operation this year and some days i cant walk with pain im not surposed to travel in a car for more than 15minutes but i make the jounery everytime im allowed to see them which is 2 hours im not one of them mothers that interfer if they have rows i never take sides they live with her parents so its hard to go to the house and see them on my own although her mother has said she cant understand why they are treating me this way she said you have been so good to them her daughter says she has an illness which stops people going out but shes always out and about i just wish i could understand why

2007-09-10 23:15:20 · 18 answers · asked by J en 1

2007-09-10 21:22:29 · 6 answers · asked by malbadi3 1

2007-09-10 20:05:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ook I have to write this paper/letter thingy for class and one of the questions I have to answer is How well do I know my culture? How well do I know do I know other culture?
((sorry its in the wrong section))

---How would I answer these questions?

2007-09-10 17:27:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

p.s. I am 25 years old and she tells me what to do on a daily basis. Any advice would be appreciated.

2007-09-10 17:14:58 · 16 answers · asked by pghbstngirl25 1

I called 911 and my stepmom told them I was crazy and I did to myself my dad went to jail. I didn't ttalk to him until this year I am now 22 my question is can you forgive a person who basically ruined your child hood? Can you ever recover from feeling that unloved? My sister and I moved in with my boyfriends parents they were so wonderful they took us in barely knowing us and they r still in my life but they r not my real parents and I just want to have parent who has a genetic tie to me who cares what I do with my life who's job it is to guide me through life. Am I stupid for wanting to trust him again? I Know this is a long read for those of u who followed what do i DO1 through 5 but it feels good to get out this isn't the casual talk u have w/friends it just makes them down and I don't understand why I can't get over it my life is good I have a great loving bf I have my sis who is the only 1 who truely gets me and a bf you lets me know Im worth carring about why don't I feel good?

2007-09-10 17:07:42 · 2 answers · asked by coley200722 3

I am 25 currently living with parents and attending college full time and working full time. Currently I am paying tuition and books straight out of my pocket somehow miraculously. Plus I have a car payment.

The problem is that I'm tired of living with my parents and want my own place, but afraid I cannot afford it. I am also starting to have problems getting along with my dad. Is there any way I can afford college and an apartment?

2007-09-10 17:02:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need Help and asked my family in a way I thought might be quite and would not put them on the spot with a face to face. I e-mailed them all. I'm disabled. I gave them a list of things I use alot and told them I'd appreciate any one thing as help from them (like paper towels, etc....).I told them I did not expect . . . but asked/let them know . . . and left it up to them. I told them I was sorry to ask, but I needed help. Was it wrong for me to ask. I thought this would be a quite way to let them know I needed help. Was it?

2007-09-10 16:59:31 · 8 answers · asked by Nick 2

My step-sister sweet sixteen is this weekend and I have no idea what to get her. I want it to be something really good, but not to expensive. She is kinda of a girly girl, but she is really into basketball (because she plays for her school). She likes a lot of rap music and r&b. So any ideas will help. Oh the gift should probably be no more than 60 dollars.

2007-09-10 16:49:14 · 2 answers · asked by :) 2

Ok so heres the thing...awhile back my father took me to dinner and asked me how would you feel if I asked a lady out ...which wouldnt be that bad i guess...but my thing is while my mother was alive he treated her like **** ...name calling ...hitting ...i grew up in that..when i was older i fought him back i was a rebel against him...could be labeled as a bad daughter i guess since i threatened to kill him and fought back ..but i was protecting my mother..she fought back and left but then got sick ..came back and shortly later died of other reasons....i was kinda cruel...my father regrets how he treated my mom...i see it hear it in his voice but i feel like its to late...i told him to go out if he wanted to but i dont want to see it or it to be at family functions...ect...i'm not a very violent person..and tend to keep things inside dealing with him..but i dont know if i could take seeing him being nice to someone the way he should have been with my mom..am i wrong...am i being selfish

2007-09-10 16:47:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

When you were younger, would your guardian "kiss your boo-boo better"? Did you feel like it worked or didn't it?

2007-09-10 16:14:35 · 11 answers · asked by Dominus 5

2007-09-10 14:49:19 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had surgery on Fri. and her Grandmother had to watch her. Her father was working and her uncle is there all day. I noticed a common rash on her rear end and on her vag. lips so I washed her up. While I was doing that I asked her if anyone had ever touched her down there(she said only grandma wne she washes her) I said ok no biggie she has to do that. I took her to my room to put some cream and powder on her and I noticed as I was checking her that inside her Vag. she was really red. I have never seen that before on her(or any of my other two daughters) I was kinda shocked. I said whoa you are really red and she said well tio(Uncle) touched me there and I asked her where and she pointed down there. Sometimes she tells tales.I dont wanna be that mom that calls my kid a liar. I dont know what to do...Please if anyone has had a situation like this please help.

2007-09-10 14:43:50 · 25 answers · asked by chellywelly 2

I LOVE ice cream. The problem is so does my dad who is supposed to be on a diet. So whenever I buy ice cream, no matter where in the freezer i hide it, my dad always eats most of it and then wonders why he isnt losing weight!! But whenever I tell him to stop eating it, he tells me he only had a spoonful when really he goes through at least a pint a day!! I dont know what to do so I can still eat ice cream and not have my dad eat it all.....

2007-09-10 14:26:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Which do you think is worst, Death of your mother or your child?... Ill say child

2007-09-10 14:18:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't want to explain why but i NEED to get my mom to read my diary. She is not nosy but I REALLY NEED this . please don't ask why.

2007-09-10 14:11:41 · 9 answers · asked by Bee 2

Well my daughter just started pre-school last week. She only goes on tuesday, wed, and thurs. She goes from 8:30 till 3:00. We went to my mother in laws house for my husband birthday and my daughter want to spend the night. I said that it would be fine as long as she was home by 8:00 so she can get some sleep for school. My mother in law said that it was fine. And here it is 9:00 and they are just getting ready to leave. They leave an hour or more away. I am pissed about it. I am the one that has to get her up in the morning, not her. So my question is should she stay the night over there anymore? I dont want to be the bad guy about it but I want her home at 8 not when she want to bring her home. I even offer to pick her up, but they were out shopping and everything today and she said that she would bring her home. So do you think that she should stay over there?

2007-09-10 14:04:16 · 3 answers · asked by Jessica p 3

There's this kid at school. He was nice to me until a few days ago and then he called me a f*ckin b*tch because I threw a pecon at him to stop him from killing this cat. And then he insulted me by saying something to me thatwas just really mean but if I told you what it was you wouldnt get it. And then today at school I was avoiding him because of what he said and then he threaten my bestfriend. So I got really mad and one of my others friends asked me what was wrong and I told her the entire story. But then he over heard and called me the same name that you wouldnt understand and he kept egging it on. So finally I dropped all my books and pushed him into a locker. A teacher saw but didnt say anything. The next hour he was in my class and kept saying really bad stuff about me and the teacher told him to stop but after school I text asking him why he's such a liar and he text me back saying "I aint now stop texting me or else." What do I do about this jerk?

Sry. It was soo long.

2007-09-10 13:53:20 · 15 answers · asked by baby face. 3

shes six but she has no respect for anyone including her father
it kills me to watch her back talk gma im not old egnogh to do anything about it thogh

2007-09-10 13:45:35 · 10 answers · asked by SAMANTHA 1

After many years of not really knowing or associating with my real father, I feel the need due to our age for us to be close or try to have a relationship of some kind.
For years my mother made me beleive that he didn't care much about being my father and my step father had always been there for me, so I should just forget about a relationship with my real father.
My step father, couldn't ever handle even the mention of my real father, so if I have anything to do with my real father, my step father will not understand and will get upset. So I have to keep it a secret if I have anything to do with my real father which makes hard to build anykind of relationship, if you know what I mean.
How would you work on this if you where me.
I do desire very much to have my real father in my life, but live in fear that if my step father finds out he will think I don't care anything about him anymore and my real father has always known this that is why he has always kept his distance.

2007-09-10 13:22:49 · 1 answers · asked by tljmom 2

I know someone( my mom) who gets mad when you tell her the truth. She doesn't want to hear it when she is bossy or overbearing. But then she always ends up looking silly.She gets MEAN

2007-09-10 13:19:54 · 14 answers · asked by Brandy S 2

My mom died and I fell like if i go on with my life that I will for get avbout her. Id ther anything I can do keep her in my heart so i wont forget about her?

2007-09-10 12:59:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

As far as wording that question, yea, I know it's terrible. But what I mean is, as far as censorship, like ridding of TV and internet blockers, watching R or PG-13 rated movies, etc. This sorts of stuff. I'm not a parent, but I am curious how other parents feel about this. I know parents who try to protect their kids until they are 18, and I feel they are too underexposed to life, then I know parents who don't protect their kids from that at all, and so fourth.

Just wanting to know your opinion on the matter.

2007-09-10 10:01:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous