How do I get my 6 year old son to stop being so nasty and rude ans sassy towards myself and his father?

Answer 1

When he acts up give him a timeout (sitting on a chair or standing in the corner) if he won't do it, sit him down on your lap and hold him, if he flails, restrain him, when he settles down, put him on the chair or in the corner, if he still refuses, hold him again, let him know his behavior is unacceptable.
Be consistent...make him realize you are not going to allow his rude behavior, that he has no other choice but to mind you and his father. You have to nip it in the butt, otherwise imagine what will happen when he's older.
How did your parents discipline you when you were a kid?
Always remember to give praise when he is good...smiles, kisses and hugs too.
Wondering how he behaves at school.

Answer 2

Honestly good luck. Children learn that being mean to their parents can get them a long way. I've worked with children for over 10 years, and the children that are mean or nasty to their parents do so because for the most part they can get away with it to at least some degree. It's hard being a parent, it's much easier to be a teacher or short time caregiver.
I've noticed that in order to correct this misbehavior - it is NOT physical punishment in anyway. It's more simple, remove the things they like the most... be it TV, toys, an outing, etc. and explain why that the particular object, or event is being taken away - because they can not show you as parents that they deserve it. In order to go out, a child must act within the rules of say a nice restaurant or such, no talking back, no yelling, hitting, etc. If an adult did this they would be removed from that restaurant or arrested etc.
Also depending on how you are being treated, chances are their toys are being treated the same. If they throw a toy, take it up and let them know because it was thrown etc, it needs to go away a while to be 'fixed' because it was hurt. It may take a little time, but I've seen children come to realize that their belongings are slowly disappearing, and they aren't going out to their fav. places, and they begin to ask why.
I hate to say it, and it may come across as being mean, it's not meant to be, but some children need more attention then they are being given. I mean a lot more. It's not that you aren't giving them attention or love, but some need much more than others to feel comfortable. Consider random hugs and or kisses. The type of "just because I love you hugs", they are quick and out of the blue when things are going well. It's a type of positive reinforcement as opposed to punishment after something has gone wrong.
Another idea is to check with your child's teachers, caregivers etc. because they will also have an idea of what types of things set them off. Trust me when I say, that it is not you, either of you. You both are not doing anything wrong, unless of course you are encouraging this negative behavior, which is most likely NOT the case. They grow out of it, but it does take time. The idea is to figure out what caused the behavior, and some how avoid it when possible.
Again, good luck, and remember they are only 6 once, when they are old and have a first date being a girlfriend, or boyfriend standing beside them you can always take revenge and bring out those good 'ol embarrassing pictures.

Answer 3

This is very common. She's testing the water's with her mother. Most kids are very well behaved for people that aren't around them as often as mom and dad, but at home it could be a completely different story. I know the first time I brought my 2 son's to daycare I was terrified that they would be on their WORST behavior, to my surprise, when I picked them up my daycare provider was raving about how polite and well behaved they were, and she still continues to have this luck, I on the other hand don't always get that lucky! What your niece is doing is trying to see how far she can go with her mother (and possibly you) before mom snaps. Why you may ask, I don't know the best answer to that. I think, children, just like adults, need to know how far they can go with something before it breaks (example, you probably stick your feet in the swimming pool before you jump in) that is very similar to what she is doing. I hope that helped answer your question. Your best bet (and your sister or sister in law) is to stick to your grounds and stay consistent between the two of you with what you are allowing her to do and not allowing her to do etc... good luck to the both of you!

Answer 4

You've been given allot of suggestions ...

One .. I would not beat him/her ...
Talking may or may not help ??
Taking things that one loves to play with might help ??

I don't know your situation ??
Or what troubles your are having with your child - the only suggestion that I can think of ...

If you attend church - speak to your pastor or deacons - maybe some school counselors would be another means to help in that direction.

I can only speak for what I've been through in my life - and beating one or shouting angrily at a child will only make things worse and not to say as to what this affect will have on you and your relation with your child later in life.

Sometimes love is a little hard - but by handling this in an adult way and you rising to show that you can handle this in an adult way - will only create a longer and better relationship with your child later on in life.

I'll send a prayer up and hope that God will also show you and help you with this as well.

Old Dawg

Answer 5

Well, he was probably spoiled alot his first 5 years of life and now he's gotten used to it. I say you need to take away all the stuff that makes him happy. Not EVERYTHING, but his most prized possessions. Let him know that when he stops acting like a brat, he MIGHT get some of it back. Thats for you to decide because you are the parent. Get in there and show him who is boss. I know some people want to treat their kids like equals, but kids are not equals they are kids and believe it or not, they like and WANT structure. Good luck. You may have 5 years of spoiling to undo.

Answer 6

Turn off that damned television, all that south park crap and things like that. TV is ruining the youth of today and has been for about the last 15 years.

Let that ride for a few weeks and see if that makes a difference and if not, do not let him watch again, beat his narrow azz when he sass's you or your hubby. I only had to pop my daughter in the mouth one time, it was not hard, more like an attention getter and it got her attention. Never had anymore problems, around me anyway.

Adoption, would that be acceptable?

Answer 7

You have to be consistent with his punishment!! If you threaten to do something, you HAVE to do it!! I have 3 boys, ages 10, 8 and 6. I know what you're talking about!! Send him to bed early. Take away video games or his favorite toys. Right now my 6 and 8 yr olds are on punishment. They are grounded for 3 days, no video games for a week(kills them!) and they have to go to bed early for a week. Each child is different, you have to find what gets to him. It's not unreasonable to make him bite onto a bar of soap and keep it there for a minute or two. Sometimes, I think it's necessary to pop their butts once in awhile to remind them of who's in charge! Good Luck!!

Answer 8

there are two things that you can do:

1. When ever he acts out give him a nice spanking and tell him what he did wrong and not to do it again or he will get another spanking

2. When he acts out tell him to sit in a time out spot away from any toys and other family members. Have him sit there for one minute for every year old he is. In this case 6 minutes. Then Tell him why he is in time out. When his time is up get on to his level and tell him why he was in time out again and to ask him to say sorry and give mommy/daddy a hug. Once that is done he can go off to his own business.

Also if he gets up and out of time out and is not sitting like he is supposed to then he is to be placed back in time out and reset his time. This method must be done everysingle time he acts out or he will think he can get away with it. Good luck

Answer 9

OK I don't recommend hitting your kids, but a good whack on the head to knock some sense into a kid never hurt. Or punish him like one previous answerer said take away his games or his toys or something. Respect is very important. You need to teach him better manners.

Answer 10

put some SPANKY ON HIS PANKY!!!!!!! If respect is not earned, 99%of kids won't give it!! Don't hurt him just enough to let you know you'll not take his crapp.. Trust me if you get control NOW, he'll run the show in just a few years!!! I was a single dad w/3 kids. We did great together, I raised them with love,disipline,respect and if all else failed, I spanked them!!!!!!