My husband is my soulmate. We connect spiritually and mentally. married for two years, have a one year old daughter, (and 8 year old son from my 1st marriage). He is a wonderful dad, provider, and my best friend. Well, About 3 months ago we had neighbors move in next door, and we got on with them amazingly well.. Well, the neighbor wife is gorgeous, and smart! I first noticed something when she once told me outside that my hubsband had a dream about a game we all play online..but he didnt mention it to me 1st.. and then she asked if he could go to walmart with her and hubby...even tho he was asleep(wanted me 2 wake him up) He told me later that he thought she had a mini crush on him, but not for her.. then I let it go until the other night.. he sat on the couch the whole night telling her about his favorite book character, and (sort of)ignoring me and her hubby. He does have tendency to rant..but he never told me he lent her books.. but maybe he lent them to both.. but I'm very jealous
2007-09-11 04:28:49 · 10 answers · asked by S&NFervor4Ever 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
An emotional affair is not likely to be out in front of you like that. They have some common interests and it is normal to develop repore with someone you enjoy being around. Just because they can chat with each other and have fun doing so does not mean there is anything underhanded going on. Remember he is a person and it's good to develop relationships with other people.
Don't be over paranoid. Women who start acting like their husband is going to start messing around on them actually push their mate away.
2007-09-11 04:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a poison, it will destroy you. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity and low self esteem. What you need to do is to replace her. If he's finding things interesting about her, then you need to fill that need for him. Remember that he loves you not her, but don't be stupid. Men don't see these things the same way we women do, and while you cannot blame him for responding with interest to a new person in your life, you can certainly make it plain to her that you aren't putting up with that nonsense. Distance yourself, and the next time she calls when your husband is asleep, tell her that he's not available, goodbye and hang up. Be polite to her, but don't develop a friendship so there is any reason to invite her over.
Be smart about this, don't be a nag and get a handle on your jealousy. Make sure your soulmate has every part of you at all times, so that the smart beautiful woman next door won't even be a thought in his mind. Good luck.
2007-09-11 04:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This friendship seems to be heading down a dangerous path. I suggest you have a long heart to heart talk with your hubby. Reassure him that you absolutely trust him and you believe in your heart that he has only platonic intentions where this friendship is concerned, HOWEVER, you don't really know the woman that well, or what stage their marriage is in, and you can't absolutely trust her. Then request that he take a cooling period with their friendship, because even the most trustworthy people over estimate their 'powers' to resist temptation, and why place yourself in that position if you never intend to screw up your marriage in the first place, right? He should value and respect your marriage more than a budding neighborly friendship. Also....make sure that you are showing him the attention and interest in his hobbies that she does....perhaps because you don't admire him when he "rants" as you so eloquently described what he views as talking passionately about an interest, he is getting what he needs from her?
2007-09-11 04:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you seem still so in love with your husband that is very nice. Tell him in very simple terms that it bugs you and move on. The more you probe him the easier he will find it to lean on your neighbor friend.
Next time you chat with your neighbor friend say you (as in ur neighbor) must be jealous that she can't have a similar relationship with her husband like she is desperately trying to have with yours. Really rub it in she will get the picture real quick of course she might try to get catty but let her know she needs to let it go. Again try to make it short and sweet so less interaction is required.
On a different note I like the fact that you assessed her personality with such dignity. I believe you are just as smart and beautiful if not more for you kind words in your moment of despair.
Good luck.
2007-09-11 05:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word here is communication!! I don't know what skill your husband has but trust me he is not psychic there is no way he'll know how you feel unless you talk to him. Tell him you're not very comfortable with the relationship and that the other hubby probably feels the same way too.
The truth is unless you are very tactical in your approach you might be accused of jealousy(just laugh it off and say it's cos he is sooo cute)or insecurity so be careful!!!
2007-09-11 04:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by flakey94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a guy your hubby probably does have a mini crush on the girl! i dont kno what it is but guys have a tendency to flirt with beautiful women! but i also think that if he is a wonderful hubby like you say he is then you should have nothing to worry about! hes jus being a guy but dont let it get out of hand tho! make sure you keep him interested!!!
2007-09-11 04:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dman #4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what is going on, don't create this affair in your mind, get a straight answer. If he keeps this up without telling you his feelings, cut the communication with this women.
2007-09-11 05:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by zannakc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to your husband - you already asked this question!
2007-09-11 04:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key
2007-09-11 04:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by arizonabrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is fishy, talk to him, i bet hes already cheating on you
2007-09-11 04:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋