2007-09-11 05:26:16 · 7 answers · asked by prem v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what?
2007-09-11 05:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. Know It All 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the level of "aged". If they are 70s don't mess with them ...instead be happy for them. Most of them are busy socializing and taking trips. They want connection with family but don't intrude on their busy season in their lives. These days seniors are living like spring chickens. We could use to follow their lead when it comes to mind body and soul. I know some are not doing so but they should. So, if you know someone who needs encouragement....
On the flip side.....
I know of some that actually bother their parents with their over-exaggerated feelings that their parents are aging to the point of intrusion. None of us need our aging process blown out of proportion. Believe me, I've seen people do this to two-year-olds expecting them to process on an adult level.
On the flip-side:
Around here I see that sons and sometimes grandchildren will mow their elderly parent(s) yard and respect their ability to do most of what it takes to go thru a daily routine. So, they visit and keep a distant eye (it's a family thing). We always keep a look out for each other when it comes to family. They also encourage social connection and allow accept/respect that parents are people too ; )
On the flip-side:
If your parents have become truthfully unable to fully care for themselves they have to be taken care of. Think of when you were or others were young....you could not do everything. From there a solution could be that one eye can be kept on a parent if they reside with family. By then sons and daughters have grown and spare bedrooms are available. I know of one couple that added an addition on their home and another that remodeled so their parents had a piece of their own world and they the same. Lastly it upped the value of their home in the long run by the time they would sell when they aged.
I'm sure there are many flip sides you know between your parents and the family.
2007-09-11 06:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know if it is the duty of adult children to look after their aging parents, then yes.
To honor our parents, we need to see to it that they have what they need: food, shelter, medicine, and decent care. That is our moral responsibility to our parents. There are different ways of doing this - and which way you choose will depend on your means and abilities. Talk with someone in your community (hopefully there is an agency that deals with elderly issues) who can help you with making arrangements or deciding what you can or cannot do to help them.
Otherwise, your question is a bit unclear - you may want to try and rephrase it or pose the question with some background if possible.
2007-09-11 06:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mama's on the half tip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a duty to see that they are okay, but you don't necessarily have to do the care yourself.
You have to put your own family (minor children and marriage) first. But remember, your children will see how you treat your parents, and that is probably how they will treat you when you are old.
2007-09-11 07:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to look after your aging parents....but if you can't do it, or it's costing you and your children/husband/spouse strife and misery, than a compromise or alternative is acceptable. Not everyone is capable of looking after another person....and that's OK, what's not OK is to make everyone around you miserable just to try to fulfill some sense of obligation...
2007-09-11 05:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good
2007-09-11 05:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT???????
2007-09-11 05:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by ANewLife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋