Family - September 2007

My husband and I are going to have our first baby. My mother-in-law got jealous when she knew that my mom will stay with us for 5 moths. She told me that people in the USA don’t like that their moms stay with them and 5 months was too much time. Now, she wants to stay at my house when my mom is here. She doesn’t speak Spanish and my mom doesn’t speak English. She just lives 40 minutes from us; she can drive back to her house. My mom lives in other country, practically my sister and I are her only family; therefore, I thought It will be nice to let her stay with us for a while and enjoy her first grandchild. My mother-in-law is saying that she will move close to us and that she will quit her job to take care of the baby. She is crossing the line because she told me I have to let my husband be involved with the baby and don’t take the baby over because most of women are like that. My husband doesn’t understand that his mom’s behavior is not right. I can’t let her dominate my life.

2007-09-25 03:39:48 · 18 answers · asked by Marquesa 1

I am very upset that my mother has told lies about me to my four sisters. They treat me differently as a result. The worst one she told was that I had an abortion when I really had a hymenectomy. Very embarrassing and humiliating. The other was that I did not want my daughter when my husband and I were actively trying to conceive. Then last month I shocked my visiting sisters when I told them I was pregnant again and they could not understand my joy. She told them I wanted no more children. On top of these lies she tells them I take drugs (never have) and countless other embarrassing things.. Should I have anything to do with this mother who has ruined my relationship with my siblings?.

2007-09-25 03:39:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had some problems with my elder sister ! She can be annoying. She keeps messing up the room and leave it to me to clean the room.. It is so annoying !! Can somebody help ?

2007-09-25 03:17:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My future MIL recently insinuated to my fiance that I am a gold digger, raping him for money...and I am livid. Because of his poor credit, everything we own is in my name and I have had to put my credit on the line for everything we have. She is angry that I refused to co-sign a car loan for him in addition to everything else I've done.

I am furious at her for these accusations, and irked at my fiance for not being more firm in my defense.

There is a going away party for my future brother in law this Saturday, which my fiance and I planned to attend with my MIL. I am so offended by her misinformed accusations, that I feel that attending the party would not be a good idea...lest I lose my self control and tell her how I really feel.

Would it be extremely rude of me to skip the party? I don't want to cause more conflict.

2007-09-25 03:17:09 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6

I cut off all contact to my parents because I couldn't deal with the abuse (verbal, emotional and physical) anymore. I was so depressed with them in my life. I moved out to be with my boyfriend, now we're married. I also had problems with my brother that does drugs and has mental problems. He was sexually harassing me and according to my family I was supposed to ignore that or I was doing something to cause it.

The reason why I'm thinking about cutting off all contact with them is because I don't trust them and they understand me. They never supported me. My aunt has promised me many things (send my clothes and some belongings) and has never kept her promises. Therefore, I don't trust her. Whenever I get a message from her it causes my husband and I to argue. He knows everything that happened to me and knows they only hurt me.

2007-09-25 03:00:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do I convince my 14 year old highschool daughter that she does not have to have a boyfriend all the time? She thinks that when she breaks up with a boy that she needs to get another one asap! She is beautiful, very athletic in scoccer, volleyball and basketball. She always makes the team when she tries out at school. She is always an honor roll student and loves school. She loves our church, she never misses and is on the drama team and dance team at church. She is always the first to volunteen to help in her youth group. But, she feels incomplete without someone to call her boyfriend even though she is not allowed to go out on dates (just talk on the phone). Maybe I'm just being silly and this is normal and I should not worry.

2007-09-25 02:57:58 · 14 answers · asked by Alliance Kicks Horde Butt 5

I called the treasury dept in my state, but since he had remarried 2 months before his sudden death with no will, they say his widow has the right to claim. Me and my sister got nothing from his estate. How should I go about convincing his widow to sign over rights to me and my sister. We are not talking about a fortune, it is less that $1,000. We just want it closed out.

P.S. This woman gave us nothing of my fathers after his death for even sentimental value. ( except his families photos).

2007-09-25 02:42:55 · 5 answers · asked by Lisa T (Stop BSL) 6

Would you buy a new Christening gown for your baby? MIL just mailed a family Christening gown but enclosed a long list of "do not"s -don't iron it, don't wash it, i'll iron it when i get there, make sure to hang it on special x hanger ASAP, and make sure to return it in same shipping box mailed by x date. not even a thank you or please. plus the neck seems too tiny for the baby (buttons won't close in the back) and it's yellowish-looking. i'm afraid baby spit up will dissolve front part and leave a hole! LOL. Baby is at stage of pulling on clothes and am afraid it would rip. plus MIL disagrees with much of what we do at our house. it's no problem for us to buy a new nice gown we can keep. what would you do? what would you say?

2007-09-25 02:38:24 · 10 answers · asked by Alyse 3

what are some civil ways of letting them know that his son is a grown man and we have a family to take care of . but every year they complian about our kids birthdays and why didnt invite 100 people to the parties or complaining about our parenting. my kids are happy kids. and we are not older parents. i'm 26 and my husband is 31 yrs old. i dont understand any of this. HELP!

2007-09-25 02:36:54 · 16 answers · asked by MamiMe 2

I'm 21 yrs old and this semester i'm a full time student. I'm currently working at my job for 16 hours a week & only making $140. I was just recently kicked out of my father's apartment because he 'thought i broke the washing machine'. i know it sounds insane, but that's because it is. He's a rage-a-holic. I've delt with his temper for 6 mo. now and it's making me really depressed, and even coming in between me and my studies. He makes me cry uncontrolablly on a regular basis, keeping me from wanting to go to class.
So now i'm temporarily living with my mother whom i can't stay with (i was told by her i can't stay).
My dad has given me the choice of going back to his apartment, but deal with his mental abuse.
My other choice is to move with my friend into an apartment and drop all but one of my classes so i have time to work. BUT i'm out $1200 that i payed for tuition. However i wont have to worry about getting kicked out. I will return to school the following semester. Help please.

2007-09-25 02:33:16 · 5 answers · asked by mish kimb0 1

What do you do when the parent / child roles reverse? I feel like I am the parent now and my dad is the child. He is not going to work, hasn't been for at least a month or 2 now. He drinks almost all day long and makes stupid comments about life insurance paying his bills. He thinks it is all a big joke. He has depression and has gone back on his meds but refuses to do anything other than that. Half the time I am not even sure he takes the pills. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't like seeing my dad like this and I hate that he refuses to do anything about it.

2007-09-25 02:21:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

well lets see my mum shouts at me even when i aint done nuffin and its my sister shes a year younger

2007-09-25 02:14:52 · 3 answers · asked by christina h 2

I have been divorced for over 3 years. I told him to contact the kids via the 2 oldest cell phones. They ignore his calls and do not call him back even though I tell them they need to. I do not want him calling me because we are going through some issues regarding child support and every time I talk to him he is controling and manipulating. I tell my younger one to call her dad cause he misses her and she always say no or I will do it tomorrow. He blames me and I am sick of it, he needs to look at himself and where he has prioritized his kids? Has anyone else dealt with this and what should I do?

2007-09-25 02:11:58 · 6 answers · asked by Jessica S 1

recently i had to quit my job and stay home with my husbands mother who has dimentia. she is just 64 years old but her dimentia is pretty bad. she doesn't qualify for a nursing home and assisted living facilitys are just too expensive. she draws a small income every month and with that and my husbands salary it just isn't enough after our living expenses and hers too. is there any kind of financial help or grants for this kind of situation? i live in tennessee. she also has diabetes and she's a 24/7 job.

2007-09-25 02:01:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

She just doesn't seem to comprehend a simple task of just sweeping and then moping the floor. She instead mops first and then wants to sweep a wet floor. (She's 18yrs. old) I'm trying to get her reeady for when she's out on her own but she's as dull as an antique knife; But hand her a cell phone and she knows all the features and gatgets. Help....

2007-09-25 01:49:35 · 5 answers · asked by Ruthy 1

Hello,
I have a family member who is in need of an Intervention. The problem is that our family lives in different locations and it may be difficult to meet with a mediator and arrange schedules in order for all to be involved. I have to admit, I do not know what the procedures are and I was wondering how this could be conducted without a mediator. I am most certain that he will feel betrayed and deny the help. I'm also scared that this may throw him further into his addictions. Any advise on what we should do if he refuses the help?
Thanks in advance to all who have helpful answers!

2007-09-25 01:47:08 · 4 answers · asked by Teresa S 4

2007-09-25 01:43:17 · 17 answers · asked by Ruthy 1

am looking for a website for emotional support on taking care of my aged parents.

2007-09-25 01:14:36 · 2 answers · asked by kittymeow63 2

I'm sick worried, yesterday night my husband went to repair our car, afterward he went with his friends, he told me they were drinking, and usually he comes home early but it's almost 8 and he did'n come, he called me about 3 am and told me he was coming home in 15 min, but hours passed he he did'n show up, whas should i do? Go to the police? Report him missing? Call his friends? What if he had a car accident? What i he was caught by the police cause he was drunk? I'm going crazy, believe me it's not like him not to come home. Help me. what should I do?.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-09-25 01:02:19 · 17 answers · asked by SWEET ME* 3

If a boy gets high honors, doesn't his parent brag to his co-workers that his son has high honors?

2007-09-25 01:00:34 · 13 answers · asked by Nicolas 2

My partner's grandmother is in her eighties and really spiteful. I have never met her.

She hates me (although she's never met me) because I am 11 years old than him. When we met all she did was tell him to dump me, I was too old for him I was a bad influence blah de blah.

She was furious when he did not do as he was told and kept sending him letters referring to me as "that person" and "that woman" and urging him to get rid of me and get a girlfriend of his own age. He begged her to accept his choice of girlfriend and to meet me and give me a chance and she refused. "That woman will never cross my door" she declared.

When she was told I was pregnant she went ballistic and apparently said "I hope she loses it".

When our son was born she was furious (as she was hoping I would lose the baby) and declared she would have nothing to do with him or me.

So our son is 10 months old now and has never seen her. I find it very hurtful. Why is she like this?

2007-09-24 23:52:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

We work together as decorators and he has just been on a nice holiday to Portugal problem is that he has spent my wages from the last job we did.
This unfortunately means that I cannot feed the kids,pay the rent and travel to work to earn some cash. Talk about up the creak without a paddle.

2007-09-24 23:36:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Polls and surveys

2007-09-24 23:27:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok, where do i start...

My step-dad sexually harrases me,
My mom always yells at me,
My real dad wants to take me away,
i have a cyber boyfriend, and i think i am in love,
I'm only 13,
Some of my freinds hate me, and i don't know why,
HELP ME!!!! I have no idea what to do!

2007-09-24 23:23:54 · 5 answers · asked by RockstarHippie(: 1

My mother and father expect too much from me. She doesn't know the meaning of life nor my father and brother. My brother says: ''It would be better if your dad kills you and i should rest in peace, you haven't had a taste of my father's punches." They constantly find fault with me, overexpecting and demanding.

2007-09-24 23:13:50 · 3 answers · asked by Abdulla S 1

2007-09-24 23:00:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

To cut a long story short, I had a rich old relative (my great aunt) who died about 5 years ago - my father (her nephew) (who had power of attourney) I pressume wangled it so he kept all her money for himself. She had no other family & she was a millionaire.
There were however, three diamond rings which she said were meant to be given to my 2 sisters & me -one each (or to sell them & split the money equally.) It was her wish.
I have asked my parents many times about it, but have always been fobbed off with a non-answer. (your too young, we forgotten where we put them, etc - I'm 26 now)
One of my sisters has 3 kids, & I recently heard that my mother has promised the three rings to them. They were not hers to give & my deceased great aunt never even knew them.

I am going to confront my mother about it today & I just want peoples advice or opinions on what I should say or do.

2007-09-24 22:20:16 · 18 answers · asked by Meeeee! 5

heres the deal, our family moved from california to texas a couple years ago, and i stayed in texas for 6 months before i left. the reason i left was because i had no social life or friends and i miss my friends in cali dearly, along with my social life. So i moved, and a year passed by and i moved back to texas, due to conversations on the phone of how they werent doing so well. but coming back i saw my dad not working cause he cant find a job that pays as well as his last, which lead to no work for 1 year leaving my mom to provide for a year or more. that upsets me, and im stuck with no social life now also along with family arguments with me and my dad, or my mom and my dad, i want to move back craving for a life again. but my parents cry and beg me to stay... i can support myself enough on my own i am 20. i plan to go to college onmy own if i go back etc. i am financial stable to live on my own just enough. what should do i do ?please reply thnx

2007-09-24 19:45:13 · 4 answers · asked by Venus_Infers543 1

my sister barrows my car without my permission alot and never calls or comes by to take me to work i have been walking to work for a while now and cannot seem to get my car back from her she keeps throwing fits or holds stuff over my head she has 4 kids and single she has no job and lives on welfare i help her out so much and never get anything in return she is know holding my car as ransom and wont let me get it back. I fear to call the police cause i love her kids and it is stressing em out and hurting my career I dont know what to do. Help Me!

2007-09-24 19:24:40 · 9 answers · asked by brezon123 1

im 24 yrs old now. i started working and living by myself when i was 19, i dropped out of school. cos i couldnt handle working fulltime and going to school fulltime. i havent talked to them for the past 5yrs never got any money , no help etc, but i have been jobless now for the past 4 months... now i am broke, can barely put food on the table......i dont know wat to do...i want to ask my mum for money...but i dont know if this is appropriate since i havent talk to them for so many years......

i dont even know how their reaction would be....its been so many years.........

2007-09-24 19:16:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous