I am very upset that my mother has told lies about me to my four sisters. They treat me differently as a result. The worst one she told was that I had an abortion when I really had a hymenectomy. Very embarrassing and humiliating. The other was that I did not want my daughter when my husband and I were actively trying to conceive. Then last month I shocked my visiting sisters when I told them I was pregnant again and they could not understand my joy. She told them I wanted no more children. On top of these lies she tells them I take drugs (never have) and countless other embarrassing things.. Should I have anything to do with this mother who has ruined my relationship with my siblings?.
2007-09-25 03:39:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She just lies. My sisters have told me and I know it is true because she tells all kinds of lies about them. She seems to think she needs to make up horrible stories about her children for ppl to listen to her. It is like her entertainment.
2007-09-25 03:47:15 · update #1
Talk to your sisters about it first. Perhaps, if you can make them understand the situation, they can back you up with Mom. The reason your mother keeps spouting off these lies is because people are listening. If you can convince your sisters to turn a deaf ear, it might help to quell the situation. In addition, I would have a sit down with Mom and tell her how much this hurts you and how upset you are that the relationship between you and your sisters is strained. No mother likes to see their child in pain, and she may relent if you confront her directly.
2007-09-25 03:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize with you. I have a similar problem with my Mom. it has gotten so bad in the past month, that I am seriously thinking about sending a letter to all my so called family telling them I no linger want anything to do with them. If your mother is elderly she may have a mental problem. My only advise is if you confront her about her lies, make sure you have your sisters with you so she can't lie about what you tell her. Good luck
2007-09-25 11:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by tictak kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change your mother. find the right time and be composed when you speak to her regarding your feelings on what's happening. pray for the right and wisdom so that God will pave the way for a reconciliation.
i see your mom to be an insecure person. maybe you can shower her with attention, affection and small tokens. i am pretty sure she will caught off guard if you have not been doing it before
2007-09-26 18:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by sandra y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get together with all of them ,then bring up the things she has said. ask her why she wants to lie about you and make her sisters think poorly about you. then tell them the truth from step one,with them all in the room. then look at your mother and tell her that you are done with her until she can start telling the truth.
2007-09-25 10:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your mom & your sisters & then confront her with this
& do it in front of everyone
ask her what is that she wants from you & why is she doing this to you
maybe its her habited to talk bad about everyone beyond their back
2007-09-25 10:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront your mom about it. Ask her why.
2007-09-25 10:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋