How do I convince my 14 year old highschool daughter that she does not have to have a boyfriend all the time? She thinks that when she breaks up with a boy that she needs to get another one asap! She is beautiful, very athletic in scoccer, volleyball and basketball. She always makes the team when she tries out at school. She is always an honor roll student and loves school. She loves our church, she never misses and is on the drama team and dance team at church. She is always the first to volunteen to help in her youth group. But, she feels incomplete without someone to call her boyfriend even though she is not allowed to go out on dates (just talk on the phone). Maybe I'm just being silly and this is normal and I should not worry.
2007-09-25 02:57:58 · 14 answers · asked by Alliance Kicks Horde Butt 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a mom, I understand where you are coming from. I think your daughter is trying very hard to fit in, be like everyone else. But as a mom, you feel as if her life is complete as it is and she shouldn't define her happiness with a boyfriend. I agree, and I know that you want your daughter to feel that she is worthy and wonderful without a boy constantly at her side. Just continue to support and love her, and she will eventually see this for herself.
2007-10-03 01:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi....
Your daughter sounds like a very active person, who is involved with sports, church and extra activities at school... and she also an honor role student, which is great!
I suppose I'd worry if she were failing in school and depressed and bored.... and clung to her boyfriend all of the time, depending on him for fulfillment.
Your daughter seems well-rounded... and that is marvelous.
I dont know why she thinks she always has to have a boyfriend, but it hasn't seemed to have affected her life in a negative way.
You must be a really fantastic parent, too! take care.
2007-09-25 03:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. It's how teenage girls "play house." Remember when she was 6 and she had dolls and doll houses and pretended she was the mommy and life was great? She's doing kind of the same thing, playing a role. You hit it on the head when you said she feels incomplete without a "boyfriend." She has it all going for her, sports, grades, religion, but she feels she needs that male in her life to feel complete.
She's normal. And you're normal to wonder! It's a popularity contest in schools too.... remember? She'll find out that it's HER and her charisma, charm, beauty, intelligence and positive attitude that REALLY makes her popular, not the boys.
2007-09-25 03:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like that despite all of her beauty and talent, she's insecure or needs some self-confidence. While I think that's pretty normal for a 14-yr old, I fully understand your concern. I wish that when I was her age, someone told me that it was okay to not have a boyfriend, or to walk away from friends that aren't really good friends. If she isn't allowed to go out on dates and just talks on the phone, maybe you shouldn't worry. Or, maybe you should try to get her to focus on just being "friends" with a guy. Good luck.
2007-10-03 01:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very lucky that you have such a wonderful teenage daughter!!! I dont think that the boyfriend thing is a big deal at all shes just seeing what is out there for right now. She will figure it out on her own...she not doing anything bad. Good Luck and I'm sure everything will be fine!
2007-09-25 03:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Girly Girl 83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 08:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a best friend just like that..
The sad thing is..she always thinks she needs a boyfriend..and now she settled for one who isnt the greatest christian and doesnt have the best standards..you should tell your daughter to look for the VERY best :)..after all the only reason to date anyone is to find a mate ..am i right?
2007-09-25 03:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is at that stage in her life where she wants to feel like someone besides her parents love her....and having a boyfriend is more of a status symbol...just to kind of say that you have one...type deal for most people..she should be fine but if she starts neglecting other obligations...that is when I would step in....
2007-09-25 03:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by durtyboyz2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are blessed with a very admirable daughter. All girls her age want to have a boy friend. You should thank your lucky stars that you have such a daughter.
2007-10-01 04:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me she is a very responsible person maybe you should learn to give her a little space.being worried is natural but sounds like you are doing a great job as a parent.
2007-09-30 06:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by silverfox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋