my sister barrows my car without my permission alot and never calls or comes by to take me to work i have been walking to work for a while now and cannot seem to get my car back from her she keeps throwing fits or holds stuff over my head she has 4 kids and single she has no job and lives on welfare i help her out so much and never get anything in return she is know holding my car as ransom and wont let me get it back. I fear to call the police cause i love her kids and it is stressing em out and hurting my career I dont know what to do. Help Me!
2007-09-24 19:24:40 · 9 answers · asked by brezon123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i let her barrow it one day and she thinks it became hers, i paid her electric bill for her once and i closed my account cause she made me made and it got charged back and disconnedcted the electricity on her house is what she holding on me
2007-09-24 19:40:11 · update #1
The best thing I can tell you is to call the police. You said that you have tried to tell her you would like your car back. So what you do is you babysit for her one day. Or you tell her you would like to watch the kids for her and give her a break. Have your mom or a friend that is close to the family watch the children for you. While the children are being tended to you call the police. Now of course you don't do this infront of the children. Then you meet the police at her home. Or call your car in stolen and then get it back that way. But I have had the same situation you are in. Our family tends to take advantage of the ones that help them the most. I know you love your sister but you have to let her fall on her @ss if you know what I mean. Some times people must hit rock bottom before they can become successful. I recommend you do one of the following I state above. Just do this with respect also; don't let the kids know what is going on and keep them out of it! I hope this helps you. Good luck and I will pray all goes well!
2007-09-24 19:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, do have a a spare? if not, that sucks because getting your car back won't happen anytime soon. What I would do is go to the local dealer and request them to make a copy of your key and then go where your car is and take it back.
There is a huge problem with boundaries here--- your sister obviously has none and respects none. It's your job to enforce your own boundaries and let her know that her behavior is highly unacceptable. Not to mention she also has 4 children who she doesn't seem to be caring for well.
I wouldn't go so far as to call social services, but what I *would* do after getting the car back is make it clear she cannot use it anymore. Store it into the garage and lock the garage so she can't get to it. And if she does, do call the police and explain to them what happens. If you don't slap boundaries in her face, child protection may.
You help her and get nothing in return-- that is not fair in a relationship, especially siblings. I have a sister also who likes to take advantage and well-- I slap boundaries in her face. When she tries to take things away from me, I put a lock on my door. When she tried to get me to do things for her, I said no.
If you love her, you will also need to allow her to learn hard lessons on her own.
2007-09-24 19:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymousgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for the children and she isn't setting a good example to them by taking something that belongs to someone else. That is stealing. However, I see how you feel about the kids but the same question is, when is your sister going to stop? She is living off the system, living off you and basically living off the kids. If she didn't have those kids she wouldn't get jack squat from the state. If you know where your sister lives, why don't you go get your car. Don't you have a set of keys? If not, then it will boil down to ground 0, get the police.
2007-09-25 03:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is she getting your car?Did you give her a set of keys?What does she have on you that she is able to hold it over your head?I would go to her house for a visit and find those keys and take them.Then I would make some rules up for her to follow if she ever wants your help again.If shes not working and is on welfare,then she doesn't need a car that much.Time to cut her off.I know your worried about the kids,but you can keep an eye on them,to make sure they are getting what they need.
2007-09-24 19:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by cog1233 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go over there and get your car! single mom welfare whatever ....she's an adult and should know that taking someones car is just plain wrong! if you want to stay playing the weak role she will continue to do what she does. you need to man up and let that girl know that you will not take that kind of behavior and will call the police if she does not give you your ride back. maybe that will teach her a lesson! your being wayyyy too kind hearted i know shes your sister but enough is enough..sister or no sister.
2007-09-24 19:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by So Confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and get your car back. Sister or not, she has no right to treat you that way!!!
2007-09-24 19:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her ****.
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or unless you don't want to hurt her, beat her to your car and put some kind of lock on it where you can only drive it.
x3
Or something I don't know.
or maybe confront her about her "Problem"
Ooo!
I know,
Call doctor Phil!
2007-09-24 19:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by nunya b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get your car tell her to get a job and a life
2007-09-24 23:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a social worker she can't be that great of a mother with that tude
2007-09-24 19:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋