My future MIL recently insinuated to my fiance that I am a gold digger, raping him for money...and I am livid. Because of his poor credit, everything we own is in my name and I have had to put my credit on the line for everything we have. She is angry that I refused to co-sign a car loan for him in addition to everything else I've done.
I am furious at her for these accusations, and irked at my fiance for not being more firm in my defense.
There is a going away party for my future brother in law this Saturday, which my fiance and I planned to attend with my MIL. I am so offended by her misinformed accusations, that I feel that attending the party would not be a good idea...lest I lose my self control and tell her how I really feel.
Would it be extremely rude of me to skip the party? I don't want to cause more conflict.
2007-09-25 03:17:09 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is an old saying....
A son is a son until he takes a wife... a daughter is a daughter all of her life....
I think it's time your fiance starts learning how to stand up & be a man. If he doesn't take a stand now, she will always try to be in the middle. Good luck...
BTW..... I wouldn't let her keep me from attending the party. Go, remember to always be a lady & smile...... In doing that, you will come out the winner...
2007-09-25 05:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Susan W 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would first talk to your fiance about how he needs to set his mother straight - that you are not a gold digger and that you just don't want to be a part of the car loan. He needs to start standing up for you now that you will be his wife. Then go to the party.. try not to let your MIL get to you - that's what she wants! Just have fun talking to anyone that is friendly to you.
2007-09-25 03:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by dream_fairy55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate that your MIL insinuated that to your fiance BUT don't skip the party, that might cause more turmoil between you and your MIL. Be the bigger person and go to the party. YOU know that you're not a gold digger and that's all that should matter.
2007-09-25 03:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It would not be extremely rude. You can explain to your future BIL that you will not be attending but you would like to buy him dinner before he goes for your private farewell. You don't have to tell him why you aren't going, but he might already know. Then let your husband be the one to tell his mother or anyone else. It's important that your husband deal with his mother, not you.
It does no good to take a stand against your inlaws unless your husband/finance is visably supportive of your stance.
2007-09-25 07:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first three people...but in addition to that you said that you guys would be attending the party WITH her??
If that is correct, then attend the party separately and try to avoid her.
2007-09-25 03:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow How the hell does she think that your a gold digger when your credits on the line? talk to your bf and maybe then you guys could tell her that your not a gold digger if she doesn't stop then at least you and your bf know that your not what she says you are
2007-09-25 03:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by cold skiing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is your fiance pitting you and his mother against each other? If you were getting along there would be no distance games for him to play in the first place.
Your BIL is the innocent in this situation.
2007-09-25 08:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be rude to not attend
You have to ask yourself who is the bigger person
you or Them
and why is their opinion so valuable
remember you can choose how you feel no one can make you feel so you have decided that this person view is true but your saying it's not
so who are you going to believe them or you
2007-09-25 03:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no go to the party & from now on stay away from your m-i-l
talk to your fiance about this & he should defense you
just keep ignoreing her for the rest of your life
2007-09-25 03:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋