Hello,
I have a family member who is in need of an Intervention. The problem is that our family lives in different locations and it may be difficult to meet with a mediator and arrange schedules in order for all to be involved. I have to admit, I do not know what the procedures are and I was wondering how this could be conducted without a mediator. I am most certain that he will feel betrayed and deny the help. I'm also scared that this may throw him further into his addictions. Any advise on what we should do if he refuses the help?
Thanks in advance to all who have helpful answers!
2007-09-25 01:47:08 · 4 answers · asked by Teresa S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think working with a mediator is your best bet. He is less likely to throw a fit in front of a perfect stranger than in front of his friends and family. If, however, this is not possible, than be the mediator yourself. Call a local addiction treatment center and tell them what you are doing. They can provide you with advice on the best way to proceed.
2007-09-25 01:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but interventions are hard to work out, as the person needing the intervention will only get better with help if he chooses to get the help. Having the help (intervention) thrown on him isn't going to mean much - he isn't thinking clearly, so will not see you are trying to help him out. He will probably only become defensive. It's hard to say if he will go further into his addiction BECAUSE of the intervention, but chances are, this intervention won't help.
You may want to try talking to him one-on-one (if you can catch him when he's not strung out) or write him a letter - explain that you care and want to help. Provide numbers and addresses of places he can go to get the help he needs. Tell him you will assist him in finding the help he needs. If you really want to get him mad, you could call the cops on him (hopefully they could take him to detox). But he will be very angry, and may not want to talk to you.
But the choice is yours. If you choose to go through with an intervention, then you really need a mediator there - someone who will be on his side - if it's just family, he'll see that as everyone going against him, which will just blow your care and help away in his mind.
Good luck.
2007-09-25 09:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These fears you have are exactly why you NEED a trained moderator. The risks of doing this wrong are too large. If you don't have a professonal there and something happens and he blows up and refuses help there's really nothing you can do. He has to want to do it. Good luck.
2007-09-25 09:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle118 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe someone from narcotics anonymous can help? they have a website which give phone numbers and meeting locations throughout the country.
2007-09-25 08:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋