recently i had to quit my job and stay home with my husbands mother who has dimentia. she is just 64 years old but her dimentia is pretty bad. she doesn't qualify for a nursing home and assisted living facilitys are just too expensive. she draws a small income every month and with that and my husbands salary it just isn't enough after our living expenses and hers too. is there any kind of financial help or grants for this kind of situation? i live in tennessee. she also has diabetes and she's a 24/7 job.
2007-09-25 02:01:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she has one other son who doesn't have much to do with her. he's better than everybody if you know what i mean! she has no assets or no home to sell either.
2007-09-25 03:21:35 · update #1
To my knowledge, there is no financial assistance for this situation. She does not have any money in the bank, stocks, etc. that you can use? Did she have a house you can sell or anything like that?
I completely understand how you feel. My parents have been dealing with my grandmother for a long time, and only recently put her in a nursing home. I suggest that you try to find a support group. You are going to need all the support you can get! This is a very difficult situation, I know, but make sure to take time out for yourself every now and then. Take a bubble bath, buy some flowers, and find a babysitter for her so you and your husband can still spend time together alone. There are qualified people out there to help babysit her for a short time. Also, if your husband has siblings, make SURE they are helping you bear the load!
Best of luck to you and your family. Know that there are other people in your situation, and remember to take care of yourself in this process.
2007-09-25 02:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi -- you could check with the department of human and family services in your area (welfare).... many elderly people need help with living arrangements and perhaps this would be a good place to start.
Also, retirement communities and nursing homes have social workers who have all the resources and knowledge about grants and what help might be available to those elderly with limited incomes.
Perhaps the welfare office would supplement your mother in law's income with food stamps or some sort of heating assistance program, etc?
take care and i wish you all the best. sad to hear your mother in law is so ill...
2007-09-25 02:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with your state - some states will pay you as a caretaker - I think you'd need proof/documentation that she is a 24/7 job and she cannot pay for a facility or other round-the-clock care. I think WI does this, so it is worth a try. Start by talking with her doctors - perhaps they can recommend something.
2007-09-25 02:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in Tenn. my granny was put in a home and i had to do it... who ever told u she cant live in a nursing home is full of it. she might need to be put on a waiting list but she can go in there.... as for affording it... my granny got social sec check every month. they went by her income.. i had to go through D.H.S and the state paid the difference... i had to fill out forms every year to keep her in there... i would try a different nursing home...also talk to her Dr and see what he recommends. tell him shes just getting to hard to care for by yourself. but your 1st step is to get her on a waiting list at a nursing home... if shes dimentia then she cant work. so go talk to D.H.S... i went through the nursing home and they set me up with D.H.S... GOOD LUCK
YOU DONT HAVE TO SELL HER HOME.... but you might need to make sure she dont have any other assets in her name
2007-09-25 02:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋