Family - May 2007

Ok, here is the problem. My sister has a son who is 12 years old. He never has had any sort of contact with his dad, and his moms life has been chaotic to say the least. Anyways, he has never had a real male role model in his life, except for his grandpa. My sister is on her 3rd man who is also the father of her 3rd child. Her boyfriend, is a real dick. He treats his son well but treats the 12 year old like CRAP. So anyways, this 12 year old has behavioural problems, was diagnosed with ADHD etc. He is like this because his mom will stick by whatever her stupid boyfriend says/does. She is a crappy parent to him. A few months ago she decided that she no longer wants to deal with her son and sent him to live with my parents, who are 65 and 58 years old. They of course took him in, but they are exhausted from taking care of him, plus they both work full time. Do you think it is wrong of me to tell my sister to get her act together and take her kid home on the weekends?Thanks

2007-05-07 09:58:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother-in-law past away about 3 years ago and my wife is tired of always going to my mom's house for Mother's Day. She decided this year that she wants to do something different and that includes not going to my mom's house on Mother's Day. I was thinking of having mom over the day before so I can spend it with my wife on Sunday. What do you guys think?

2007-05-07 09:07:20 · 15 answers · asked by P Dilla 2

2007-05-07 08:42:56 · 9 answers · asked by Yomy 1

When I was 14 I got and messed up. For some months I gave my parents a hard time. I wasn't being myself. They decided to punish me harshly. I truly regretted and decided to change, but they were unforgiving. I lost their trust, so I got devastated, asked for forgiveness but they didn't accept. For 4 months I suffered a alot, did my best to regain their trust, but nothing. My gradeds dropped, I got into a deep depression. My grandma helped me and my parents agreed I spend some time with her. She gave me love and trust, what I needed most and y life changed completely! I was happy w/ her,never got in any trouble, volunteered for social activities, found myself again. Today I'm 20, graduating in Medicine. My grandma passed away, but left me an apartment and assets. I'm doing great and haven't seen my parents for 2 years. Now they desperately want me back. But they were so cruel, couldn't understand a 14 yo girl, tortured me emotionally that I simply cant see them.

2007-05-07 07:56:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-07 07:44:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

CHILDREN ARE TO BE SEEN AND NOT HEARD?DAILY?mine did,I haven't shut up since.

2007-05-07 06:52:13 · 4 answers · asked by FYIIM1KO 5

My mom and I are really good friends. She's great and has always been there for me. But, I'm wondering what the mother/daughter, mother/son relationship is like for others?

2007-05-07 06:31:46 · 10 answers · asked by socmum16 ♪ 5

I come from a pretty family, where I'm the ugly duckling becuase of my nose. Everybody else has straight or ski jump noses, wheras I have a bent nose with a hump,not same-sized nostrils, and tip bump. I think I would look so much better after a nose job and feel better, but my family thinks its a waste of money and superfical. I'm trying to save money but even my friends(all with small ski jump noses BTW) think I could use the money on something better. How can I show them that they don't know what it's like to have a big bent nose and that You only live once and I would sure like to live with a nose I love!?

2007-05-07 06:13:29 · 10 answers · asked by hotcute36candme 1

My Grandfather is pretty well off and has EVERYTHING. So what should I get him for fathers day? I have already done pictures and albums of me and my hubby and 3 kids. He lives at the oppisite end of the state so I have to beable to send it. I want it to be special and just not some card.
Any ideas are appriciated!!
Oh and I am not rich, actually I am a full time student and kinda strapped for money. So nothing over like $50.

2007-05-07 06:09:03 · 12 answers · asked by Megz 2

how does it feel to be a teenager

2007-05-07 06:02:37 · 53 answers · asked by amna s 1

My parents are great people, they buy my food, let me stay here for free, and pay for the gas when I drive places (no, don't have my own car) but they drive me crazy because they are a lot more religious than I am. I'm 19 - should I move out?

2007-05-07 06:02:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 18 yrs old turning 19 in August. I've been Engaged for a while. I've decided to leave my house and move in with my Fiance. We have already found an apartment where we're going to live together. My family has always told me that if I do something and my Father has an heart attack it's only going to be my fault!! My mother tells me that if I leave my father will suffer and will die!! The only thing that I want is to live my life and be happy! Why I am feeling like I'm doing something horrible! Now I'm scared of leaving because of what My parents, my family are going to say. But it's my life I should be able to do what I want! The sad thing is that my parents and family won't be at my wedding only my closes friends. It hurts so much. I love my fiance and he makes me sooo happy! He treats me soooo goood with respect all the time! Should I let this guilt take over my plans! This gulit that my Mother has planted inside of me!!!

2007-05-07 06:00:10 · 7 answers · asked by You Reap What You Sow! 1

My Sister and my Mom are both very upset with my husband. This last Saturday we shared a birthday party for my sisters stepchild 4 and my son who just turned 2. They have a pool, so it was a pool party. (my son can't swim, he also gets terrified with others in the pool) They had a pinata and a bounce house. Well, my son loved the bounce house. Earlier in the day, my sister offered to watch our son so we could eat. During that time my son was left alone w out telling us as another adult let him out back to where the pool was with no one outside. husband looked up at that time and made it to our son before any problems. my husband told me in front of my mom that my sister would never watch our son again. He was a little bitter and moody the rest of the party. My Mom told me she would talk to my husband later about his behavior. Later that night my sister calls upset about comments. I told both of them to talk it over themselves I am 8 months preg. do not need stress. What to do

2007-05-07 05:59:00 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous

she cries when asked to do simple things like clean up or go to bed,she'd mean to me, her father and mostly big brother. At night, she have dreams of fussing at someone and or doing things with her hands like she's holding something. im at the breaking point and loose my temper easly and sometimes regret having her. I lover her dearly but i need help!

2007-05-07 04:54:02 · 13 answers · asked by DIONNE J 1

Actually i do nt care much what they said of me,but sometimes its plain stupid and hurting.My aunties and cousins are all religious,ok,they are islam n their daughter wear the scarf while i don't.My cousin once say that i'm a bimbo,and just because i don't wear the scarf and live my life just like any other teenage girl,have freedom and love life,my aunties sometimes looked down on me,like saying the clothes i wear are sexy and beautiful(pls,i don't even wear revealing clothes!!),when i know she's trying to insult me.And my uncle once told me that i'm going to take hours chopping up the vegetables(i was helping my cousin in e kitchen),and when he said that,i could tell in his voice that he thinks i've never done any kitchen work when i have.and plus,i do not like to cook,and my cousin knows some cooking,so i'm sure they all think i'm just a pretty face but good for nothing,have any of you felt this way??

2007-05-07 04:25:52 · 10 answers · asked by rose etoiles 3

my birth certificate currently does not have a fathers name on it.

2007-05-07 03:24:26 · 2 answers · asked by bear-lover 1

She keeps putting me down cussing at me and when i try to tell her how i feel about things she gets pissed and goes off on me. I am scared to death of her nad my step-dad becuause of things they have done to me and i dont know what to do. Help?

2007-05-07 03:05:04 · 5 answers · asked by Nessa 2

Here's my situation, my sister had a baby in Febuary, he is going to be 3 months. She hardly is ever with the baby. They both live with me. She is in and out all day everyday, she does not pay attention to him when she is home. The father of her baby is not in his right of mind right now, he is recovering from a liver transplant. My husband and I want to adopt him, since his parents are not really around, how can we go about doing this?

2007-05-07 02:19:51 · 3 answers · asked by Chula~Latina 1

My husband and I spent the weekend with his parents, and he went off to work already, but I am still here... Last night about 2am the power went off, and so all of the alarm clocks in the house are not set to alarm anymore... His mother is a teacher, and she needs to be up early (I just don't know when, exactly!!) It's almost 6am, and I know I've been over here before around 6:30 am and she's already left for work. Should I risk going in and waking her up and explaining about the alarm clocks? Or maybe she woke up in the middle of the night and seen it and corrected the problem? Then maybe she'll be mad at me for waking her too early! lol. What do I do??

2007-05-07 01:49:01 · 16 answers · asked by D425 1

my sister who died was 31 when she died we were never able to communicate with her when she was alive can you tell me why she really died and what happened

2007-05-07 00:01:56 · 3 answers · asked by jackie n 3

My husbands son, who is living with us called his mother in California and asked her to move out here to Oklahoma to take care of his son. She devorced her husband of several years and packed every thing she owned into a uhaul and moved here. The son lived with us, so now, she lives with us. My husband and I have moved out of the house, and into our motor home in the back yard, so she could have the house with her kids. I have no idea what to do about this situation. What do you think? Now she wants my daughter to call her mom number 2. I don't think so. I am having a hard time with this, but trying to make it work for her kids.

2007-05-06 23:49:24 · 23 answers · asked by Janet R 1

my brother marrie a gal without our notice even after our rejection of that gal, she is too selfish and she forced my brother to leave house with our sick mom even she cannot walk as she is too week and sick , i m married and i have 5 year baby i cant daily come to lookafter her can u tell me what can i do for my mom and what she should do for my brother, there is no one at home now with my mom to take care of her

2007-05-06 18:37:28 · 12 answers · asked by navkirat k 1

I get above average grades, and i'm a model daughter, but my parents won't accept my gothic look and my love to draw...How can I get my parents to accept me?

2007-05-06 17:54:07 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I did everything I could while raising my 3 children. Now that they are adults, they only call me when they have a concern or problem. I call my youngest son on his cell phone, but rarely does he return my calls. Yet, when he is having problems, I can listen for however long it takes to help him. I'm hurt by this and wonder what I can do to remedy the problem. My husband says to use tough love, however, he is their stepfather and they sometimes feel he is behind things. So, I'm caught in the middle...what advice would you give me so that I no longer am hurt by my kids lack of concern?

2007-05-06 16:26:56 · 8 answers · asked by lsah1852 3

My brother lives about 1 hour from my daughter. She is 15 and her dad has sole physical and legal custody of her. Her Dad moved due to job reasons and her grandmother is helping to take care of her.

My daughter's birthday was yesterday. My brother and his family called to wish her a happy birthday and she spoke with them for about 2 hours.

Now my brother called my mom and told her what they discussed during the phone conversation. I know that if I ask my brother anything he will say that its between the two of you. My brother does not want to get involved in my business, but yet he tells my mom what my daughter said.

My daughter is upset with me because I went to stay with her and left in the middle of the day without letting her know. I live in another state. I know I was wrong and tell myself each day how much I hate myself and should be punished.

I don't know how to handle my brother though. He does not want to tell me anything. He pushes me away also.

2007-05-06 16:22:26 · 2 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

for example, if the dad doesn't want anything to do with the mom or the child, can he sign over parental rights without the mother's permission?? how does that process work?? websites anyone?? this is for the state of california.. thanks!!

2007-05-06 15:58:21 · 6 answers · asked by idgaf 5

It is a non-sexual relationship, she would stay in school. Any problems?

2007-05-06 15:51:12 · 4 answers · asked by Devin S 2

I caught my sister who's 2 years younger than me (She's 9) And she was wearing nothing on the couch and she was exploring herself. She was licking herself ^ and she's been getting sick alot is this why? Or does she get sick because she eats her boogers? (I know :xD)

2007-05-06 14:56:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother does not like my boyfriend of 3 years. She claims that he doesn't do all the things a "good" boyfriend would do; like help take my car to the mechanic or help me move out of my apartment. Those things don't bother me. I'm an independent, college educated women in my 20's, I can do most of those things on my own. Plus. my boyfriend works about 50 hours a week and is the head boss at his company. He's a busy guy.

My mother doesn't have the best track record either. Her and my father are divorced and she dates, but is never successful in her relationships. She is somewhat old fashioned in her approach to dating. Thinks Saturday night is exclusively date night. If a someone she's dating, does not spend Saturday night with her, she gets upset and claims they don't care enough. If I decide to go out w/ friends on Saturday night, that's fine; but, if my boyfriend does the same, he's automatically is a jerk that doesn't care about me. Double Standards.

2007-05-06 14:56:46 · 4 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5

Mom is alot of fun and really great but I think she went to far with this young guy ..Shes is 57 and hes 37. I want her to be happy but this is sooo wrong. isn't it?

2007-05-06 14:49:10 · 8 answers · asked by AngelwingsFL 2