My mother-in-law past away about 3 years ago and my wife is tired of always going to my mom's house for Mother's Day. She decided this year that she wants to do something different and that includes not going to my mom's house on Mother's Day. I was thinking of having mom over the day before so I can spend it with my wife on Sunday. What do you guys think?
2007-05-07 09:07:20 · 15 answers · asked by P Dilla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would ask your wife if you could go take your mom out for breakfast and let her sleep in that morning, that you'd be home by 11am and have the day planned to do something with your wife from that point on. Let her relax a little in the morning (if you have kids, take them to breakfast with grandma). That way you get to be with both of your women and the bulk of your time is with your wife.
2007-05-07 09:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by sassinya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good idea. You're so sweet though... I wish I had a man who could come up with such clever ideas about mother's day. My first mother's day present was a laundry basket. I divorced the man after more years of disappointment.
Don't forget to let your mum know that you;re also planning to do something special with your wife on Sunday, so hopefully she'd understand and would not feel left out.
Good luck!! Your wife is a very lucky woman!!
2007-05-07 16:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by like-it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should kind of make your wife shine. If you don't celebrate with her, then who will she celebrate it with?? Your mom have you and many others. I'm not saying forget about your mom, I'm saying spend most of the time with her making sure she knows that you care. If she wants to do something different inlcuding not going over to your mom's, it means she wants time for you and her. Be understanding, otherwise she will be upset thinking that you don't see her as the mother of your children. Your wife is your first priority, the same as you are her first priority. After spending time with her alone, spend time with the whole family somewhere instead of your mom's place, like a family restaurant.
2007-05-07 17:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by yummy_you20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this day be your wife's day. Your mom got every Mother's Day while you were growing up - now it's your wife's turn. Your mom should understand this. You can have your mom over the day before if you wish, but I really think it's important to save Sunday for the mother of your children, not the mother of you.
2007-05-07 16:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a good idea - nothing wrong with extending mothers day if you've got more than one person you need to spend it with!
Maybe you could do lunch with your mom and then dinner with your wife! Or suggest taking them both out to lunch/dinner together? Lots of options! My sister's husband usually splits the day up or into two I think so that she can see her mum and spend time with him.
Chalice
2007-05-07 16:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Chalice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading other posters' responses, I don't know. It's true that you're mother had many past mother's days, but she is still your mother. Could you do something with your wife in the morning and then do something as a family (you, your wife, your mother and kids) in the afternoon?
2007-05-07 16:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by methodistbambina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife should rethink a little and remember that even though her mom is resting in peace- YOU DO HAVE A MOM- and its only fare that you share that special day with both of them. I'm a mom , wife and mother in law and I would feel very hurt if my son put me aside on this special day.
Have a good one -:-)
2007-05-07 16:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you should go to your Moms. Your wife is not your mother. She is your kids mother. My husband keeps asking me what I want for Mothers day, and I keep telling him get something for his Mom. I am not his mom. I would just love for him and my daughter to make me a card.That would be nice. Good luck.
2007-05-07 18:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by Heather D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very nice of you to be thinking of BOTH your mom and your wife!
I agree with other answers....Perhaps inviting both to lunch, and giving your mom a little present would be nice. And in the evening, have a wonderful, special evening with your wife!
Good luck!
2007-05-07 16:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father always made a morning trip to his mother's house and gave her her present and spent a little time with her. Then, after lunch, he came home and spent the rest of the day with my mom. He always took her out to dinner that night.
Good luck! :)
2007-05-07 16:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋